MY RESILIENCE CODE With Host Howard Brown

Hello, it's Howard brown. It's a Shining Brightly

Show you get me solo today. So excited to be here. And let me

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Anyways, today's show is very important. It's actually called

My resilience code. Now, we all need resilience, it's that get

up and go get out of bed. It's that energy that we need. And it

can ebb and flow during the day and through periods of of the

week, and also through our lives. And so resilience is a

big buzzword out there. And I'll give you a quick definition

here. So resilience, the capacity to withstand or recover

quickly from difficulties. It's also called toughness, it can be

called mental toughness, it can be physical toughness. So it's

that bounce back or that spring back, get back up again into

life into business, relationships, health. One of my

inspiring authors, who wrote the foreword of shining brightly of

my book is Dr. Robert Wicks, I call him the godfather of

resilience. And he's probably written now 30, some odd books,

but one of the books that stood out for me, if you're looking

for a really great read about kind of building back your, your

toughness, and your resilience is called bounce. So check that

out. And it's Dr. Robert wicks. And the book is called bounce.

So what does it meant to be resilient? And resilience is

really a process. Okay? It's about adapting yourself, in

difficult circumstances, challenging life experiences,

mental, emotional, physical, could be just, you know, outside

forces, could be theoretical, could be your thoughts could be

things that work. So there are internal and external demands

that are placed on you. And they actually have different levels

of importance in your life. So resilient people, okay, are

successful, because they are persistent. They can be polite

and persistent. You can be a bulldog and persistent. But how

do you get through those difficulties, to be able to

reach points of success, or to reach your goals or to reach

your milestones. So people now talk about transformation,

growth mindset, overcoming some negative emotions, overcoming

physical things. And this is all has to do with positivity, and

being able to build in your confidence and confidence has a

lot to do with that. So I'm not an expert. I'm a lived

experience guy, right? I've been knocked down to my core with to

stage four cancer diagnosis, as pretty far getting knocked down

emotionally, physically, in relationship financially.

Anyway, you cut it, it wasn't too fun. And what I usually like

to say is that you have to build back up. And sometimes that is

by taking two steps back five steps back a step sideways. Or

sometimes it's a bull rush right up, right up the hill. So you

have to figure that out for yourself, of course. So I just

come back off a cruise, the reinvention retreat on the

Renaissance cruise radiants at the sea, four day cruise, I

highly recommend it a lot of fun. And shout out to Bobby

Cabaniss, who put this all together. And I got to be the

keynote speaker and open things up and set the tone. And I

wanted to just let you know how I started my session. I had

everybody stand up intentionally and be able to repeat after me

that I am a work in progress. And then I hadn't shout I am a

work in progress. And then put both hands over your heart and

say I am a work in progress. And if you allow yourself that space

and grace, understand that you are just a ball of clay every

single day. Then it gets easier. It gets easier to be able to

start your day and kick it off and try to actually get get to

finish your day strong. And it's not every day. I It certainly

not exposed to me as far as a cancer patient or someone

dealing with a health crisis, or mental health issues. You know,

the number one thing that came out of the pandemic was

loneliness, which led to depression. And in my book, I

refer to that as darkness. And we can choose to learn from that

darkness, we can choose to walk in that darkness. But if you

stay there too long, sometimes bad things happen, or things get

worse. So we'll talk about that in a second. But what I also

want to say is that we all start out the day, by being an all

star, whether we know it or not, it's whether we choose to be an

all star, can we choose to be an all star dad, mom, sister,

brother, friend, co worker, stranger, we can, you could

choose to become an all star each day, you're the one who

sets the definition of how you're an all star and how you

perform. And you look in that mirror and say, I am blessed.

I'm grateful. We're going to make it a great day. I'm going

to help myself and I'll help others. Good All Star start to

the day. Anyways, I'm gonna give you your NBA. Okay, so the NBA

of resilience. First is your mind. Who you are, who you are,

how are you defining yourself internally? And how are you

defining yourself externally? How are you showing up each day.

