Wrapping Up 2025 With Love!
As the year winds down, so many of us want to throw out the whole year - wipe it away, pretend parts of it didn’t happen, or rush ahead into the next chapter without actually receiving the gifts this one offered.
But 2025 was a year that shaped you, stretched you and grew you. It held moments you navigated with courage you didn’t even know you had. And before you run into the new year, you deserve a moment to honor yourself for all of it.
In this episode, Kate guides you through a loving, grounded way to close out the year - without self-judgment, without bypassing, and without pretending the hard parts didn’t happen. This is about integration, celebration, and moving into the new year with so much love and intention.
You’ll explore:
- Why we’re so quick to “throw out” an entire year instead of learning from it
- A process for reflecting on the true gifts of the year
- How to see your challenges as evidence of your growth
- A practice to let go of what you don't want to carry into 2026
- How to step into 2026 with intention and sovereignty
If you want to wrap up this year in the most honest, loving, heroine-powered way, this episode is your invitation to show up for yourself and honour the woman you've become.
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Write out your limitations and get really clear
Kate Harlow:on which ones you're not bringing into 2026 and then, of
Kate Harlow:course, when you get to 2026 you have to be really intentional,
Kate Harlow:right? You have to be really intentional. So what are you
Kate Harlow:ready to let go of? What's the story you've been believing
Kate Harlow:that's been keeping you small and suffering this year, that
Kate Harlow:you're like, No, this is not coming with me, write it out and
Kate Harlow:then do a ceremony and burn it. And with intention, I'm going to
Kate Harlow:bring intention every single day to not carrying this story. And
Kate Harlow:every time I notice that I'm in that story again, like, what am
Kate Harlow:I doing? I shouldn't be writing a book. I'm not a writer. Every
Kate Harlow:time I notice that story, I say, thank you so much for trying to
Kate Harlow:protect me. I've got this and I do the thing anyways.
Kate Harlow:Hello, my loves. Welcome back to the new truth. Happy holidays.
Kate Harlow:Merry Christmas. It is December 23 almost the end of the year,
Kate Harlow:and I'm so excited for you to hear next week's episode I
Kate Harlow:recorded the most beautiful conversation with my one of my
Kate Harlow:oldest and dearest friends from 19 years old, and he is a
Kate Harlow:legend, and he has created the most magical, incredible life.
Kate Harlow:And so next week's New Year's episode is reserved for that.
Kate Harlow:And so I thought today we would focus on you have one week left
Kate Harlow:of 2025
Kate Harlow:if you're listening to this during the week, it comes out,
Kate Harlow:and if not, you know it's still applicable no matter when you
Kate Harlow:listen to it. But right now, there's one week left in 2025
Kate Harlow:hopefully you have been intentional all month, doing
Kate Harlow:things differently, bringing your heroine to the dinner
Kate Harlow:table, bringing your heroine to the events, bringing your
Kate Harlow:heroine to the parties and doing it differently than you would
Kate Harlow:normally do. And today we're going to focus on how to wrap up
Kate Harlow:the year with love, with intention and create. I just
Kate Harlow:feel like in our lives, we're so often just doing our lives and
Kate Harlow:going and going and going and going and going and doing the
Kate Harlow:next thing and on to the next thing. And even when we're
Kate Harlow:achieving really great things, or we're becoming new versions
Kate Harlow:of ourselves, or we're growing in amazing ways, we often forget
Kate Harlow:to stop and even notice. You know, have you ever noticed
Kate Harlow:that, like you, sometimes you'll look back and be like, Whoa, I
Kate Harlow:don't do that pattern anymore. Or, holy, I was able to actually
Kate Harlow:attract that love and receive that love that I was never able
Kate Harlow:to receive before. Sometimes you have we have moments where we
