Change Revisited | DFS 264

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi. And today I want to talk about change

revisited. Change revisited. Last week, we had Dr. Salah on

the show. And she was talking about diversity and action, she

is creating a global movement. Now I've worked with several

coaches, and they've asked me, What's your mission? What

movement Do you want to create? I'm not that clear just yet. But

what I do know is that many of us think that we have an open

mind. Any of you on here ever watched, all in the family with

Archie Bunker? He was the epitome of a fixed mindset. This

is the way it's always been. This is way it's going to be.

You think you have an open mindset. But do you? I think I

have an open mindset. But do I? These are questions that we have

to ask ourselves on a regular basis. So we can figure out

where we are in the world. And if we want to be here. I've had

conversations with people and it went kind of like this. I don't

know why we need to change. We're just changing for the sake

of change. Typically, not. Typically, not typically,

there's a catalyst for why we are changing why something is

happening. But we don't always understand the why we don't ask

the right questions of the right people to get the answer. So

with an open mind, as soon as somebody says something is going

to change, I don't care if you saw it on the news on social

media at work, your boss said there's going to be a change.

You heard it at lunch, people talking behind you saying

something about a change was coming. What is your initial gut

reaction? What's your gut reaction? There are some people

who really and truly embrace change. They embrace it, they're

like, Great, let's throw everything away and start over,

you know, this people, they're very creative. They have very

open minds. I had someone explained it to me one time she

goes, I have a great idea that everybody needs to build a new

monster. Like, as soon as something comes up this

something's not working right, and we need to change, I am

ready to build the monster. And then she walks away, because

she's not very detailed. She's not gonna build it, you know, to

everybody else to build it. There are other people on the

other end of the spectrum that say, No, absolutely not. They

are total and complete rule followers, we are not going to

make any changes, we need to consider all of the

ramifications, we're not going to do it. Then you have the

people in the middle. And the people in the middle can fall on

either side of that. Also, one group in the middle are like I

love the idea that you want to change everything. But let's

just wait out a little bit. There's the other side that says

yes, I'm totally opposed to this change. Maybe we can look at it

as a possibility. We all have our natural responses to change.

And I'm actually a certified change style indicator

facilitator facilitator. And we can actually take a test and see

where we fall on that spectrum. Are we originator? A are, oh,

wait, oh no, I just drew a blank on when it's called originator

pragmatist or something else that means I'm rigid in the

rules, I just you're a blank. And we can see where people fall

on the spectrum. And the thing is, you're everything. You are

everything and you should not get in a fixed mindset that I'm

this way or that way because you're all of it depending on

the situation, the circumstances and how the information is

presented. But are you operating in today's world with a much

more fixed mindset or not? I like to equate it to I don't

want to go back to a big chief tamp tablet in and number two

pencil. Number one I write a whole lot better with a little

bit narrower lines. I like the college rule spiral notebooks

FYI. Also, I don't really like a number two pencil I like a

number three because I hold a pencil like I'm hanging on for

dear life. And if I have a number two I smoosh it. So I

need a number three, it's a little bit harder and it can

hold up to my aggressive holding of that pencil. I don't want it.

I don't want to go back to the days Were we had humongous

laptops that were so heavy. Oh, better yet, I don't want to go

back to those big old towers that were under the desk that

you kept kicking all the time. Yeah, no, I don't want to go

back to that. I don't want to go back to having a text typing a

to get the letter C, or actually, I guess it's the

number 2222 to get C to type out a text message. I was probably

one of the last people in my whole friend group to start

texting. And guess what my cute husband did. He went out and got

me one of those slide phones that had an actual keyboard.

Yeah, yeah, because he knew I didn't really like texting. Now

I'm kind of a wizard at it. And I'm really good, and I got on

it. But I was late, I was totally late getting on to the

bandwagon of texting. Most of us can't live without it now.

