March 31, 2022

What Were You Thinking?

What Were You Thinking?

“The thoughts that we think determine everything.” Explore how our thought patterns directly impact our experience. The power to create your own reality lives within you. Your time is now! Are you ready?

About the Host:

Jani Roberts is the Owner of Alignment Essentials, a health and wellness company spanning the fitness, self-improvement, and mindfulness spaces. She is the creator of the Warrior® Workout, Moving Meditations™, Inspirational Conversations™ and all of the Alignment Essentials programming content. In addition, Jani is an International best-selling author of the book, Navigating the Clickety-Clack, How to Live a Peace-Filled Life in a Seemingly Toxic World.

Jani has over 40 years of experience in the health and wellness field. She owned and operated a large gym franchise in Florida, as well as a boutique studio for several years where she specialized in health and wellness related services, products, preventative health education, personal training, small group fitness classes, private nutrition and health coaching.

She has literally trained hundreds of thousands of instructors around the world, and she was the featured choreographer and performer on numerous training DVDs. She has presented for dozens of large Health and Wellness brands such Nike, and Adidas. She holds several certifications through ACE, AFAA and NASM.

Jani travels extensively as a speaker and presenter sharing her Alignment Essentials wellness tools and helping people find more joy in their lives and is currently training at the Shamanic Institute of Healing. 

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Transcript
Jani Roberts:

What? Life isn't supposed to suck? Get out of

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here. Life is supposed to be good for me? I don't think so.

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True. Did you know that you have the power to create your own

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reality? True? Did you know that you can live the life that

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you've always desired? Holy? That's right. And that's why

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we're here. Are you ready? Unless you're on Joy overload,

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you've come to the right place, it's time to get out of your own

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way and start creating more of what you want, and less of what

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you don't enough with the excuses. I'm your host, Jani

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Roberts, let's do this.

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Welcome back warriors. Alright, let's get to this work. This is

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the work this is why we're here and what we're intended to do.

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And we're going to begin with thoughts. We're going to move to

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beliefs, then we're going to move on to patterns of behavior,

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and to the best part of her the reality that we're experiencing,

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living in alignment experiencing more of what we want, and less

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of what we don't. So let's get started with the thoughts, the

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thoughts that we think determine everything. First question for

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you grab a piece of paper, if you'd like, it's really helpful

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to write this down. What do you believe? What do you believe you

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can control in your life, it's really important to know this.

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Because what you believe you can control is where you're probably

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going to give most of your attention. And whatever you give

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your attention to is what you're going to experience more out. So

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let's look at this. If I have thoughts that continue to

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circulate through my mind, I am going to believe in those

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thoughts. Let me give you an example. I'm told when I'm

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younger, that I'm not smart enough, I'm too stupid. I'm too.

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I'm too smart. I'm too young. I'm too inexperienced, I'm too

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experienced, I'm too fat, I'm too thin, whatever the label is

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that someone has placed on you. And perhaps that person was

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someone that you felt you were supposed to be listening to

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someone that you looked up to. Yeah, we've all experienced

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this. What we don't always realize is that we carry beliefs

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as a result of what these people have said to us now, does this

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necessarily make them bad people? Not at all. I believe

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that we do the best that we can with what we have. And what we

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know, we don't know what we don't know. So if my mother

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taught me fill in the blank, then I'm probably going to teach

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my kids fill in the blank. Even if I don't know why. It's just

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because it's what I know. So now here I am this kid who's been

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passed down these thoughts, generation to generation. And

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these thoughts that have been swirling around in my mind are

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now beliefs. In other words, I believe that about myself, I

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believe that life is supposed to be hard, no pain, no gain. You

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know, whatever it is, there's so many scenarios, I don't want to

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pretend that I know what you're experiencing. But for me, I

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could certainly say things like, if you want to experience love,

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then you need to trust. If you want to have things, then you

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need to work hard. If you want people to treat you, well, then

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you should treat them well. All relationships are worth

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dedicating your entire life to, don't ever give up.

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You have to persevere. If it's not working out, you just need

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to try harder. Now, did anybody teach me those things? Because

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they had an intention of hurting me or not helping me or

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whatever? No, not at all. Now, there are many of us that are

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experiencing things that are dark. People are teaching us

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things that are really, really dark, because that's been their

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experience. And so again, they're passing on what they

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know what they've experienced, because it's all they know, you

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only know what you know. So if I believe all men are just evil,

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and you can't trust any of them, because that's been my

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experience. And that was my mother's experience, or

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whoever's experienced and they pass that on to me, then yeah,

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there might be some trickle down there. And I may end up

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believing that. So I want to ask you that question. What do you

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believe you can control? I don't want you to grab a piece of

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paper and I want you to write it down. What is it in your life

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that you think you can control? And I can't answer these

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questions for you. The answers lie within you. No one has

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answers for you. There's guidance there's perspective.

