Being the Provider

Ian Hawkins 0:02

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Not everyone. You know that feeling you get when no matter how much you seem to be doing that people still don't seem to be the never seem to be fully satisfied with what you're providing. And as a parent, or a leader, or to someone in the in the workplace or in your own business, whatever it is that you want to be that provider, you want to be able to give people what it is that they need and what it is that they want. And it also feels good when you do that, right? So why is it that you just can't get to that level of satisfaction, you can't get to that point where you actually feel like you can just pause and enjoy it. So the first step is to acknowledge just how much you're already providing in this space, how much you're already giving people thinking about things, often from purely a financial perspective, from a business pursuits. perspective, from a transactional perspective, I do this I get that, then it's really hard to get to that point of feeling that satisfaction. So it's time to acknowledge just how much you are already providing. Not just from that perspective. Yep. So you're already providing in so many ways, transactionally. But what else are you providing? What are you bringing to the table? What stability are you bringing the you can pause and acknowledge and celebrate just how well you're doing in that space. The fact that you care enough to want to provide for someone to be there for someone like that, in itself is massive. Pause and celebrate that that thought process goes on in your head. The fact that you even watching this now because you're wanting to be more of that provider like that separates you from so many people. Where else are you actually giving? Where you're giving encouragement? Where are you being someone who's just there for someone? Where are you doing things for people in other ways, it's not just purely financially or transaction transactionally. And taking the time to acknowledge just how well you're doing that is such a powerful thing. Because it means stop comparing yourself to where other people are, and what they're providing that you feel like you're not stop looking at what other people are doing and feeling you go better than them. Because both of those things do you a disservice. You're the unfavorably looking at where you're at by comparing to someone who you feel is going better. Or you're getting an inflated version of where you're at. Because you're looking at somebody you may be perceived as not going so well. Keep going on that journey of celebrating what you're doing well, where you're already being that provider where you are making progress for where you weren't previously. That's the only comparison that you need. So the most important thing I can share today is like to be able to pause and celebrate with I'm drawn to a story by late beach Lee. So Australian surfing champion, world champion six, seven times, maybe I apologize, apologies late if I got that wrong. I was hearing your interview and she said the first five board championships. She didn't even pause for more than an hour before she was already thinking about the next year.

Incredible right. But that is that drive. And until she realized that there was no satisfaction because there was always just moving on to the next thing. The next thing is always looking for the next prize the next winner. It's part of what made her a champion. But what was it enabled her to enjoy those last couple of World Championships was because she was able to pause and just acknowledge just how big of an achievement it was all of the hard work acknowledging all of the people who had been there to help and how much that had had an impact. And that's true for so many different sports people. So many people in business There's so many people in all areas of life where they just continually, relentlessly pushing forward and not pausing to realize just how much they are already bringing to the table. So I'm from a sports background. So a lot of the metaphors and analogies I bring are from that perspective. And so in that sports era, I love the validation, right? There's nothing better than, than doing something well, and getting that validation from teammates, or even in the workplace, or from different people in your world, family, everything. And so that feels nice, right? So it's not dismissing it, but it's, but it's like, you don't need that validation, to realize just how much you're providing, you can pause. And so the most powerful way to do that is to take the time to journal every single day and record your wins record where you have provided service, strength, power value to other people in your world. And the more you do this, the more you're going to realize just how much you are already providing, there's going to be a momentum, the subconscious mind gets tricked, because it's like I want more of this in my life. And you'll just find more ways to bring that reminded out in my head now I have a client who's been religiously journaling journaling for the last six months. And one of the things that he's noticed is, his results have improved, absolutely. But he's got much more of a level feeling within him now. He's not having those writing those ups and downs all the time. He's feeling more balanced, you've got more of that peace of mind. And he's seeing such a brighter future because in the past, he was just expecting the next down to come. But it just hasn't happened. Since he's been doing that going through that process. That's the power of this is what's possible for you. If you take the time the doing right, the key part is the doing to get take that action. So overwhelming to think it but actually having that discipline that drive to take the action and journaling is a great place to start building that, that discipline. To stop. Acknowledge how much of a provider you already are. Not just from a transactional lens, but holistically and celebrate those wins. Celebrate all the already brings to the table. See them all.

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