Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce | MAG008

Hello beautiful people. Welcome back to magnetize, where we have the honor and privilege to sit down with the possibility mindset and an open heart to learn more about finding a new season, a new purpose, a new joy in the middle of middle life transition and crisis. Hey, let's talk about divorce. Let's talk about navigating the emotional roller coaster of divorce. Yes, divorce. You know, divorce is not a walk in the park. Divorce is a difficult transition. I know that girl because I have been there. Divorce comes with emotional pain, financial pain, you name it. Divorce is not a walk in the park. Neither is it a walk on the beach. But guess what, it's time we stop being the victim and become the creator of our life. Let's make some juicy lemonade from the lemon before us to do that. For you to be able to do that. You need to allow yourself to grieve. Allow yourself to grieve the end of that relationship. divorce can be a significant loss. So it's important to give yourself permission to grieve the end of that relationship. Allow yourself to feel and process the emotions that come with a divorce. Whether it's sadness, anger, bitterness, confusion, regrets, what ever that is. Allow yourself to feel it and process it. Don't try to get distracted with work and other things. Don't try to distract yourself and put those feelings away and try to be busy so you can distract yourself. Let it sink. Sit with it, or assess it. Give yourself time and space to heal. Acknowledge that it's okay to not be okay. This is a journey. And there are gonna be speed bumps and stop signs. Surround yourself with a strong support system. Lean on close friends and family members who can provide you with a listening ear. Empathy and encouragement. Girl don't try to do this by yourself. Don't try to go through all of this by yourself because you really don't need to. There is always that one person you can talk to you. Always, we all have that one person we can go to. divorce can be emotionally draining. So prioritize self care activities that provides you with joy that gives you joy and happiness. Yes, it's possible to still be happy in the middle of a divorce process. But you need to make that choice. Take care of your physical well being your physical health by ensuring you get enough sleep. It will practice some relaxation techniques like meditation and deep breathing. It's gonna go a long way. A long, long way. As bad as this might seem If you can use this transition as an opportunity for self reflection and personal growth, take the time to evaluate the lessons you learned from the relationship and identify those areas for personal development. Because while divorce can be, it can be a challenge or can be challenging. It also provides an opportunity for a fresh start, always remember that. So take the time to envision the future you really, really want for yourself. This is a time for you to sit down and set some new goals and aspirations both personally and professionally. Create a vision board or write down your dreams, your aspirations to help you solidify your intentions. You know, having a positive future vision can provide motivation, hope and a sense of purpose. As you my dear move forward. Remember healing and moving forward after divorce is a process. So it's really important for you to be kind and patient to yourself throughout the journey. Be compassionate towards yourself during this challenging time. Understand that you are going through a significant life transition. And it's normal to experience a range of emotions. Treat yourself with the same level of care and understanding that you would offer to a close friend or a loved one. Practice self compassion by offering yourself words of encouragement, forgiveness and understanding. This is the set time this is the time for you to set and maintain healthy boundaries. It is really crucial during this time, after a divorce, clearly communicate your needs and expectations with your ex partner, family members and friends. establish boundaries, establishing those healthy boundaries will will help protect your emotional well being and it's also going to create a sense of stability during this period of transition and it's also important my dear to respect the boundaries set by others to foster that healthy interactions and minimize unnecessary conflicts. Divorce you know can bring about a multitude of worries and uncertainty uncertainties about the future. So, focus on the present moment. The now while while it is said it is essential for for you to plan for the future, try to focus on the present moment as much as possible. practice of mindfulness engage in activities that will help ground you in in the year and now. Be present with yourself. Stay present with yourself. And if you think there is a need to seek professional guidance consider seeking one get to speak to a profession sooner

if you really think you need to, because a professional can, can provide you with a a tailored strategy support to navigate the emotional complexities of divorce.

Divorce can be an opportunity for a profound personal growth and self develop a sense of self discovery. I really got to know who I am really got to know me and what I really wanted. After my divorce I began making me a priority. It's not selfish, to put you first. Self love, self care is not selfishness. You can only give from what you have. You can never give from an empty cup. Use this time to explore new interests, hobbies, or skills that you've always wanted to pursue. engaging in activities that bring bring you fulfillment and allow you to rediscover your identity outside of the relationship. Embrace personal growth, opportunities that can help you build resilience, confidence, and a renewed sense of self. And why you're doing all of those. Remember, again, to be patient, and kind to yourself and know that healing takes time. It's not an overnight process. Forgiveness is a powerful tool for healing and moving forward. Forgive and let it go. Forgive your ex forgive yourself. And every other person who was part of the the whole process everyone who played a role to make you be where you are today, going through what you're going through today, forgive them. This involves letting go of resentments, anger and grudges towards your ex partner even towards yourself and every other person that played a role in negative role. Remember that forgiveness is not about condoning. or forgetting what happened now, but rather releasing the emotional burden that could hold you back. When you forgive, you're not doing it for the other party person or the other people. You're doing it for you. So you can move on. You can rebuild your social life. Girl you need to get back to your groove. You need to get your groove back. Divorce can often lead to changes in your social circle. So make an effort to rebuild and strengthen strengthen your social life. Reach out to all friends if possible. Join social clubs and and hobby groups or engage in some community activities. Gail, it's time to rebuild your life. It's time to recreate your life. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people who provide you who will provide you with that love and support. This will provide a sense of belonging, companionship and a really really good distraction from the emotional challenges of divorce. If children are involved, focus on your children prioritize their well being throughout the divorce process, be mindful of their emotions and and provide them a safe place and provide a safe place for them to express themselves. Maintain open and honest communication and reassure them that they are loved and supported.

Understand that healing and moving forward after a divorce is a gradual process. So set realistic expectations. It's essential to set realistic expected expectations for yourself and acknowledge that there will be ups and downs along the way. As you know, it's not a smooth ride. It's not always a smooth ride. It can get really, really messy. The way you stay on the driver's seat of your life, you will be able to manage things in a way that things will not go messy, irrespective of the behavior of the other person or the actions of the other person. Again, be patient and compassionate with yourself as you navigate this emotional journey. Celebrate small victories and allow yourself time to heal without rushing the process. Use this time as an opportunity to rediscover your passions, your hobbies and your purpose in life. I will always say each and every one of us on this planet was born with and for a purpose. Reflect on what makes you happy and fulfilled and actively pursue those interest. Make sure you do the things that brings you joy and fulfillment because this will help us your self esteem, your self confidence your self worth. It will provide you with a sense of purpose and contribute to your well being your overall well they

remember, going through a divorce is not a walk in the park. Neither it is a walk on the beach. To go take care of yourself. Love yourself. Give yourself the best. Be patient with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be compassionate to yourself. Take care of yourself, your health, your mental health, your physical health, make it a pair a priority. So that when you take off you take enough strong, bold and courageous it's your girl Grace Oben and I will see you next week on Magnetize podcast.