In this powerful episode with Divorce Coach, Mardi Winder, we explore how NLP 🧠, Time Line Therapy® ⏳, and Hypnotherapy 🌙can deeply support people navigating — and healing from — high-conflict divorce. The focus is on clearing the past 🧹, reclaiming identity 🌱, and intentionally creating what comes next ✨.

🔑 What you’ll hear inside the episode:

🛡️ The Post-Divorce Void — when life in survival mode ends, the “armor” comes off, and a surprising emptiness appears

💭 How limiting beliefs, unresolved emotions, and “Who am I now?” confusion can quietly take over

🚀 How NLP tools clear this emotional “negative goop” quickly, helping clients step into a new identity with clarity and confidence

🧠 Reprogramming the Unconscious Mind (90%)

⏳ Time Line Therapy® and Values Alignment create real change in your being, without conscious effort

✨ You get faster results, no re-traumatizing, and a noticeable sense of lightness, calm, and mental quiet

🎧 If you’re curious about faster, gentler healing after divorce — this episode is a must-listen. Tune in and feel what’s possible when the mind is finally given the right tools. 💫

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Episode Summary:

Key Takeaways

1. Post-Divorce Void: After high-conflict divorces, clients face a void and carry limiting beliefs. NLP tools provide a fast, effective way to clear this baggage and define a new identity.
2. Unconscious Reprogramming: Time Line Therapy® and values alignment directly reprogram the unconscious mind (90% of the mind), which is faster and more effective than conscious effort (10%).
3. Strategic Client Support: Mardi introduces NLP concepts during divorce proceedings to empower clients, however reserves the full "breakthrough" work for after finalization to protect confidentiality from legal discovery.
4. "Divorce Reset" Program: Mardi's post-divorce package uses Time Line Therapy® to clear the past, values alignment to define the future, and hypnotherapy to install positive suggestions.

The Post-Divorce Challenge

1. Clients in high-conflict divorces often feel like they are "putting on armor" daily.
2. Finalization can leave a void and a "who am I now?" identity crisis.
3. This void is filled with "negative goop" (limiting beliefs, emotions) that must be cleared to move forward.

NLP & Timeline Therapy as a Solution

1. Mardi's new certifications (NLP, Timeline Therapy, Hypnotherapy) provide powerful tools for this transition.
2. Time Line Therapy® is a fast, gentle technique that clears stored negative emotions and limiting decisions from the unconscious mind.
3. It avoids re-traumatizing clients by not requiring them to relive events.
4. Results are immediate → clients report feeling "lighter" and having a "quiet mind."

Reprogramming the Unconscious Mind

1. The unconscious mind (90% of the mind) is faster and more powerful than the conscious mind (10%).
2. Linguistic Precision: The unconscious mind doesn't process negatives (e.g., "don't want conflict" is heard as "want conflict"). Reframing thoughts to what is desired is critical.
3. Neuroplasticity: New neural pathways can be created with just three repetitions of a new thought.

Values Alignment for a New Future

1. Divorce can cause personal values to be suppressed.
2. Values Alignment helps clients clarify their top 5 values in key life areas (e.g., relationships, career).
3. Why it works: Shifting a core value creates a ripple effect, automatically changing related beliefs and behaviors.
4. Example: A client's business stalled. After aligning her values to prioritize "systems," she immediately connected with a contact who had the exact tool she needed.

Mardi's "Divorce Reset" Program

1. Strategy: Introduce NLP concepts during divorce, and reserve the "breakthrough" work for after finalization.
2. Rationale: Protects client confidentiality from legal discovery (e.g., subpoenas for notes).
3. Benefit: Even conceptual understanding empowers clients during the process.
4. Divorce Re-Set Program Structure: A 3-hour online session.
5. Full Breathrough Program Structure: Completed in multiple sessions in a 30 day time frame.
6. Intake: Define the problem and desired outcome.
7. Values Alignment: Clarify and align core values.
8. Time Line Therapy®: Clear negative emotions and limiting decisions.
9. Hypnotherapy: Install positive, future-focused suggestions.
10. Target Audience: Women in their 40s, 50s, and older, including those long-divorced who are still struggling.

About the Guest:

Mardi Winder is the go-to divorce coach for high-achieving individuals. She is dedicated to supporting people in taking control of their separation and divorce to reduce the emotional and financial costs of the process. Mardi offers over 30 years of experience helping women and men navigate the challenges of high-conflict, complex, and high-asset divorces. Mardi is an ICF and BCC Executive and Leadership Coach, Certified Divorce Transition and High-Conflict Divorce Coach, and Credentialed Distinguished Mediator in Texas.

She founded Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and hosts the podcast “The D Shift, Redefining Divorce and Beyond” and the summit series Real Divorce Talks. Mardi is also a best-selling author, speaker, and trainer.

Website: https://www.divorcecoach4women.com/

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About the Host:

Melissa is an Integrative Health Practitioner and a Board Designated Master Trainer of Hypnotherapy, Trainer of NLP, Time Line Therapy®, and NLP Results Coaching, helping people get to the root cause of their health issues and then get lasting results. Melissa neither diagnoses nor cures but helps bring your body back into balance by helping discover your “toxic load” and then removing the toxins. Melissa offers functional medicine lab testing that helps you “see inside” to know exactly what is going on, and then provides a personalized wellness protocol using natural herbs and supplements. Melissa’s business is 100% virtual – the lab tests are mailed directly to your home and she specializes in holding your hand and guiding the way to healing so that you don’t have to figure it all out on your own.

Melissa has launched Amplify Impact Academy, with business partner, Billie Aadmi and together they train other coaches, practitioners and counsellors in the 4 mind-body healing modalities mentioned above, giving them powerful tools to use with clients to get results with greater ease, speed and grace. These courses teach life skills and anyone can take them, if you want to be a better leader, parent, partner, be empowered in your own life, these courses are for you!

Melissa’s passion project is her non-profit, Girls Matter (www.girlsmatter.ca), breaking the poverty cycle 1 girl, 1 family, 1 village at a time. The mission is to keep girls in school and stop teenage marriages, because school isn’t free in over 50 countries around the world and when parents have to make the difficult choices of feeding their kids or paying for school, food wins. And when the girls hit their teen years, they will often be married off so that someone else becomes responsible to feed them. Keeping girls in school instead creates a generational ripple effect, because an educated girl is more than twice as likely to ensure her own children are educated. Educating girls also grows the GDP of countries, when they get into the workforce. This is how together, we can change the world. Guests on this podcast are invited to donate to this important cause. Learn more here in this short video: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1R3-xqzJLZW14om1PhFClcU_oRSZ8zgip/view?usp=share_link

Melissa is also the winner of the 2024 Women in Podcasting Awards in the “inspiration & motivation” category and the 2021 & 2022 Quality Care Award by Business From The Heart and is also the recipient of the Alignable “Local Business Person of the Year “Award 2022, 2023 & 2024 for Whistler.

Melissa has been featured at a number of Health & Wellness Summits, such as the Health, Wealth & Wisdom Summit, The Power To Profit Summit, The Feel Fan-freaking-tas-tic Summit, the Aim Higher Summit and many more! She has also guested on over 90 different podcasts teaching people about the importance of prioritizing our health and how to get started.

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