In this episode, Ian sheds light on how your behaviour patterns are so firmly embedded, they have developed into an automatic reaction, and in some ways, you were making a decision in such a difficult situation.
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Ian Hawkins is the Founder and Host of The Grief Code. Dealing with grief firsthand with the passing of his father back in 2005 planted the seed in Ian to discover what personal freedom and legacy truly are. This experience was the start of his journey to healing the unresolved and unknown grief that was negatively impacting every area of his life. Leaning into his own intuition led him to leave corporate and follow his purpose of creating connections for himself and others.
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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfilment and contribution, to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the and Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have, okay, let's get into it.
Our behaviour patterns are so hardwired, they become automatic. And many of them we don't even realise they are we think we're acting. In a way we were making a choice. But it's just such a hard wiring. And I want to use two examples to help describe just how hardwired and these are specific to me, I'm sure. If you think about different situations in your life, you may even have some examples yourself, you'll find others where it just happens. So the first one was when I was travelling in 1998. And I'd done I'd been through Asia, Europe, and was heading back through the US before I came home and one of my mates was living in Chicago at the time. So did did New York and then heading over to Chicago and yeah, and all and also very much a line would bounce I was looking forward to getting home but also enjoying my time with with a really close friend. And then. So we went driving somewhere. And I was sitting in the passenger seat. And we pulled up to a car park. And obviously the left hand side sorry, the right hand side of the vehicle. So obviously in Australia, the steering was on the right hand side. And in the US three was on the left hand side, because we drove on opposite sides of the road. And we pull up to the carpark and I'm in the right hand side. And I put the handbrake on. And then we both looked at each other. And we're like, why what just happened. And that was just automatic because I was in the driver's side. And we pulled up with a car pipe, my brain subconscious override, just put on the handbrake. And it's always fascinated me just that that moment. And then another moment, just recently, I was driving with a nother mate, and the visor on the passenger seat where I was sitting, had come away and he needed to repair it.
And it was a glare every day. And it was probably a 10 minute drive. And I reached for that visor, I reckon at least four times, probably a couple more. Even though I knew it was broken, then the visor was under my feet. And I tried to grab it a couple times already. But because the the like I said the unconscious patterning override just had me reaching for it anyway. And it really got me thinking of how often these overrides happened in our life. And we think I want to do that differently next time and yet a scenario plays out. And we just act the same way. So I want you to look at your life specifically. And have a think about where that's playing out at the moment. Where are their subconscious overrides happening to your detriment and this is why it's so important to have that circuit breaker before the circuit breaker itself acknowledgement to have a think about the pattern or patterns that are most pressing for you that you know you need to change. Acknowledge them. Take the time to get them down on paper. Even better if you can find someone to just speak to about them and start trying to get it down best you can have all the different things that apply I am not having to ask not having to answer the why or the house or any of this point, just getting it down. But you can ask questions in that journaling process because that allows space for your brain to then find another answer.
Now, a circuit breaker for some of some of the simple patterns can be this easy. And you can literally reprogram by writing or typing, journaling, typing these different scenarios. For some of the bigger patterns, it's very helpful to have someone in your corner to be able to help by listening, and then if necessary, and relevant and appropriate, giving you some key strategies that will work because they've been through it themselves. There are also lots of modalities that can help with this. I'm a massive fan of Kinesiology, as I'm sure I've said on here many times before, it removes the pattern, you still need to change the habit. And that can be a challenging thing in itself. But habits and much easier to change when you release the actual internal, unconscious subconscious block. It's why I'll be reaching out to my coach today for a few things I've got going on at the moment with some questions because just that even that process of externally, externally processing is just so helpful to me. And I know the benefit of it. So the challenge today for you all is to actually act on this to find the drive. You know, you want this to change. You wouldn't be listening to something like this any if that wasn't the case. Have the drive have the discipline to take action on this to start writing. Start taking personal responsibility so you can get back your power scene, get back your strength, you can really start stepping in to being the best version of you, as Les Brown said step into your greatness. As always, be patient with yourself as you go through this process. And if you have any questions then please do ask you to ask to reach out and ask me if you have any questions. See you tomorrow, or speak to you tomorrow.
I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief. Let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins coaching.com You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins coaching.com forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favourite podcast platform