Right? Most of us are in it. So when you hear something is going

to change, instead of immediately going to all the

problems with it. Take a few breaths and step back. And

consider the possibilities, the possibilities of why the change

needs to occur, and how you can benefit from it. If you're

working within an organization, how can you support leadership

in implementing the change? Because it's common people it's

coming? How can you be a catalyst for it and help move it

forward rather than dragging it all in? I've often been told

that oh, man is going to take a miracle. It's going to take a

miracle. And a lot of people think the last miracles that

happened, we're in the Bible. Yeah. Last miracle is when Jesus

rose from the dead. A miracle is a change in your perspective, a

change in your perspective, Marianne Williamson wrote, she's

written a lot, but one of her books was something like A

Course in Miracles or information about A Course of

Miracles. Look it up, you can find it. Marianne Williamson,

brilliant woman. And she talks a lot about the change in

perspective. So if you're upset with somebody or something, or

how it's working, you can stop and be still. So rule number one

is you can't get great messages. And think things through if

there's a lot of chaos and noise going on around you. Like I am

in my house in silence most of the time, like it's quiet around

here. I was at an event and everybody was talking around me.

And then they said, Oh, Jennifer, did you do the work?

And I'm like, hell no, I didn't do the work. I can't think

there's too much happening around me. I cannot do this. It

doesn't happen for me. I mean it quiet. But guess what, when

you're quiet, that's on the messages. That's when you can

see the change in perspective. So you can ask yourself, as

you're sitting quietly, is there another way I can view this so

that I can gain more information, so I can understand

it more fully. Your subconscious is so brilliant is brilliant

beyond any measure that you have that I have that we have. So

before you go to bed, ask yourself the question, be

curious, is there another way that I could be looking at this

that would be more beneficial for me and everyone involved?

Let your subconscious go to work overnight. It loves to solve

problems, it loves to come up with brilliant ideas. I used to

be in a trig algebra three class in high school. And let me tell

you, that was way above my capabilities, how I even signed

up for that class. God only knows because I don't I just

signed up for the next class. And guess what I found out

Hahaha, I didn't even need it to graduate. I didn't even need it.

But I would go in for help in the morning. And in the

afternoon, every single day, the teacher was so nice. She would

help me and help me and help me. And I would go to bed after

studying and studying and practicing practicing. And I'd

wake up the next morning and go up. I got it. I know what to do.

And I've got to take the test and make a b I always wanted a I

always made a B because I couldn't really get it ingrained

before we moved on to the next thing like give me one more day

and I would have gotten it. But I had studied that stuff all

evening. So when I went to bed, my brain was still working on

it.

So just ask the question, be curious. What if I were more

open minded about this? What if there were another solution?

What If my perspective about this shifted just a tiny bit,

I'm not saying throw out the baby with the bathwater, I'm

saying a tiny shift, a tiny shift. And the third point that

I want to point out is when you quit learning, you quit living.

I'm going to say it again. When you quit learning, you quit

living. There is something new to learn to explore, to be

curious about every single day. What if you woke up in the

morning and asked yourself, what one thing I can learn today. It

can be simple, it can be little, I was listening to an audio

book, and the author said something about, he would write

something and then he would change the font to bigger so he

could read it while he was on a call. And then he had to

remember to go back and make it smaller, so that he didn't send

the email out or the document out, you know, in a 30 point,

font. And one of the tech people came in and said, Did you know

that you can just click over here and you can zoom in on the

on the page instead of changing the font. And the man was like,

wow, that's like a game changer for me. And accomplish the same

thing. The print was bigger, he could read it more easily. But

he didn't have to go through multiple steps to change it back

to a different size. I was on the phone with a client and we

were actually going to do a zoom interview. For the podcast. It's

coming out soon. I'm not gonna tell you anything else about it

coming out soon. And she said I need to enlarge this so I can

read it. And I was so happy. I knew how to do it for myself.

But I had I not been listening to that book because I love

audiobooks. Had I not been listening to that book. I might

not have remembered specifically how to tell somebody else. So

keep learning. keep learning keep being curious. Diversity is

with us. We are all different. We all came from little bit

different backgrounds, even if it looks like it's the same, I

promise it's not be open and receptive to other people. You

have the choice to shift from a closed mindset, a fixed mindset

to a totally open one where you are ready to look for the

miracles look for the shifts and keep learning. So my ask of you

today, like subscribe and share the podcast leave a comment if

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somebody else's but not mine. I'm Jennifer Takagi and I look

forward to connecting with you soon