Sept. 18, 2023

Grace Oben - Living Your Purpose | DFS 260

Grace Oben - Living Your Purpose | DFS 260

Get all the inside secrets and tools you need to help you develop your intuitive and leadership skills so you are on the path to the highest level of success with ease.  Grace Oben, is a highly sought-after speaker, coach and author who is dedicated to empowering women, unwed pregnant teens, and teen moms to find clarity in their purpose, make a lasting impact in the world, and make money living it. With a passion for helping others, Grace has been featured on GO TV, Global News, Podcast, Womanition, and Diversity Magazine, where she shares her valuable insights and inspirations.

In this episode you will learn:


  • We were born for a purpose
  • Living without a purpose is an experiment, a game of trial and error
  • How to identify your purpose


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Transcript
Jennifer Takagi:

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your

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host Jennifer Takagi and it's PATA Palooza, de I'm so excited

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to meet so many people, I may not have had opportunities to

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meet otherwise. And this guest is going to delight as well.

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Grace Obon isn't from Canada. And Grace has several talk

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titles. I believe she's going to talk to us about living on

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purpose. Grace, welcome to the show. And tell us a little bit

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about you.

Grace Oben:

Well, thank you so much, Jennifer, for having me

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here. I am so trill it's such an honor to be here today to share

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a few thoughts with your audience. And yeah, poppers. I

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am just so in love with poppers because I believe that every one

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of us was born into this world for a purpose and with a

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purpose. You know, and I also assist I'm a strong believer

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that true fulfillment in life is when you find your purpose and

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start living your purpose. And your purpose you can find

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purpose in your job you can find purpose in your business, you

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can find purpose in your career, is that it's that one thing that

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when you find in whatever you do, or if it's completely

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separate from what you do, you find true fulfillment. And that

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is why I decided to be a purpose clarity coach. And the reason

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why is because I was just in pursuit of my own purpose,

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because haven't worked in the corporate world war in work in

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mental health and all these things. It got to a point in my

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life where I just want to define a who am I? And why am I here?

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On this earth? What am I doing here? And this triggered the

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desire for me to start searching and looking and asking

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questions. And in the process of all of these, I discovered my

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own purpose. I speak, I am a coach, I'm a speaker. I'm an

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author. And in my speaking in my talks, I help people find

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transformation. They find comfort, they find inspiration.

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They find success in whatever they choose to do. Because I

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help them with their mindset and all those things. That's my

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purpose, helping other people find their true self find,

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getting to know who they are, and why have a year in this

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world to begin with. You know, so that is how I began, I began

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doing what I'm doing, helping women, I decided to work more

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with women. Because as a woman myself, I understand this,

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everyday struggles that women go through. I understand those

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turns those stop lights, those speed bonds as a woman. So

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working with women gives me put me in that place where I'm just

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me, I'm just my true self. And I always say to people, life

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without purpose is just an experiment. It's just a game of

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trial and error.

Jennifer Takagi:

I love that and experiment, a game of trial and

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error. If you see me put my head down, it's because I'm taking

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notes

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of that. So

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how, like, I love this topic. And I you know,

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we find our purpose we tweak it, we turn it how we live, our

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purpose can change over time. And as we grow and evolve. How

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do you work with people to get to this point? Is a group

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experience a one on one experience? Like how do you how

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do you do your magic?

Grace Oben:

At this at this point, I do one on one, okay?

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Because that really gives me the opportunity to really be present

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for that person at that moment. Because, indeed, as individual

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we all have a completely different journey. My journey,

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Jennifer is not your journey. Right? My journey is not someone

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else's journey. So the one on one really gives me the

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opportunity to really get to know the person I'm working

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with, they get to really know me. And we really get to talk

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and work in a way that is all centered around them their need

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their journey, where they are at this current moment. At this

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present moment, and where the wants to go. So at this point, I

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do one on one, I love doing one on one.

Jennifer Takagi:

I do too. I do some things in group, which I

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enjoy a lot. But having that one on one conversation and diving a

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little deeper and getting to that, to that next level, that

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next piece of the puzzle that we need. So how did you like you

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were in corporate, you said you were in corporate? I have you

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left corporate altogether now.

Grace Oben:

Not completely. Okay. Not. So I am still in

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corporate, because again, in that work, there is my purpose,

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I'm still carrying out my purpose there. Which is why I

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said, when most of the time people think, oh, to discover my

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purpose, I have to complete my purpose might be completely

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different from what I'm doing, it's possible. But there's also

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a chance that where you currently are, that is where

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your purpose is that onto you get to know that that career,

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that profession, that job is for a purpose, you will not really

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start doing that job with intention, you'll be there like

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I show up, I do my job, job by the end of the month, or the

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whatever the the payment period is, I get my paycheck, that's

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it, I'm good. The way you start working on purpose to living

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your purpose, even within your career, even within your

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business, then you will find a different joy and happiness and

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fulfillment, that you're not just, you know, I said, in

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pursuing purpose while creating abundance, you are still living

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a life in abundance, while fulfilling your purpose is not

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just a business, as usual, is a business with a purpose. And

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this is it's amazing how much difference that does to a

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person.