Kate Harlow:see it, but if you don't bring a lot of intention and presence to
Kate Harlow:your life, it's so easy for it to just pass by and for every
Kate Harlow:day to be just be checking off the next things on the list,
Kate Harlow:trying to get through the day, trying to get through the month,
Kate Harlow:trying to get through the year. And I in my experience my life,
Kate Harlow:the more I slow down, and the more I bring intention into
Kate Harlow:everything I do, the more my life tastes good, the more my
Kate Harlow:life feels good, the more my life is, you know, more
Kate Harlow:meaningful and and rich and beautiful. So that's what
Kate Harlow:today's episode is all about. For you to take some time, I
Kate Harlow:suggest, over the next week, you find an evening to have to
Kate Harlow:yourself. Maybe it's a morning. If evening doesn't isn't
Kate Harlow:possible for you that you move mountains, even if you're a mom,
Kate Harlow:even if you have a lot of things on the plan that you move
Kate Harlow:mountains, to have some form of time scheduled, just for you,
Kate Harlow:just for you to be with you, for you to do some reflections, for
Kate Harlow:you to do some visioning, for you to do some connecting deeper
Kate Harlow:with yourself, so that you can go out and say goodbye to 2025
Kate Harlow:with so much love and reverence, no matter what you've been
Kate Harlow:through this year. You know, it seems like often in in people's
Kate Harlow:New Year's posts, I always see towards the end of the year,
Kate Harlow:everyone's posting memes about how, like, you know, well, that
Kate Harlow:was a wash. You know, on to the next year. Next year is going to
Kate Harlow:be amazing, but this year sucked, or this year was the
Kate Harlow:worst, or hope this year isn't next year. And even if you've
Kate Harlow:been through the hardest year of your life, not every moment was
Kate Harlow:hard. And with all hard times comes so much growth and so much
Kate Harlow:catalytic energy for change, for new beginnings. I know that
Kate Harlow:there's so many women who even have come to this podcast this
Kate Harlow:year because Something brought you to your knees, losing
Kate Harlow:someone you love, or having a partner leave you for another
Kate Harlow:woman, or having a job unexpectedly end, or something,
Kate Harlow:some big catalyst maybe led you here. Maybe it wasn't this year,
Kate Harlow:maybe it was a few years ago, and or maybe it didn't lead you
Kate Harlow:to the new truth, but it led you to waking up, into doing your
Kate Harlow:life differently, into living more from your own heart and
Kate Harlow:soul. That's the gift in the hard times, right? The gift in
Kate Harlow:the hard times is we become more devoted to ourselves. The gift
Kate Harlow:in experiencing loss is we love deeper and we feel more and we
Kate Harlow:get connected to how much we care about the people we love
Kate Harlow:and how important it is to actually learn to be present
Kate Harlow:with them. Yeah, when they are here in human form, when they
Kate Harlow:are here in our lives, right? So this is an opportunity for you
Kate Harlow:to go out with a bang, not literally, don't leave the
Kate Harlow:planet, but for you to close this year with so much love and
Kate Harlow:reverence. Kind of reminds me of relationships. Like the old
Kate Harlow:paradigm of breakup is just like, Okay, that was a wash. Cut
Kate Harlow:that person out. They're my ex, that they're wrong and bad, that
Kate Harlow:there's some better person way out there in the front, but
Kate Harlow:what's behind me is now gone, and I'm going to lock it away in
Kate Harlow:a closet forever. Versus that experience guided you somewhere,
Kate Harlow:even if it was an incredibly painful, toxic relationship,
Kate Harlow:maybe you found your voice. Maybe you dropped it, access
Kate Harlow:power in a new way. Maybe you learned how to finally say no
Kate Harlow:and put yourself first. Maybe you woke up and ended on us,
Kate Harlow:ended up on a spiritual, healing, self love Journey,
Kate Harlow:right? There's some gift that comes even from the toxic
Kate Harlow:relationships. Every relationship serves a purpose.
