March 10, 2022

Achieving Happiness by going Within

Achieving Happiness by going Within

This is a timely episode with everything going on in the world to be joined by happiness expert Kathie Donovan. Kathie shares with listeners the secret to living in true happiness – which actually calls you to go within. Do you ever feel paralyzed in life? You might find yourself hyper-aware of what you don’t want in, but do you know what it is that you truly DO want? Kathie shares how courage and surrendering your stories can be your guide to embracing your inner happiness. And gratitude is a vital step in the happiness process, so listen in to find out some ways to make gratitude a part of your daily routine. 

  

About the Guest: 

Happiness expert Kathie Donovan is a celebrated author, speaker, coach, and broadcaster. She is the former co-host and co-producer of CTV Ottawa’s Regional Contact; she’s a regular guest expert on the subject of happiness for CITY-TV’s Cityline. 

“I’m on a mission to help our world evolve in the direction of more goodness, more kindness, more positivity, and more courage,” says Kathie.

She is the author of two self-published books:  Inspiration in Action: A Woman’s Guide to Happiness and Unconform: Harnessing the Radical Power of Courage. She is also an ambassador for The Wellings and Joseph Ribkoff.

Kathie’s work is a call to action to unlearn what we think we know to be true, to stretch what’s possible so that we can see our true potential and live a beautiful life of our own design.

 

Links:

Website: www.kathiedonovan.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/kathie_donovan

Facebook: www.facebook.com/kathie.donovan

About the Host:

I am a financial professional, who specializes in helping people to achieve their financial goals.  My absolute passion is creating new possibilities in people’s lives by showing them the ropes when it comes to money. I’m here to spark healthy and positive conversations around wealth and investment and create a world where nobody is limited by their financial situation. I believe this begins with education and shifting our relationships with money. I love getting to witness people achieving their most ambitious goals and creating new possibilities for themselves and their families! 

 

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Email: kalee.boisvert@raymondjames.ca

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Transcript
Kalee Boisvert:

Welcome to the wealth and wellness podcast with

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me Kaylie Bob air. I specialize in helping people to achieve

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their financial goals. I have a love for all things numbers, and

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I'm passionate about financial literacy. My goal is to spark

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healthy and positive conversations around wealth and

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investment and create a world where nobody is limited by their

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financial situation. But wealth is just one piece of the

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equation of living our best lives. So join me as we explore

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both wealth and wellness topics. From your net worth to your self

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worth. Get ready to take confident action. Hello, this is

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Kaylee buav. Err and thank you so much for tuning into this

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episode of the wealth and wellness podcast. I have a

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wonderful guest joining us today. I think it's so timely to

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this conversation with a lot going on in the world right now.

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So joining us today is happiness expert Kathy Donovan, who is

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also a celebrated author, speaker, coach and broadcaster.

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She is the former co host and CO producer of CTVs. CTV Ottawa is

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regional contact. She's a regular guest guest expert on

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the subject of happiness for city TV city line. She's the

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author of two self published books, inspiration and action, a

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woman's guide to happiness, and unconformity. Harnessing the

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radical power of courage, Kathy's work is a call to action

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to unlearn what we know to be true to stretch what's possible

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so that we can see our true potential and live a beautiful

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life of our own design. I love that. Thank you so much. It's

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good to have a happiness expert, we need some happiness, Taffy.

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So can you tell me maybe a little bit more me in the

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viewers or listeners a little bit more about what brought you

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to do this work you're doing today?

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Sure, Kelly, thank you so much to for having me. I

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really admire what you're doing with your podcast as a

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compliment to your business. You know, we women need soft places

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to land, we need community we need like minded people. And so

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let me tell you a little about happiness, how happiness evolved

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for me this way. Because we are conditioned, I say conned into

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thinking that happiness comes from outside of us. IE, you

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know, I'll be happy when I lose 10 pounds, I'll be happy when I

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get the right partner, I'll be happy when I finally buy my

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house or get a new job or whatever it is outside of us.