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But we each individually have to do the work because that's where

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the magic is. That's where the answers lie. That's how we

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expand. That's how we really experience peace, joy, and

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alignment. So from my perspective, the only thing that

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we can really, truly control our own thoughts. I can control my

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thoughts. I can't control your thoughts. But I can control

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mine. Now, easier said than done, for sure. There was a time

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when I, I didn't think I could control my thoughts at all. I'm

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a complete I'm a total crazy person like I'm, I'm thinking

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all these thoughts. It's like I'm, I have split personalities,

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there's so much going on. And I can't quiet my mind. There's so

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much incoming. I don't know where I picked up the belief

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that what other people think about me matters. But somewhere

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along the line I did. And it's really forcing me to be in a

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complete state of struggle. I can't find any piece because I'm

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never going to be what I think other people think I should be

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particularly when I don't even know what that is. And they

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can't articulate it. So certainly I can't. So again, if

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the only thing that we can control is our thoughts, then

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doesn't it seem like a good idea that we start working practice

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that helps us to do just that? How do we do that? How do we

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start to learn? How do we just get started? How do we learn how

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to control our thoughts? Not only control them, but recognize

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them for what they are? What I would like to suggest is step

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one, first of all, understanding that absolutely nothing is more

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important than that you feel good. I'm going to repeat it.

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Nothing is more important than that you feel good. You can't

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serve yourself and you can't serve others. If you don't feel

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good. Feel well feel whole, feel worthy. So let's say that in the

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eye, nothing is more important than that. I feel good. Now this

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can feel awkward, it can feel selfish, it can feel ridiculous.

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Like as if you don't know what's going on in my, in my house, you

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know, you don't understand like, the only thing that matters is

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that everybody else feels good. Not that I feel good, but that

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everybody else feels good. My kids, my boss, my partner, did a

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dog, it just goes on and on. Freeze. Just give it a chance.

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Nothing is more important than that. I feel good. Okay. So

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that's true. How am I going to make it so I have to start

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paying attention to how I feel. This is going to help me to

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identify my thought patterns. So I begin a process of practicing

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this, paying attention to how I feel identifying how I feel. I

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do this on a regular basis. I've been teaching this practice for

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decades, you're never going to get it done. I'm never going to

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get it done. But it gets so much easier. And now it's second

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nature. There's no quick fix to this. This is why we're here.

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This is the work.

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So I focus. And I take a few minutes, minutes, just a few

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minutes a day, in the morning and in the evening. And identify

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this, how do I feel? Because then I can start to recognize

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the thoughts that are connected to how I feel. Because what I'm

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thinking is directly connected to how I'm feeling. This is law.

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And you can identify this truth very quickly. All you have to do

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is the next time you start having a conversation with

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yourself, which by the way, you're having one right now,

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while you're listening to this podcast, you're going on I don't

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know maybe I'll actually I resonate with that. I don't know

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about that part. Maybe you're having a conversation all day

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long. The only time we don't is when we sleep and when we

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meditate. And both of those thoughts can still come in on

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some level. But we can slow it down. Okay, so here we are. I've

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got these thoughts. I keep thinking them. They are directly

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connected to how I feel. I'm always circling back to the fact

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that I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy. I don't deserve

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whatever it is. You fill in the blanks, only you can fill them

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in from there. I start jotting down the patterns maybe I pay

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attention for 30 days and I started noticing patterns, okay,

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for the last 30 days, I've felt mostly frustrated, self

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confident, worried, and doubtful. So judgment, this is

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just the truth. Based on what I've been noticing, consciously,

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intentionally paying attention to, this is how I've been

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feeling.

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Okay, good to know. Now, what would I like to be experiencing

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more of, and are those thoughts and patterns serving me in order

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for me to shift into what I want to experience. So again, my

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thoughts are directly connected to my beliefs. So I could feel

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myself circling around to that I'm not worthy. Throughout that

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30 days, it's okay, right now, I'm just observing, I'm not here

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to judge, I don't want that to, I don't want that to make me

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feel, you know, even more frustrated, I want to just

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notice, I want to learn from my own experience, this is my most

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powerful teacher, this is the only thing I can control. So

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now, I'm realizing and I'm understanding that by paying

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attention to how I feel, I'm recognizing my thoughts. And

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those thoughts are then helping me to understand my beliefs,

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which create my patterns of behavior, I don't feel worthy,

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because I'm believing that thought that I was taught, that

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created a belief that I'm not worthy. So I just keep choosing

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a partner that makes me feel thought worthy. That makes

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sense. I'm not crazy, I'm not a loser, because I keep choosing a

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partner that isn't good for me, doesn't serve me doesn't love me

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doesn't make me feel worthy. Of course, that's what I'm going to

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experience. Because my beliefs based on my thoughts are

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creating this pattern. Wow, this is really powerful. This is

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important for me to know, because this means I can change

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it, that pattern of behavior doesn't need to one more time,

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lead to me choosing a partner that's kind of the same partner

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all over again. And here, I am still living a life. That is not

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the life that I really desire. But now I understand why. So

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what do I do to change that pattern, I have to pay attention

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to how I feel. Because nothing is more important than that. I

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feel good. That becomes my priority. So if you're in my

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space, and when I'm around you, I recognize the fact that I

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never feel good. Every time I turn around, you're saying

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things to me. You're doing things that don't support me and

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feeling good about myself? Do I need to resent you for it? No.