Kate Harlow:Every year serves a purpose. I read something yesterday that
Kate Harlow:2025 was the in the Chinese zodiac was the year of the
Kate Harlow:snake, which is all about endings, letting go, shedding
Kate Harlow:old skin, shedding old versions of yourself. So if you did that
Kate Harlow:this year, good job. Celebrate that. And we're moving into the
Kate Harlow:dynamic fire horse, which begins apparently February 17, so that
Kate Harlow:the Chinese zodiac is in conjunction with the Chinese New
Kate Harlow:Year, which was shortly after our new year. So the year of the
Kate Harlow:horse is all about energetic, bold, transformative period,
Kate Harlow:action, independence and pursuing new opportunities. So
Kate Harlow:talk about a different frequency. So have you
Kate Harlow:experienced a lot of loss this year or endings? Like I ended a
Kate Harlow:three year relationship, I ended living in Greece. I ended my
Kate Harlow:contract with my apartment, I ended my podcast partnership
Kate Harlow:with Catherine, whoa. I just didn't realize that so many
Kate Harlow:things ended this year, not all my choice. Some were my my
Kate Harlow:choice, and some were other people's choice, or the choice
Kate Harlow:of the universe. And so it was all it was a year of endings.
Kate Harlow:This year was a year of endings. It was also a nine year in
Kate Harlow:numerology. So we're moving into new beginnings next year. So
Kate Harlow:this is a great time to look at everything that's ended for you
Kate Harlow:this year, everything you're ready to end and bring some
Kate Harlow:intention in how you wrap up this year. So the first thing
Kate Harlow:that I will say is, or beyond. I always say that. First thing
Kate Harlow:I'll say, No, I've already said many things, but the first step
Kate Harlow:I want you to take is to celebrate everything that you've
Kate Harlow:created this year, everything you've shifted this year in
Kate Harlow:yourself, every new part of yourself you've awakened, every
Kate Harlow:new step you've taken, every courageous decision you've made.
Kate Harlow:Celebrate your new ways of being, celebrate new
Kate Harlow:perspectives, celebrate the crap out of yourself. This is
Kate Harlow:something I learned from Mama Gina. She calls it bragging.
Kate Harlow:Women are taught to be humble and to not brag, to not
Kate Harlow:celebrate. Men celebrate themselves quite easily and
Kate Harlow:beautifully, not obviously, all of them, but for the majority of
Kate Harlow:men, it's easier for them to celebrate what they've done.
Kate Harlow:Women typically shy away from it. We typically hide from it.
Kate Harlow:We typically like, Oh no, it's no big deal that I won that
Kate Harlow:award, or it's no big deal that I performed on stage in that
Kate Harlow:dance show and fucking crushed it. It's no big deal that I
Kate Harlow:finished my master's degree, or that I started a new business,
Kate Harlow:or that I took a big leap and invested in myself in a really
Kate Harlow:big way. Oh, it's no big no no. Like, don't, don't praise me.
Kate Harlow:It's no big deal. And we dim, we dim it down, right? Because
Kate Harlow:we've been taught not to celebrate. We've been taught not
Kate Harlow:to put the attention and focus on ourselves. So here, go big,
Kate Harlow:go big. Go big, go big. And I would start with writing. So set
Kate Harlow:a symptom time that you can have a me night or a me morning.
Kate Harlow:Light some candles, put on some music, make a cacao, make a
Kate Harlow:matcha, make something that's yummy and delicious to you, and
Kate Harlow:be intentional with celebrating, bragging. What are you proud of?
Kate Harlow:What did you do this year that you never imagined in a million
Kate Harlow:years that you would do or that your saboteur always told you
Kate Harlow:you could never do? What did you stop doing? What parts of you
Kate Harlow:did you stop participating in? What patterns that usually show
Kate Harlow:up? Have you shifted? You know, how much more have you loved
Kate Harlow:yourself and shown up for yourself, even if it's just
Kate Harlow:listening to the new truth every week? What have you done for you
Kate Harlow:celebrate the crap of you out of yourself? Women need to
Kate Harlow:celebrate ourselves more. There is such a gift in celebration,
Kate Harlow:because what it does and also when you celebrate yourself,
Kate Harlow:we're way more comfortable also celebrating each other without
Kate Harlow:feeling jealous or competitive or comparing ourselves, we can
Kate Harlow:that. That's what one of my favorite things about the the
Kate Harlow:reclamation community and the immersion community, all the
Kate Harlow:heroin sisters I work with, is the beauty of how much they
Kate Harlow:celebrate each other. There is so much. Celebration. Women are
Kate Harlow:launching podcasts. They're starting businesses. They're
Kate Harlow:sharing their their breakthrough breakdown, breakthrough stories.