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And when we look at happiness, this way, we will chase it for

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ever. It really is an inside job. And so I learned by reading

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a lot of the same authors and books that you've looked at, I

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became very fascinated by the law of attraction, that

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secondary universal law that talks about what we think about

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and focus on will expand in our lives. I read the book, The

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Secret, I saw the movie The Secret way back in the day when

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it first came out. And I was really like, wowed by the idea

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of it. But I understood as I investigated a little bit more

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that it was kind of incomplete. And then I saw a Canadian author

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by the name of I've forgotten his name right now. But he wrote

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a book called the law of attraction. And I went to see

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him speak when it came to Ottawa. And he talked about the

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law of attraction. And his point was that we humans are really

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good at coming up with the list of things we want. We're just

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not always available to receive what it is we say we want. And

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I'll forgive that. I don't think many of us know really what we

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want. I think we know what we don't want. And we're very

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comfortable complaining about it. But we have to get clarity

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about what it is we really want in life. And Law of Attraction

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really works on energy and vibration, and that's your

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feelings. So it isn't about things and stuff. It's about the

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inside of you. What do you want to feel? So I want to feel

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abundance beauty, joy, love, peace, prosperity and wellness.

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And I've learned that I have to focus my thoughts and my energy

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on those things if I want them to come into my life, so I make

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myself available to receive those things by focusing on

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thoughts and hanging out with people and taking opportunities

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that align with what it is I want. So over the course of you

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know finding out about this law of attraction learning about how

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our thoughts are so powerful Mike Dooley talks about you

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know, your thoughts, produce things your thoughts create

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things in your life. So you've got to be very careful of what

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you're choosing. I started a development group, and over two

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years, I would bring in different ideas to the group

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every month. The first one was gratitude. And we talk about

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these ideas. And then we'd all go away and have a little

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homework to work on over the month and come back. And we

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talked about another idea. Until I achieved eight principles that

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I felt were the solid foundation for my first book. And really,

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they define my life. Now I live by those principles. And it's

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things like gratitude, courage, surrendering the stories that

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don't serve us. Well, you know, our lives today, the stories

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from our past, talking about kindness and compassion,

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forgiveness, and having healthy boundaries. Those are some of

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the ideas I've talked about that when we put them together,

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really like a Lego set kind of creates this vibe of happiness,

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which is very different from the happiness we've been conditioned

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or conned to think we're supposed to have. So it isn't

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outside of us. It's all within us. And you know, I heard that

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for many years, but I didn't really understand it. Now, I'm

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very clear that I'm responsible for my happiness, just like you

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are. Yeah,

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I love that. And I love you sent me your books to

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read and they're fabulous. And so I do, yeah, really appreciate

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the work you're doing and what you're putting out there, I

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highly recommend people take a look at those. Can you elaborate

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them a little bit more on that, then like you said, we are

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always looking for it outside of ourselves. And I think that is

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such a common theme, I'll be happy when when I get that job.

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When I get the raise. In my line of business. It's when I have

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you know that much money and I my wealth goals are achieved. So

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how do we like? How do we maybe block out the noise? Or how can

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we, you know, the outside influences the comparison? I'm

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assuming that's where some of those influences are coming from

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when we're talking about I'll be happy when? And how do we really

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go into that it's an inside job?

Kathie Donovan:

Yeah, it's a good question. I don't know if

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you've heard of the book, my Stroke of Insight. It's a book

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written by a neuroscientist, and she talks about the stroke that

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she had, when her right brain, her skirt, sorry, her left brain

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function shut down. And in the left brain is all of the details

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of life. It's where the files are with respect to you know,

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our bank account, or what day we're born, what side of the

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road, we should drive on, all the things our address, you

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know, our name, your name, all that information is stored in

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the left brain. And when that stopped functioning, she said, I

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was Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor is the author's name, by the way. And

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it's a brilliant book, very simple to read. She said I was

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left in my right mind. And in the right brain is just that

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pure in the moment notice, it's just that right now, if I was to

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stop talking, and we felt that silence, that's what's going on

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in the right brain, it's just pure nothing. It's where we go.

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And we're deeply engrossed in creative process processes, like

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when you're working on numbers could feel creative for you,

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when somebody is doing a painting or writing something

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they're in their right brain, they're in the moment in the

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flow, they call it in the left brain is where our ego is. And

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the ego is part of that, you know, it's a, we need an ego, we

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need the function of our left brain, we need all of these good

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things to be operating. But our ego is always hungry for fuel.