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Do I need to understand that you are also trying to figure this

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out? Yes. And do I need to take ownership for what I'm

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experiencing? Of course I do. Because that is what I can

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control. Now you might say, well, that's really easy for you

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to say, but I can't move out of here because I don't financially

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I can't do that. etc, etc, etc. Okay, I'm not here to judge your

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situation. I'm just here to crack your heart open to the

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possibility of having different perspective about what you're

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experiencing. Maybe it's gonna resonate with you. Maybe it's

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not, I don't know, I don't have the answers for you. You do?

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That's what I'm here to share with you is that you do so just

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try it. What have you got to lose? Give it a shot. And let me

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tell you something else here that's really interesting. The

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people that tend to just agitate, keeps showing up in a

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different way, shape or form. They're here to teach us what we

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don't want, which really draws our attention to what we do want

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so in a kind of messed up way. They're serving us because we're

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absolutely sure that's not what we want. It's like when I got

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divorced I was crushed it was all my fault what's wrong with

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me I'm not worthy. I don't deserve to be loved. Bla bla bla

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it was very real. I'm not making light of it. However, I can

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honestly say at this point in my life, I just like wrote a thank

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you lover letter. a thank you letter. Almost a thank you

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lover, which is kind of interesting, huh? Very

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interesting, because I'm grateful. Thank you for showing

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me early in my life. What I absolutely do not want even

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though I really was sure I did. I do not want a relationship.

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That's not what I want. I could have stayed there for decades.

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And if I had, that's okay too, because we're never going to get

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this work done. We only know what we know. So when people say

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it's never too late, that's what they're talking about.

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All we have is time. We think we don't have any, but it's all we

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have. What are we going to do with it? Let's see, I can worry,

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I can stress, I can be frustrated. I'm saying all these

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things because I've done it. I can be angry, done that for

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decades. I can be sad, depressed, lonely, isolated. And

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I'm not saying I didn't experience any joy in my life,

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experience tons of joy in my life. But all of those other

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emotions and feelings were there as well. And knowing what I

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know, now, I can honestly say to you, from my heart, that I don't

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have to do that anymore. It doesn't need to take as long

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because I'm doing the work. And now I recognize it more quickly.

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Why? Because nothing's more important than that, I feel

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good. And if that is really true for you, if that inner being

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whatever you want to call it, your inner child, your gut,

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whatever you call it, if that's always nagging at you going, you

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deserve more, what if? What if nothing was more important than

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that? You feel good? What if you let the rest of that shit go.

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And you start controlling what you can control, you start doing

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the work that you came here that you intended to come here to do,

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which is to experience alignment, joy, peace. And you

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can actually come to the place where you're grateful for what

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hasn't worked in your life. Because once you come into

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alignment, you're able to look at hot and go, thank you. Now I

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understand what cold is. You can look at anger, hate, as a

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powerful words. And you can say thank you. Because now I really

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know what love is. Now I really understand compassion. You can

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look at isolation and loneliness. And go Thank you.

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Because now I appreciate my relationships in a way that I

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never could have if I wouldn't have known what it was like not

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to have them. You're doing so well. You created this, this

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conversation that we're having today. You created it, you

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attracted it into your experience. You're flipping

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through podcasts going, Oh, that looks interesting. No accident.

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You are guided, you are powerful. And you have the

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ability to create your own reality. You can live in

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alignment. Is there work to do? Is there a gap to close? Hell

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yeah. But the ride is going to be interesting. The ride is

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going to be exhilarating. No more resistance, no more pushing

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against. Okay, that's not totally true. There'll be some,

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there'll be some, but you'll have a sense of humor about it.

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Eventually. It just takes a little time. You already know.

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This is the work that you need to do. Now, let's get to it.

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It's time to live in alignment. Your time is now. This is it.

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We're going to get started. That's all we have to do. Once

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we get started, the momentum kicks in. And the party is on.

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Thank you so much for joining me for this episode. I can't wait

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to chat with you next week. We're going to continue this

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ride. There's no turning back now once you know what you know.

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There's no going back. I look forward to talking to you soon.

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Be well. W Well, warriors, that's a wrap. Until next time,

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step into your power and remember, we're all in this

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together and your time is now time to live the life you

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deserve. Go to alignmentessential/podcastgift

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to begin your journey. We're outta here. Peace.