Kate Harlow:They're they're
Kate Harlow:traveling together. And there, there's, there's this beautiful
Kate Harlow:ripple effect of how these new paradigm relationships feel when
Kate Harlow:you're finally around women who are rooted in themselves, who
Kate Harlow:are sacredly, you know, self centered, centered within
Kate Harlow:themselves, who are choosing to follow their truth in their
Kate Harlow:hearts and just feel good to be around. And then you get to
Kate Harlow:celebrate together. You know, when, when I do something that's
Kate Harlow:a big deal. I celebrate with my friends, and I share I'm so
Kate Harlow:proud of myself that I did this thing, or that I saw this
Kate Harlow:differently, or I showed up for myself in this way, and I did
Kate Harlow:this courageous thing, because otherwise it's like you're just
Kate Harlow:climbing a mountain and you have no idea how far you've climbed,
Kate Harlow:and most likely, your saboteur is going to tell you like you're
Kate Harlow:still not high enough. You're not doing it right. You're not
Kate Harlow:doing it good enough. Your saboteur is always like your
Kate Harlow:saboteur voice in your mind was trained to take you down, to
Kate Harlow:keep you small, right? It was trained to keep you small
Kate Harlow:because at one point in your life that served you. And so
Kate Harlow:your saboteur is going to take away the compliments. Your
Kate Harlow:saboteur is going to berate you, punish you, tell you where
Kate Harlow:you're still not meeting the mark. And that's why it's so
Kate Harlow:important for that little girl inside who needed so much more
Kate Harlow:love and so much more acceptance and so much more celebration,
Kate Harlow:and she didn't get it to the degree that she needed it. You
Kate Harlow:now become that for her, right? You become that for that part of
Kate Harlow:you that deeply needs it, for you to feel seen, supported,
Kate Harlow:celebrated. So as you wrap up 2025 go back to January, think
Kate Harlow:about your look maybe, look at your calendar, and it can spark
Kate Harlow:like, what were you doing in January? Where were you? Where
Kate Harlow:were you in your job? Where were you in your relationship? Where
Kate Harlow:were you in your single, sovereign journey? Where were
Kate Harlow:you in your life? And what have you created done, stepped into
Kate Harlow:reclaimed, let go of this year, because then you celebrating
Kate Harlow:that. And if you're in the reclamation community, I highly
Kate Harlow:encourage you join. We're doing a live round in January, which
Kate Harlow:is pretty rare these days. It's an online self study program
Kate Harlow:where you get to unlock and reclaim all your heroin aspects
Kate Harlow:that have been shut down by your saboteur. And this community is
Kate Harlow:infectious. It's so beautiful. Everyone celebrates, everyone.