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And the ego wants one of three things, it wants to be right. It

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wants to feel special, or it wants to be miserable. So we can

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notice when we're starting to get that way, that that's where

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we're operating from. And what Dr. Taylor says is, ideally,

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what we want to do is manage the function of the left brain and

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spend more time in the right brain in our in the moment. And

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so, you know, we've been conditioned I say conned a lot,

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because I think we've been conditioned to think some things

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that are just not true. And we need to bust through some myths

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to get to how we can be more present for ourselves, how we

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can actually love ourselves more, so that we can be

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receptive to things that we didn't know we could receive

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before. Because, you know, there's also a lot of limiting

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thoughts that we're conditioned to have, you know, nobody in our

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family ever went to university, who do you think you are? You're

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never going to make a success of that business. Why would you

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even try? You mean, there's such a thing as a happiness expert.

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All of these things are things I've heard. And if I believed

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those things, I would be paralyzed in my life. And I feel

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many of us are because we've listened to outside voices. We

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know the truth inside of us. And yet we're afraid to bring that

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truth out. Because we're afraid to be judged. We're afraid to

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fail. We're afraid to succeed. We're afraid to be To stand out,

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we're afraid to be too tall, we're afraid to, you know, to be

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a show off, really, we have, every one of us has some

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beautiful gift or 10. to unwrap and share in the world, every

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single one of us. And it isn't necessarily just about those

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simple goals of, you know, finding a life partner making a

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certain amount of money and getting to a point in your

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career. Those are not necessarily the right goals to

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focus on their goals, and they're there, they're

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worthwhile, but they're not everything, finding a way to

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feel good within you about you, is everything. And when you can

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start to focus on that process. And it begins with one simple

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idea. And that is gratitude. Gratitude has become cliche, we

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don't even really notice it so much anymore, because we talked

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about it so much, it became kind of moot. But it is the most

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important quality for you to focus on, if what you want is to

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attract more abundance into your life. And when I say abundance,

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I don't just mean money, I mean, opportunity, friendship,

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relationship, you know, surprise, there's this wonderful

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thing happening for you today, because you learned to

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appreciate what you already had. And here it is, if you have

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breath, kill, you have a lot to be grateful for. So we begin

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there. And that's where really this whole process starts, is by

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adjusting our mindset from the chasing after everything, to

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really appreciating everything you already have, which allows

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you to send out that energy of abundance, and makes you more

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attractive to abundance, it makes you a match for what it is

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you really want. And then we have to step into courage to ask

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ourselves what I was saying earlier, what do I really want?

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And then when you know where to want, it becomes a lot easier to

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say yes to opportunities that are aligned with that, and no to

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things that are not.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah. And you had an activity in your book

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where you said, because you said oftentimes, you know, we don't

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even know what we want. But you're right that we do know

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what we don't want. So the activity in your book was write

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down all the things you don't want. And then that should

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prompt thinking about, Okay, what do I do What because it's

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probably the alternative of that, which I think is a good

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way to get people thinking on that.

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Sure. And and it's such a challenge for us. Because it

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comes so naturally to say, you know, I don't want to be low, I

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don't want because it's about feeling right. So the statement

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has to be about feeling. So if you were to say I don't want to

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feel lonely. And that's been a common challenge for people,

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especially during the pandemic, right, we've been isolated from

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one another. I don't want to feel lonely. If you don't want

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to feel lonely. What do you want, I want to feel connected.

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So if you want to feel connected, what's one baby step

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you could take that would help you to feel more connected.

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Because everybody makes it okay for us to complain, it's a

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phenomenon. But to, to really focus on what we want and

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support one another getting it is not so easy. So we have to

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work on the inside of ourselves in those conditions, thoughts

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and beliefs. We've all been given and try to adjust them. So

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we're more, I'm going to use the word positive, we're more

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positive in how we speak to ourselves, and how we speak

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about ourselves. Yes,

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I love that. So that's a good exercise for

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people to try. So is that what you would suggest like you're

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saying, Let's spend more time in the right brain. So one of the

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things is gratitude. And again, in your book you write down, you

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write that, you know, one practice is writing down five

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things a day that you're grateful for. And again, it's

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really if you're struggling to find it's very easy to just say

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I'm grateful for being able to you know, my lungs for being

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able to breathe for your food for being able to have you know,

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a roof over my head like these, these very basic things that

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we're we're given that we absolutely need to be grateful

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for. And then that might prompt you kind of thinking even more

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into that. But so that's a good one, the courage, anything else

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for staying in the right brain that we can make sure that we're

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engaging in?