And part of living life and what I call survivorship, is how you

show up each day. And there are some days you just got to crawl

back into bed. I get it, I get it. But there are other days

where you are just beaming, and you are living a great life and

you are actually sharing your light with others in the world.

The next part of the NBA is your body. Where are you at

physically? Do you feel okay? Do you want to get stronger? Do you

need to hit the gym? Do you need to get outside? More? Do you

need to schedule an exercise? And I actually call this finding

your happy place in pursuit of your happy place? What is the

happy place? How do you define it? I defined buying on the

basketball court. I've been playing since I was six years

old. And why I loved the basketball court because it's my

stress free zone. I actually just nothing else matters on the

basketball court. I was able to actually weed out anything else

happening around me. My judgement free zone no matter if

I play really bad or not. And I like to go there as often as

possible. What's your happy place? Is it cooking? Is it

yoga? Is it meditation? Is it nature? Is it hiking? Is it

water? Is it mountains? Is it art? Find your happy place? Go

there as much as you possibly can. And then the a of the NBA

is your actions? Where are you going? What's your purpose

today? Could be a simple purpose to actually just get organised.

organising your thoughts, organising your physical

surroundings. That's a simple action. Maybe the action is to

go help somebody else that really needs it. Maybe you got

to go to work like most people do. And what are you going to do

to get your jump, job done and possibly others? It's all right.

You got a game plan each day, that time management is really

really important to figure that. So how are you using your MBA

for resilience? who you are? Where are you at? Where are you

going? Think about that. Now, the biggest part of the

resilience code for me, is to not isolate. We're a body of

people like animals that should be in packs. And as I said, the

pandemic brought loneliness. So try not to isolate. But if you

do, isolate for your reason, maybe that's your meditation.

Maybe that's your time for planning. Maybe that's a time

where you're actually pushing the ability to psych yourself up

to do something great and big. It's okay. But if we isolate too

long, as I said too bad things happen. The next thing is is

that I'm asking everyone to be selfish expecially in your time

and needs, who's going to take care of you but you

who is going to take care of you but you so in your time of need.

take care of you. But if you can't seek help, there's so many

ways to get help. There really is. Phone a friend, find

something online, listen to some calming music, there's ways to

get help. And then there's actually groups, so many groups

out there. Go be around people. And if you're able to take and

go help somebody else, you take that spotlight off yourself. And

you're able to be able to then not think about your situation,

but go think about others and doing something nice for them.

And so, this is all part of the self care, self love plan, that

you must design for yourself, and execute. Self love equals

self care, mentally, physically, financially, and in

relationship. And you can choose to be kind, you can choose to be

a giving person. Choose to be a healing person, for yourself and

others. I absolutely recommend choosing hope. Because Hope is

the fuel that can get you through. You can choose

gratitude. And lastly, you can choose positivity, and that's

list is endless. Make your own list. But that's that's the

resiliency code. Looking within choosing some of these things,

kindness, giving healing, hope, positivity, gratitude, applying

them in your day. Now, I'm not going to tell you it happens

overnight. If you tell me I want to lose 100 pounds overnight,

I'm going to tell you that I've got some land to sell you. You

know, in Florida that has gold on it. You have to understand

that things take time, they are process based and keep track of

your progress. Small wins are really important. Because the

small wins build the momentum. And they actually show that

you're serious. You're taking yourself serious. And that

toughness then builds like a muscle, it gets stronger and

stronger and stronger. And that's really being self aware

of where you're going and what you need to do. So it's not

magic. It's not magic. Some people have to come from further

deep down than others. I certainly did in my two cancer

diagnosis. But I'm here today, I am living, walking, breathing.

I'm trying to rebuild Humpty Dumpty every single day and make

them stronger, better faster than before. So, with that this

is a short episode. Just want to tell you that shine brightly

every single day for yourself, then for others than for your

neighbourhood and your community. And I guarantee you,

the world will become a better place. So I'm putting on my

sunglasses. We're shining brightly. Thank you