Celebrate all victories great and small | DFS 274

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

host Jennifer Takagi. And today I want to hone in on one thing

that was shared in last week's episode with Alisa Bogart. And

she was talking about celebrating our wins. My first

question for you is, do you even acknowledge that you had a win?

Do you even acknowledge it, or Jiejie, what I typically do or

used to do, and just skip on past it like it was no big deal.

Let me tell you, celebrating the wins can make all the difference

in the world, I was assigned to go to Washington, DC, to work on

a special project. And this project was huge. And it was

pretty much over my head. But there was a team of upper

management, who believed that I could handle it. Now. I think

they were a little skit. So coming up with me out of the

whole country, but they were confident that I can handle it.

And in the end, I did handle it. And I did accomplish all the

goals outlined for me. And one of the people in my chain of

command said, You were the best person for this, because you had

the best attitude. Well, that like sent me to the moon with

happiness and joy, because I always want to be that person.

I'm not always that person. But I want to be that person, I want

to be recognized as the person who not only will get the job

done, but also has a good attitude overall. So that's a

big deal for me. So I'm given this huge project, it entails a

lot of tech. And there are a lot of steps that I don't know

about. Why, because I'm in the great state of Oklahoma. And I

take over after the first 45 steps are handled in Washington,

DC. And then they send the money to me, and I would handle it. So

now I've got to figure out how to take the money that Congress

gave HUD into a certain pot of pot, you know, like a savings

account, move it over to a checking account, and then

assign it to the individual apartment complexes that needed

it and allocate the right dollar amount. It was a lot. Every

different type of contract we held, had different rules and

different codes that had to be used. So to tell you every

little teeny tiny step of this process that I had somebody

helped me with, and we got to a successful conclusion of that

step was huge. It was so huge. And I literally would skip up

and down the halls going victory

victory on declare victory. And

people would pop their heads out. They're like, what is that

woman going on about? Right? They didn't understand that I

had enough energy for most of them, right? Because I am ready

to go. I'm excited. I'm excited because I accomplished something

and it was big. And each and every step along the way, was a

big step. None of them are small steps. They were all big steps.

So I celebrated. Hmm. Well, fast forward a number of years, I

started studying Dr. John Kotter, who is like a guru in

the space of change and change management. And in his eight

steps to accelerate change, which I've done super fun

trainings on. In his eight steps. One of his steps is

celebrate every victory. Celebrate every victory, why?

Most change initiatives happen over a period of time, they're

not typically overnight. This piece has to be put into place

and incorporated and then the next one and then the next one.

If you can celebrate each victory. Your people will stay

more engaged. They'll stay way more engaged, because they know

that each step is important. So you have to acknowledge their

wins. Now, if you don't believe me and my little happiness

junkie than I am, that's fine. Go read Dr. John Carter's books.

He's amazing. And you'll see what I mean like he probably has

all kinds of studies to back up what I just said. But if I get a

win, I'm gonna be willing do the next thing. I'm going to be

willing to do the next thing. So are you acknowledging your wins?

And are you acknowledging your little wins? In Jack Canfield

training success on the success principles, the train the

trainer program, he talks about making a list of no more than

three to five things to accomplish that day to take you

further towards meeting your goals. Three to five is not a

list of 25, it's three to five. Once you get those three to five

things done, you can add more, of course. But what we end up

doing is people, we make a list of 25, we do one or two, we get

overwhelmed, we set it aside and we go do something else that has

nothing to do with those 25 goals or items that we need to

get done. So what we do, if we have three to five

accomplishable doable things in a day, a big project broken down

into smaller steps, we're gonna sit with it, and we're gonna get

that step done. And then the next step, and then the next

step. The more you do this, the more you raise your vibration,

you raise your excitement, you raise your energy and your

wedding, your take on the next thing, instead of getting mired

down in the muck. And we get there, and we stay there. So I

wrote a book a couple years ago called Reach Your Goals and 12

minute increments. And the premise of this was Jack

Canfield says take 100% responsibility for every aspect

of your life. But if you can't take 100% Take 5%. Well, I

didn't know what 5% was. And I was searching high and low to

figure out what this 5% was. And in the end, in the evening, when

I got home from work, if I wanted to do something for

personal development, I had from six to 10. In the evening, I had

gotten home from work, my husband and I had had dinner,

and then I had roughly from six to 10 to do whatever I wanted.