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Well, it's not so much about staying in the right

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brain, it's about managing the left brain because the left

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brain is the squirrely place where we're always reminded of

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how we're not enough and how we haven't done enough and how you

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haven't achieved enough. That's the That's the message. The

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right brain is is just perfect. The right way is just oh, so if

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you meditate, you spend time in your right brain. When you're

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painting when you're doing creative things. You're in the

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right brain that's wonderful. spend more of your time doing

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those things, to nurture yourself and then managing the

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left. So the left is that voice that's always searching for fuel

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wants to be right wants to feel special wants to be miserable or

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not wants to but enjoys being miserable. And so we have to

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override The tendencies of the ego and say, I'm going to take

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charge here, because the only thing, Kaylee, this was a

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shocker to me when I learned that the only thing we have

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control over in life are the thoughts. We choose to think. We

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have no control over anything else, there's a great illusion

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that we have control over other people we do not. And we exhaust

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ourselves, especially as women, we exhaust ourselves, trying to

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make the world the way we think it should work, and trying to

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make people do the things we think they should do for their

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own good. Well, it doesn't matter, everybody's got their

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own journey, you've got your journey, I've got mine, and I

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can't take anything off your journey, it would be insulting

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to your personal growth. Why would I want to take that away

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from you, that's your lesson to get. So yeah, we need to begin

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and find ways to, you know, reshape our thought processes

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and how we're going to think about life. And gratitude is

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that bottom line. So when you start to develop that practice,

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I say write five things a day. And if you're having a bad day,

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write 10 things. And then the more you do it, the easier it

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will be it's hard at first, because we're used to taking

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everything right now for granted. And looking forward for

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what we're going to get next. So we need to really shift that

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out. But a key piece to is really looking at how we can

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surrender the stories that we tell ourselves. And those are

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those conditioned thoughts and beliefs. We all have the stories

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we tell ourselves about ourselves that are no longer

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true about ourselves today, because who you were when you

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were 18. And doing whatever you did, it's not who you are today.

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And so those stories kind of, you know, we tend to pile them

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up. And then we think those make those stories make us who we

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are. But who we are, is not that at all, who we are is perfect

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and beautiful. Every one of us is a spiritual being having a

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human experience. That's who we are. And those stories are they

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were true, then you did that thing for sure. But you don't

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need to drag it with you through the rest of your life. And I

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encourage some of my coach clients, if they're having

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trouble surrendering the stories, see a therapist, find

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some way to offload those things and look at how you can forgive

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yourself or forgive somebody else. You know, and that is

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another principle I talk about forgiveness is very important.

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Because we forgive for us, not for anybody else. So that we can

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be free to be happy, to feel good to live the life that we're

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really meant to live without holding anger, bitterness and

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resentment. Because I think it was Buddha who said or he's

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credited was saying that holding on to anger, bitterness, and

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resentment is like taking poison every day expecting the other

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guy to die. It doesn't work. You only harm yourself. So this is a

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very important part of this process of tapping into what I

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call true happiness.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah. And when I think of it, too, when I think

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of those, like forgiving for ourselves, it's just, it's a

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heaviness to like being angry, being stressed and harboring

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what feelings like that maybe towards other people. It's

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almost it's like a heaviness. It's like it's a lot to carry.

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It is like literally like baggage on you where it's just

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like when you release it when you let it go, there is a

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lightness that you feel to that.

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Yeah. And it isn't that the thing didn't happen. It

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isn't that the person didn't, whatever you think whatever you

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think happened. It's just about freeing yourself from that. And

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you know, doing it for you. So the intention is doing it for

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you, as opposed to doing it to let somebody off the hook.