Jennifer Takagi:

It really does. I had a conversation years ago

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with somebody and I was using the term like values, which

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values and purpose, you know, you can align those typically.

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And I worked for the federal government and I said, I am a

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giver. And I have like a servant heart. And so helping low income

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people call to me, and it fulfilled a lot. And I wanted a

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steady paycheck steady, you know, steady jobs, steady

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paycheck. And so for me that just went very well together.

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And I just remember this conversation so distinctly, my

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friend said, Yeah, I don't. Yeah, I don't do any of that.

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And at that time, he worked for a company and designed speakers.

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He was an engineer, and design speakers for like big

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auditoriums and like conference centers. And it was like, Oh, my

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gosh, you impact so many lives with what you do. Because people

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can hear the message. People can hear the music, like whatever,

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whatever kind of event that there's any sound with. So it

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was kind of interesting that it hit me at that point at that

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time in that conversation, that people just put blinders on and

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just go through the motions without finding why it's

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important, or why they get any joy, or I don't know, sense of

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purpose out of what they do. Like I know, in my 30 year

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career in housing, I impacted hundreds if not 1000s of lives,

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it could have been hundreds of 1000s given some special

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projects I was on. And I liked that I liked that feeling. I

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liked that. That sense of accomplishment and that I made a

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difference in that area in my life. So I love that. Yeah,

Jennifer Takagi:

you're still in your corporate world. But yeah, you're also

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helping people outside of that and probably within it also.

Grace Oben:

Absolutely. Because the difference between the

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person who finds purpose in what they do, and the person who

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doesn't, is how they show up every day. Right, it's how they

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show up. That's that's what makes the difference. So which

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is why it's so important that we really find that purpose in what

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we do. Because then it's gonna show up in the way we show up

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and we serve the people we serve the people. Another person's

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purpose might be speaking like I speak, when I speak, I call as

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speaking or the stage is my playground. Yes, it's like it's

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like you play your your most favourite game in the most

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favorite, a playground, but another person getting on that

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stage is a nightmare or I just need to get in and do my talk

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and get off and cash my check and leave. You see the

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difference between the best

Jennifer Takagi:

both today actually on odd PATA palooza? I

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was fortunate enough to grab a speaker spot. And I talked to

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him for this morning and I said, Yeah, or yesterday, actually, I

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said, Yeah, I'm tied up all day tomorrow because I'm going to be

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on PATA palooza. I've got to give a talk. And I'm

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interviewing people. So don't call me I'm busy. And she was

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like, Oh, you have to give a talk. Because it ready? Are you

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okay? Like she was freaking out for me. And I'm like, I'm with

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you know, it's a playground. It was like, oh, no, I'm sure it

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will be fun. What feels good to plan does not feel good to

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another. Yeah,

Grace Oben:

I can be on stage from morning till night. And I

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will like, every time I get on that stage, my energy just keep

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going up. Because that's my purpose.

Jennifer Takagi:

So right now, other than I had a client call,

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so I hopped off for 30 minutes to have actually a one on one

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call with somebody. But what right now I've been on for eight

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hours and 10 minutes, and we've got like an hour and 20 minutes

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to go. At least, that's when the wrap up starts is an hour and 20

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minutes. So not everybody can This is not for everyone. But

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there are a lot of things we don't enjoy doing that other

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people are like, please sign me up.

Grace Oben:

Absolutely. But me somewhere to collect data as a

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just because I would like you to do, what are you doing to me,

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but put me on this page to make a difference in people's life.

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Put me with their client one on one, to coach them on their

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journey in pursuit of their purpose. Put me in a room packed

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of packed with women having a workshop on how they can find a

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gift, their potential, how they can tell them who they are, and

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how much the wall needs them. Because they are a complete

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package. I can do that. From morning to night, seven days a

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week without drinking water. And I'll be just fine.

Jennifer Takagi:

And you're totally fed inside now. So can

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you I mean, this is a lot of great information. I'm super

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excitable about all of this. Can you share with the audience, one

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thing they can do to see if they're living their purpose or

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to tap into it? Because I have found with people in my life.

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They were doing a job they liked but at some point, it became

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mundane. And I think that's because they didn't see the

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purpose in it. Do you have any tips or tricks or strategies for

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someone to identify that purpose?