Kate Harlow:Everyone, like supports each other. There's so much
Kate Harlow:community. Everyone's dreaming together, collaborative,
Kate Harlow:dreaming, visioning together, building a new world, building a
Kate Harlow:new future that's available to you. So if you're in our group,
Kate Harlow:or you're in any other group like that, go in and share your
Kate Harlow:celebrations, or share your celebrations with your best
Kate Harlow:friends and encourage them to do the same, so that not only are
Kate Harlow:you celebrating yourself, which is step one, that's the most
Kate Harlow:important thing, is that you you really build the muscle of being
Kate Harlow:proud of yourself, you know, maybe even sitting in front of
Kate Harlow:the mirror, meeting yourself in the eyes and saying, I'm so
Kate Harlow:proud of you and everything you've reclaimed this year. I'm
Kate Harlow:so proud of all the courage it took to leave that job or leave
Kate Harlow:that relationship or say yes to that opportunity that felt
Kate Harlow:really scary, or invest in yourself in that way, or travel
Kate Harlow:to that place. I'm so proud of you for making that move right
Kate Harlow:if I was sitting in front of the mirror and say, I'm so proud of
Kate Harlow:you, Kate, for rolling with the changes and actually listening
Kate Harlow:to your inner guidance and actually having the courage to
Kate Harlow:let things that are beautiful and were were so amazing for so
Kate Harlow:long fall away and and to honor the new form of those
Kate Harlow:relationships and those those circumstances. I'm so proud of
Kate Harlow:you for stepping up and and taking over the new truth on
Kate Harlow:your own, even though a part of you was resistant to it. I'm so
Kate Harlow:proud of you for moving through that resistance and not letting
Kate Harlow:the fear take you out. I'm so proud that you're still here.
Kate Harlow:You get it right. So sit in front of the mirror, pour that
Kate Harlow:into yourself, write it in your journal. Spend some time, but
Kate Harlow:make sure you're intentional. You're not just like scribbling
Kate Harlow:two seconds for two seconds, like really, set the tone, light
Kate Harlow:the candles, Put on the music, put on the diffuser, make some
Kate Harlow:make a yummy, warm drink, and and, and support yourself to set
Kate Harlow:the stage so that you can really, really feel the love. So
Kate Harlow:that's my first invitation to you. Second invitation to you
Kate Harlow:is, what old story or stories are you ready to burn for this
Kate Harlow:year, what story have you been believing and telling yourself
Kate Harlow:over and over again? Maybe it's a story about blame, right?
Kate Harlow:Maybe there's someone you're still holding hostage in your
Kate Harlow:mind, which, of course, is only hurting you, not them. Maybe
Kate Harlow:it's someone that you've been blaming and you've been mad at
Kate Harlow:and you've been avoiding, or you've been cut you've cut off
Kate Harlow:from them, and you're you're bitter and resentful. Maybe to
Kate Harlow:wrap this year up completing that cycle within you, you don't
Kate Harlow:have to do anything with the other person. But perhaps I
Kate Harlow:don't even love the word forgiveness. I think the the
Kate Harlow:most up leveled word is accept, accepting what happened,
Kate Harlow:accepting what was because, arguing with reality we lose. Is
Kate Harlow:100% of the time. So some acceptance, perhaps you a
Kate Harlow:practice you can do with this is write down the saboteur story,
Kate Harlow:first of all, the ways in which that person is wrong and that
Kate Harlow:you blame them and everything that they've done to you. And
Kate Harlow:then underneath that, you can write how that felt and what you
Kate Harlow:what, how you internalized it, what you made that mean about
Kate Harlow:you, and then have your heroin right a perspective of, okay,
Kate Harlow:what was my part like, if I'm taking ownership for this
Kate Harlow:dynamic, what role did I play? How am I responsible for 50% of
Kate Harlow:that dynamic? Was I self sacrificing? Was I shape
Kate Harlow:shifting? Was I not listening to my inner guidance? Was I
Kate Harlow:ignoring my gut? Was I saying yes when it was actually a No?
Kate Harlow:Was I staying in the relationship too long? What did
Kate Harlow:I do? What was my part so not to blame you. You've heard this one
Kate Harlow:before. Not to blame you, but to actually just help you clean up
Kate Harlow:your side of the street. That's my favorite saying. I say that a
Kate Harlow:lot, but it's true, like there's so much power to it. Help you
Kate Harlow:reflect on, okay, how did I contribute to that situation? So
Kate Harlow:I don't carry this blame into 2026 you own your part and Okay,
Kate Harlow:have have some self compassion for the little girl and your
Kate Harlow:saboteur who did, who participated? Okay, I and
Kate Harlow:forgive yourself. I think this is where the most powerful
Kate Harlow:forgiveness comes from. I forgive you my love for
Kate Harlow:contorting yourself and saying yes in that situation when it
Kate Harlow:was such a no. I forgive you for holding that the other person
Kate Harlow:hostage and blaming them for a choice that I made every single
Kate Harlow:day by choosing to stay at that job or choosing to stay in that
Kate Harlow:relationship. So I forgive you for staying as long as you did.
