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Being a covid-single may be a little bit like Chinese food?
Why is being a covid single without the ability to mingle a little bit like Chinese food? It could be a little bit sweet and little bit sour. when our very being cries out for connection, and when we are encouraged to be an island, how does one find sweet love?
And if we were to find sweet love what then? How was it last time? Where did the relationship sour? When relationships fail, it often is because of, emotional patterns.
So, if you think back, recall the end of a relationship, did it end due to a similar reason to an even earlier relationship end? If this is possible, then maybe it will show up in a future relationship too.
Why do the patterns show up? Just like apple pie may bring sweet memories, something emotionally painful from our past can become a trigger to a future event. For example, maybe trust was broken, and then we have a challenge trusting someone else, even though they have never done anything to provoke dis-trust. So, we engage in a pattern, possibly jealousy arises, when our mate needs to work late. And possibly, this pattern gets revealed and relived many times. Eventually the mate gets tired of being falsely accused and the relationship ends. But will it be different in the next relation ship? Probably not, until we choose to do the work to release the emotional pain.
Then there is the fact that relationships have natural phases, and those same phases exist in each relationship. For example, let us say it is the time to deepen a commitment. And each time that phase arrives, this person chooses to leave. Unable to commit.
And the cycle continues with us, without our awareness.
There are more phases that naturally arrive that will challenge us. Life is like that, we re meant to grow and learn! It can be sweet, if when this phase arrives, that the love is there, if the "why" the relationship is important then we could choose to figure it out. It takes the mindset of being willing, awareness of the returning pattern and how to process and move forward.
In the end it comes down to us. The buck stops here. As always, it becomes our journey to improve ourselves, so we can enter a relationship looking towards the future rather than hold a piece of the past in our minds eye. Because if our heart and mind are connected to the painful past, then the bitter truth is, we may not be truly able to embrace love in the future. The past can rob future happiness.
We understand that no matter what is happening today, live continues to refresh and flow. Universal laws, the laws of nature, death and taxes are the only stale absolutes. But as life flows, sometimes we loop! round and round we go through the same life lesson, and without change that hamster wheel will find us gain, when that same relationship phase comes round. Life can be like that, or it could be exceptional.
Awareness is the gate to neuroplasticity. It is how we are being as we move through life that truly makes the difference. With happiness at the center, life can flow through ups, downs, and hardship. We can mend fences, learn to forgive and most of all, learn to love ourselves.
Neuro-science teaches us that happiness is a quality we all possess. It is more than a feeling; happiness defines everything about life and enjoyment.
From feeling inspired, creativity, passion, and adventure. Happiness creates a ripple effect into every shadow of our being, brightening and heightening our ability to thrive. When happy, we build greater careers, more wealth, are healthier and have longer lasting and more fulfilling relationships. Our children and families thrive too! Happiness influences not just ourselves, but butterflies into our abilities to achieve our dreams and experience our magnificent successes.
I don't have to tell you; it is a lot more fun hanging out with happy people. So why not chose to be one of them? It took me a while to choose happiness. I had glimpses of what life could be like, but I had not discovered the secrets to happiness yet.
Thankfully, I got tired. Tired of the pattern, figuring out that it was me ll along that was in the way of my happiness. And I chose to change. I know now that there are proven and effective tools to shift mindset and I have enjoyed a happy life for decades.
And not to say that life does not throw a curve ball once in a while, but I know how to hit a home run! Happiness is kind of like having your star align. Small adjustments, just like the rocket heading into space, off course, but with continual minor adjustments makes it's target.
I have found that it is consistency that matters. Intention needed. And today could be the perfect time! Sometimes it takes a major event for us to change.
Well here we are after all. A major life event, that has sparked some new insight into what we really want, and why it is important. For me it was surviving that plane crash. When the plane I was a passenger in crashed in a river, my life was forever changed.
As water flooded the cockpit, I knew that I needed to be really intentional. It was scary, There was a good change I would not make it out alive. But when I did, I was darn sure I was never going to take life for granted again.
With a new lease on life, I found a gentler part of myself. I discovered more of who I am. And I discovered that I needed to take better care of myself.
In the weeks that followed, I discovered that there were parts of me that I really didn't like. Angry parts, arrogant pieces that really shone light on my self esteem. On the outside, maybe not as visible but they were there and in my way.
It took looking inside, exploring the why's, and doing the work. And it did not have to be so hard all the time, but I did need to be reminded all the time. I would see my patterns rise and have to embrace that I needed to work on myself.
I know now that these patterns showing up are a gift, because now I am aware, they exist and have an opportunity to change. Engage in the journey so maybe this will be that last time they show up now.
And when that little voice inside my head still chatters. And I speak to her, give her a voice and thank her for her opinion. My go to phrase now, Oh that's interesting" Thanks for mentioning it and then I move on. By hearing and acknowledging my inner voice, she rests. And of course, as an NLP trainer I engage in neuroscience processes that shift my neuro pathways naturally and easily. So, if you re looking for love, begin with the self and install happiness first.
With a clear intention, not just to find love, but to live in love, and without the pattern.
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#myfreedomdomday #whatdoesfreedommeantoyou #mindyourfreedom Adele's bio: I strive to live the best life possible. I am a survivor of a plane that crashed and flipped in water. That experience of drowning and how I made my escape forever change my belief in what is possible. I became obsessed with neuroscience. Wanting to understand the power of the mind. If my mind could source information locked deep within my mind, while starved of oxygen. I wanted to know how to access and use that same mind power everyday. My experience became the driving force of my life purpose. The stuff I now know to be true
I consciously live my values. Being clear about what I do and don't want. Making value based choices to ensure I love the life I wake-up to every day
I thrive on learning, growing and expanding my awareness so I can embrace all that life has to offer. This deep desire of learning enabled a degree in natural medicine, coaching certificate and Trainers certification in N.L.P. and more.
My clients are successful professionals looking for or going through change. They are tired, want to be listened to and are seeking a personalized caring approach.
So, if you are tired of repeating old patterns of behavior or feeling stuck, tune in here. If you experience uncomfortable or imbalanced feelings in your body, this flavorful podcast may resonate
Maybe you are waking up feeling dis-satisfied in the morning? Or exhausted, living under stress or maybe you are exploring new beginnings. One that fulfills your inner purpose. Then you have found your safe haven
As an N.L.P. trainer, I create perceptual shifts needed to reach your vision. And N.L.P. teaches and provide life skills for a beautiful future. Plus it installs the neuro-networking necessary for transformation
My multi-dynamic and personalized approach includes a deep sense of intuition, natural medicine, neuroscience, integrity and care
Clients report that they feel happier, sleep more soundly and experience feelings of deep satisfaction knowing they are living the purposeful life they have been wanting
Natural health: Improving and balancing your body, mind and soul
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Service: Deeply devoted to creating the environment where you can move towards a life you desire and deserve
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