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Because that's what we get snagged we think, Well, I'm

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gonna let them off the hook if I forgive them. You haven't

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changed the reality of what happened. You've just chosen to

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live a beautiful life and you don't need to carry that stuff

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with you. And you're quite right. It feels like luggage

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like a heavy backpack.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah, yeah. And just focusing your like you said

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on what we can control what we do have control over. When then

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comes to remodelling our thoughts? What would you suggest

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for people for that or like, like, because I feel like it's

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so automatic and you're right, like it can be based on

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childhood experiences or how we've grown up and it's still

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kind of then programmed almost in our thoughts just go right to

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where they may be, typically have in the past. So how can we

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really be more empowered when it comes to our own thoughts?

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Couple of things there, I would say, brings me to the

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principle of kindness and compassion. You know, we are

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conditioned I say conned into being thinking that we need to

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be kind and compassionate toward other people. That's what I

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learned when I was growing up. But really, it begins with us.

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We forget that we are the most important person in our lives.

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We are the most you are the most in person in your life. And if

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you can't be kind towards yourself, what's that saying? So

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learning to give yourself grace, when you're tired when you're

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when you feel low, find a way to give yourself some grace about

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that and let it go. If you don't get it right every time, there's

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no such thing in my world as a mistake, I don't believe in

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mistakes. I used to work in mainstream TV. And we did a lot

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of recording of our introductions for the stories we

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did. We didn't use a script. So we did four or five, maybe 10

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takes of the same thing, until we got it the way we wanted it.

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That's what a mistake is, you didn't get it the way you wanted

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it. So do it again, and get do it until you get it the way you

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want it. So when when we, when we start to reshape these ideas

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we hold about, you know, on so afraid to try it, because what

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if I fail? Well, if you don't get it the way you want to try

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it again, or, or do something else, learn from what's

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happening, instead of just shaming yourself for not getting

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it, quote, unquote, getting it right the first time, that's not

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possible, most of us don't get it right. You know, there's no

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such thing as overnight success. That's another thing. It takes

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patience, and resilience and grit. And you know, you know,

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commitment, and you know, a lot of support to create a business

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like the one you've created in the one I've created, it didn't

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happen overnight. I've been at this for 10 years doing it and

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20 years, you know, 10 Before that, preparing for it. So you

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know, this is the thing, we need to ease up a little bit on

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ourselves and be kind and compassionate. And, and also to

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recognize that nobody, like N OB ody has it all together.

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Nobody's got it all together, we are all just beautiful works in

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progress. And we're learning as we go. And the more we learn,

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the more we grow, Maya Angelou said, when we know better, we do

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better. So that's what our job is just to keep learning and

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growing and being kind and compassionate. And pushing

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ourselves forward that way, instead of pushing ourselves in

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that aggressive energy, it's compassion is soft. And that's

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what we women are made of, we're compassionate, we're

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collaborators. We're not meant to be competitors. That's why I

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feel you know, you've created such a beautiful space for

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people. And the same with my business. Because women

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recognize the lack of competition, they want to feel

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safe, they want to feel heard and valued and appreciated. And

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that's what makes it happen. Those ideas.

Kalee Boisvert:

Beautiful. I love that. And though how we're

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all just beautiful works in progress. I love that. Love it.

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What about, you know, in times like now, where there's a lot

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going on in the world? And it's hard maybe when we're seeing

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that when we're reading about it? Maybe it's hard to feel

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happy? What can you suggest for people when it is there's a lot

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of stress and crisis going on? outside of ourselves and around

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us?

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Yeah, to the question. And it's come up so much in the

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last little while, because so many of us are feeling

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overwhelmed by the chaos in the world on so many levels. And

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here's what I tell people, Look, if you're safe, and you have

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what you need. Your job is to be the light. When we buy into the

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chaos, when we watch too much news, for example, we get

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overwhelmed. We fall into victimhood. And we become a

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victim of the chaos. We lose our power. So as I said before, the

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only thing we have control over the thoughts we choose to think

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so I say to people give your head a shake your okay? Do

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something to make your world that are in the little corner

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that you're in. Be kind to people. If you feel you want to

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collect money for a good cause, do that. If you want to make

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cookies for your friends, do that. Do what you can get on the

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phone call somebody you haven't talked to in a while. Write a

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little thank you note to somebody you admire. Do

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something every day to make you feel your power. That's your