If I wanted to ride my exercise bike, I could if I wanted to go

through that stack of mail and get rid of it, I could anything,

whatever I wanted to do watch TV, that was fine, too. But four

hours is 240 minutes 5% of 240 minutes, bumped that it is 12

minutes. So hence the book was born reach your goals in 12

minute increments. And I'm now being called a 12 minute success

coach. Why? Because I help you either physically, emotionally

and spiritually, heal and balance what's going on. That's

not serving you. And I also help you plan out your goals and 12

minute increments. And why are the increments so important?

Because the project is too big. It's too big. And we get

overwhelmed. I did a session the other day and a woman said, I

have a room full of boxes. And I need to move all the boxes out

in order to buy new furniture and put the furniture in and

then unpack the boxes. And I said Well, are you going to keep

everything in every box? And she said, Well, probably not. But I

can't go through them because I can't get him out of the room.

Because through the boxes. It's kind of a chicken or the egg

thing, right? So my suggestion was get an empty box. Take it in

the room, pick one box in the room that's already there, open

it up. Look at each item in there and either decide right

there on the spot. I'm going to keep that in this room, or I'm

going to get rid of it. I'm either going to throw it away,

send it to you know, donation someplace or give it to a friend

because somebody needs it. But by the time I get through that

box, the only thing left in that box are things that are going to

remain in the room. That's it, only the things that are going

to remain in the room. Then you immediately take the box of

items that aren't gonna stay in the room and get rid of them.

You dump it in the trash can you put it in your car to take to

the donation place or you call your friend and say you have 48

hours to come get this or it's gonna be donated. You handle it.

Once you handle box one in 12 minutes, you can move to box

two, or you can go do something else Right, the choice is yours.

It's up to you what you do and your 12 minute increments. But

when you get that first box done, celebrate it. That's one

less box. You might just do a box a day and you've got 20

boxes in there. Big whoop dee doo, it takes you 20 days to go

through all the boxes in that room. They've been in there for

two years.

So what's 12 minutes? Nothing. What is doing it? Over 20 days?

Nothing.

It's not that big a deal. You can manage it, you can handle

it. And guess what, then you can celebrate it. You can celebrate

it. There are programs out there around the 12 week year, my

friend Consuela Munoz has a program about that it's really

good. And one of the things they highly recommend is when you

meet one of your goals, have a reward in the wings waiting for

you. Do you want a pedicure? Do you want a manicure? Do you want

to get your hair done? Do you want to hire somebody to come in

and vacuum and dust your house? That's always a big reward for

me. What do you want to do to reward yourself for

accomplishing your goals? There's gotta be something.

There's got to be something that you don't do for yourself on a

regular basis when you meet your goals. So as you're planning

your celebratory things, list, what would matter to you? What

would make you feel good? I love getting massages. So adding a

massage to my list would be a really cool thing for me to do.

When I meet my goals. Sometimes I get the massage first inspires

me to move forward to do the work I need to do because I'm so

relaxed and happy. So celebrate all your wins. Big or small. It

doesn't matter. I heard her mantra once. Let me see if I can

get this right off the top of my head. What was that all things

great and small. I'm grateful for them all. I think that was

it. Something along those lines. Come up with your own little

rhyme for that because it's powerful. It's very powerful. So

decide how you're going

to celebrate and give yourself

permission. That's the word I'm looking for. Give yourself

permission to celebrate everything that happens

everything good. I'm Jennifer Takagi and I look forward to

connecting with you soon