Kate Harlow:I trust that you stayed as long as you had to, and you did what
Kate Harlow:you needed to do. But ultimately, I forgive you for,
Kate Harlow:you know, saying yes when it was no, for lying, for not speaking
Kate Harlow:up. I forgive you, I love you, I've got you and and then you
Kate Harlow:can accept the situation. You know, sometimes it's not that
Kate Harlow:easy, but if it's something that just happened very recently, you
Kate Harlow:might have to move the energy of the feeling. You might have to
Kate Harlow:do some rage exercises. If it's something that's really
Kate Harlow:significant, but even just to, like, really own your part and
Kate Harlow:then love and forgive yourself for the part that you played.
Kate Harlow:Now that's you taking full responsibility, and now the
Kate Harlow:heroine can look through the lens of what was the lesson and
Kate Harlow:the gift of this experience that I want to like just hold as a
Kate Harlow:memory, as if that person's wrong or that situation was
Kate Harlow:horrible. You know, when I first left my nine year mentorship
Kate Harlow:that literally taught me everything I need to know about
Kate Harlow:what I do now and my work in the world, and like world class
Kate Harlow:mentorship, I when I first ended that career, that that
Kate Harlow:trajectory, that that agreement with the company and with my
Kate Harlow:friends that I was working with, I had resentments, and my
Kate Harlow:saboteur was holding on to stories, and it wasn't until I
Kate Harlow:started to really see after I processed all the feelings I had
Kate Harlow:to process the feelings underneath, right, the feelings
Kate Harlow:of being taken advantage of and feeling like I, you know, I was
Kate Harlow:so mad at myself for sacrificing for so long and not speaking up
Kate Harlow:and not working too many hours and burning myself out. And I
Kate Harlow:had all
Kate Harlow:this energy and blame towards the company and blame towards
Kate Harlow:myself, and I had to actually move through the layers of that
Kate Harlow:and let myself feel the feeling and feel the weight of all the
Kate Harlow:times I said yes, when it was a no, of all the times I pushed my
Kate Harlow:body when I had nothing left, and I had to forgive myself and
Kate Harlow:also thank myself right. So forgive yourself first, thank
Kate Harlow:yourself second, because I forgave myself for every time I
Kate Harlow:went against my own truth and for every time my pattern showed
Kate Harlow:up in that dynamic. And then I also thanked myself, because
Kate Harlow:that is the place where my heroine was born, right? It's
Kate Harlow:like, you don't just wake up, you don't just like, stay I
Kate Harlow:mean, we all go through the human experience where you shut
Kate Harlow:down, and then you have to come back and wake wake yourself up
Kate Harlow:and and wake up all the and reclaim all the parts of you.