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true power. We feel powerlessness when we look

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outside of ourselves and see chaos. And remember, news is

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counting on us feeling fearful. So we'll come back to find

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comfort which we never do. We just get overwhelmed. It's

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important by the way to stay informed. I'm not I am I do my

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best to stay informed. But I don't indulge. I don't allow

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myself to get caught up in the drama and the chaos because

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that's not helping anybody. I also am a big supporter. I

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recommend meditation to every one of my coach clients. I

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believe in the power of meditation I meditate just about

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every day, even if it's only 10 minutes, whatever, whatever it

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can be for you. It can be 10 seconds at your desk, watching

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your breath in and out. Nice slow inhales and exhales that's

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meditating. It can be walking and focusing on nature. That's

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meditating. But getting away from the nuttiness of this

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overload of information that we've all been subjected to, and

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many of us think we have to stay with, I know people who have

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their radio on all day long, and then they're tuning into the

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news, and then they're putting their radio back on. I'm like,

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Dude, you are going to be in a puddle on the floor? I can't

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help you at that point. You know, because you've given up

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control, you've given up control of the thoughts you choose to

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think.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah, yeah. And it's our we have our devices and

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our phones are in our hands. And we can so easily just what's

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going on now, it's now and so I love that just what our power in

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what we can do and those ideas you gave that is actually very

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empowering to think about what we can do in our, in our areas

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in our community, that is going to make a positive impact. I

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love this conversation and all this. But I guess for sake of

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time, you know, I could talk about this all day, and you've

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given so much great information. But I guess just for people, you

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know, wanting to know more and kind of continue on these

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thoughts. What is the best way for them to reach out? I'm

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assuming, you know, your books are probably one thing for

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people to consider that they can get those? Is it online that

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they can purchase those or

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they can go to Amazon, the books are on Amazon, anybody

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can connect with me at Kathy donovan.com I have a newsletter

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that I send out with little tidbits of you know, hopefully

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comfort and support. And I'm on Instagram and Facebook and you

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know, I do my best you know, as I said, Kaylee, I like to

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encourage people to be the light when it's dark. Like that's what

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I try to do is post helpful, you know, help you to reframe your

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thoughts so you can stay grounded in your life instead of

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feeling unmoored all the time. It's so easy to become

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ungrounded and unmoored. So through any social media through

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my website, Amazon has books.

Kalee Boisvert:

Yeah, absolutely. I was I was saying

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that before we started that I was reading your book, and it

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just felt it was uplifting, it felt good to read it. So I

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highly recommend that people go take a look. So the books were

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inspiration and action, a woman's guide to happiness, and

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then also unconfirmed, harnessing the radical power of

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courage. And I saw in your bio, you're also working on another

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book for directed at younger people.

Unknown:

Yeah, I'm working on I'm actually working with a

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teacher right now on helping kids, young girls in grade six.

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It's called The Little Book of affirmations for kids of all

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ages. And it's intended for girls at that age, but also

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their parents and grandparents and anybody who's in the room

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when they're looking at it. Because we can all use

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affirmations, I use my affirmations every single day to

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remind me of the truth of who I really am.

Kalee Boisvert:

I love it. That's, that's exciting. I think

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that's so needed. I have a young daughter. So that's exciting,

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because you think back to yourself. And that is, that is a

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stressful time for girls that age. So I love the work you're

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doing. Thank you so much, Kathy, for being here. I'll make sure

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to include that all in the show notes too for so people know

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where to contact you and reach out if they want to chat

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further. Again, thank you so much. I think this is so timely

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for what we're going what we're going through right now and so

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many great suggestions for people to be in that happiness

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to embrace that that happiness within ourselves.

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Right, Kelly, I really appreciate you thank you for

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having me as a guest.

Kalee Boisvert:

Thank you so much. And thank you everyone for

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tuning into this episode. And I will catch you on next week's

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episode. Bye for now.

Kalee Boisvert:

I hope you found value in this episode. And because I'm such a

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proponent of taking confident action, I want to pose a

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question to you the listener. What is one action that you feel

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inspired to take after listening to today's episode? If you enjoy

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listening, please subscribe and share with your friends and

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family. Thank you so much and I will catch you next time