Grace Oben:

I always I always say to people like what are your

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talents? What lights you up? What is that thing that if you

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were to do your entire life, you wake up every day refreshed,

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rejuvenated, looking forward to the next day. What is the thing

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that gives you so much joy? Is it just standing in front of

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Walmart and greet every customer that comes in and goes out and

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say Have a great day? What is that thing? Is it creating a

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women's group and spending time with women? What is that thing

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that when you think of it that if I were to be doing this

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thing, gosh, I just want to do it nonstop. What is that thing

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if you can find that thing because it has to come from the

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inside, not from the outside outside, if you can find that

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thing and it could be multiple things. But if you can find that

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pain, there you are on your way to really finding out what your

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purpose truly is. And if it is in your job one aspect of your

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job that you so enjoy do it or you can just stop doing it that

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will make you sometimes neglect the other responsibilities or

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duties because that just that might just be what you just need

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to do. that may just be where your purposes. And if what

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you're doing others just absolutely nothing that really

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excites you that you just show up because you need that

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paycheck, you just want that paycheck, then my question to

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you is, how long are you going to live like that? How long, you

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know, people say, life is too short to be doing what you don't

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love doing, or what you don't enjoy doing. I say, life is too

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long to be doing something that you don't love doing. Because

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then one day is like a month to you. So that's where I always

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encourage people to start. And if what you're doing, you don't

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find any of these, maybe you have to start creating a time

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where you just spend time alone, to just search within you really

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start searching from the inside and start asking yourself some

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questions. Because it's there, Jennifer, it's right there.

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Every one of us have it. Not one person came into this world

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without a purpose. And for no purpose. It's there that we need

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to search. And once we start searching, we will definitely

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find it.

Jennifer Takagi:

I love that. And I have coached with people

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and they might have had that job that they were just doing for a

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paycheck. And sometimes it becomes I need the paycheck, I

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need the benefits because I have flexibility with my children.

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And I need the vacation time, the insurance, all the things

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and I'm paid really well. Well, that can fulfill some of your

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values to provide for your family, right. But then you

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better be doing something on the side, on the nights and the

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weekends that really light you up. Because I'm with you. It's

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not sustainable. If you're doing it Monday through Friday, eight

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to five, and you get no joy out of it. So you better be getting

Jennifer Takagi:

some benefits that make it worthwhile. And you better

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solidly something on the slide.

Grace Oben:

That fills. Absolutely. And the question is,

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yeah, it takes care of all those other things. But how does that

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come out? When your child does something that annoys you? How

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do you react? Because it show comes out somehow or

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unconsciously it shows it shows up. However, pursuing purpose is

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by no way sacrificing abundance, there is abundance in purpose.

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It's like a mango seed. There is the mango tree in that mango

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seed. And there are mango fruit in that mango tree or that seed.

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It's all in there. Now you look at it. It's like a seed, it's

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nothing What would this do, but put it in the ground. You're

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going to have a tree that is going to be fruits upon fruits

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of mangoes. So when people think of pop was a thing, I'm going to

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sacrifice all of these to pursue this. In that purpose. There is

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joy, there is happiness, there is revitalized health, there is

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peace, there is fame, there's affluence and influence. There

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is abundance, there is wealth, there is riches, there is limit,

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there's beauty, there's good slip, there's laughter, there's

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fun, everything. It's a seed that comes with all its

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provision. Everything is in there.

Jennifer Takagi:

And I think one of the best ways to get to what

Jennifer Takagi:

your purpose is, is to take time to be still.

Grace Oben:

Absolutely, absolutely shut out all the

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noise of everything and just the still. I love a long time taking

Grace Oben:

time all by myself and just reflect and have that

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conversation with myself. It's one of the things that I don't

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give it up for any thing else. Everything has its place,

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hanging out with my friends, having that party hanging out

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with my husband doing stuff with my daughter. Everything has it

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plays that from time to time we need to step back and have that

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time alone. And just to that have that self reflection that

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have that conversation session with ourself. It's so important.

Jennifer Takagi:

It's what we have to do. So if someone wants

Jennifer Takagi:

to get ahold of you to find out more about your one on one

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coaching, how would they reach out to you?

Grace Oben:

So they just need to go to WWE dot Providence

Grace Oben:

guide.com Providence guide.com

Jennifer Takagi:

I love that. So I will have that in the show

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notes so people can reach out to you because I think you have a

Jennifer Takagi:

really magical sense about you and commitment to this whole

Jennifer Takagi:

idea of purpose and living out our purpose. I appreciate you so

Jennifer Takagi:

much.

Grace Oben:

Absolutely. Just reach out to me and let's begin

Grace Oben:

the treasure second together.

Jennifer Takagi:

Oh, the treasure seeking. I love that.

Jennifer Takagi:

Let's go to treasure hunt. Thank you, Grace. I appreciate your

Jennifer Takagi:

time today.

Grace Oben:

Absolutely. Thanks, Jennifer. It was an honor. It's

Grace Oben:

a pleasure.

Jennifer Takagi:

I'm Jennifer Takagi and I look forward to

Jennifer Takagi:

connecting with you soon.