Kate Harlow:That's like the hero's journey. That's a heroine's journey,
Kate Harlow:that's life. That's a human experience. Like, I think we
Kate Harlow:have such a fantasy of life. You're not just empowered one
Kate Harlow:day. You have to go through you have to have the antagonists in
Kate Harlow:your story and the challengers and the people who inspire you,
Kate Harlow:but also, you know, trigger you, and that like that is part of
Kate Harlow:the hero's journey. So I had to go through that journey, and
Kate Harlow:including the moments where I was quote unquote overworked,
Kate Harlow:but I said yes, and I'm that was a choice, right? And I could
Kate Harlow:blame the company for the amount of hours that they asked us to
Kate Harlow:work and be a victim of that, or I could take responsibility and
Kate Harlow:say, okay, yeah, moving forward, that's not going to work for me,
Kate Harlow:because I'm a projector and my energy's so. Delicate, and now
Kate Harlow:that I have my own business, I'm going to take care of my energy
Kate Harlow:with pristine intention, and I do, but everything I learned
Kate Harlow:going through that process like, that's how I stepped into my
Kate Harlow:power. That's how I stepped into my greatness. Was, was going
Kate Harlow:through that hero's journey of like, being seen and then
Kate Harlow:feeling challenged and then feeling like, you know, blaming
Kate Harlow:people, and then owning my side, and it's like, it's just like
Kate Harlow:part of the journey that's part of the awakening. So I'm now, I
Kate Harlow:sit in this place and looking back 10 years later, and I'm
Kate Harlow:like, endlessly grateful for that experience, and I only see
Kate Harlow:it through the lens of learning and lessons and growth and
Kate Harlow:coming into my power, and literally, my training ground
Kate Harlow:for me being able to birth my own work in the world. I had to
Kate Harlow:go through all of that. You know, it's like the parent that
Kate Harlow:wants to coddle their kids so much that their kids never
Kate Harlow:experienced pain or anything bad happening. Well, that is not
Kate Harlow:setting them up for success in the world, because in the world,
Kate Harlow:bad things happen. Challenges happen. People's triggers and
Kate Harlow:traumas and saboteurs, play against other people's, play
Kate Harlow:against yours and activate you. And that's totally normal and
Kate Harlow:totally part of the human experience. And that's how we
Kate Harlow:come into our power, is those antagonists that come into our
Kate Harlow:stories. So the I wasn't even planning on going here when I
Kate Harlow:wrote down old story you're ready to burn, but I think this
Kate Harlow:is a good one. If you are going into 2026 with any blame, you
Kate Harlow:are carrying unnecessary baggage that doesn't need to be there.
Kate Harlow:There is so much more possible and available for you when you
Kate Harlow:are not blaming people for how you feel and for what's
Kate Harlow:happening in your life, your only power exists in you taking
Kate Harlow:full responsibility and ownership for everything you
Kate Harlow:feel, not blaming yourself, but seeing your side, and then the
Kate Harlow:willingness to forgive yourself for being in your patterns
Kate Harlow:around those that person. Because what really hurt was not
Kate Harlow:their behavior. What really hurt was who you became in their
Kate Harlow:behavior and how you internalize their behavior and all the
Kate Harlow:meaning making in stories you told yourself when they behaved
Kate Harlow:in that way. That's what hurts. It's who you become. And so
Kate Harlow:forgive yourself for becoming that shape shifting, self
Kate Harlow:sacrifice, or that perfectionist controller, or that rigid you
Kate Harlow:know, whatever it might be, whatever version of your
Kate Harlow:saboteur being the fantasy addict who got married and then
Kate Harlow:divorced in the same year, whatever. It doesn't matter.
Kate Harlow:Forgive yourself, right? Let your saboteur event, let all the
Kate Harlow:judgments and stories out, blaming them, blaming you. And
Kate Harlow:then get to the little girl underneath, let her feel what
Kate Harlow:she is feeling and how she's internalizing it. Then let
Kate Harlow:yourself see your patterns and your side. And then let your
Kate Harlow:heroine see it through a new lens. What are the gifts? What
Kate Harlow:have I learned from this experience. How have I grown
Kate Harlow:from this experience? Because there are gifts, no matter what,
Kate Harlow:no matter how painful it was, there are gifts. There are
Kate Harlow:lessons. There is something your soul was meant to learn, and
Kate Harlow:that's why you attracted that experience. And you're going to
Kate Harlow:keep attracting until you learn the lesson. You keep attracting
Kate Harlow:more experiences of the same. So get the lesson. This is an
Kate Harlow:opportunity to get the lesson. So the other way I was looking
Kate Harlow:at old story when I first wrote it down, was like, what stories
Kate Harlow:have you been believing about yourself? Like, let's say you
Kate Harlow:have a deep dream of birthing a business. There's like,
Kate Harlow:something inside of you, like, I want to, I want to own a Pilates
Kate Harlow:studio one day. Or I want to start a dance movement that has
Kate Harlow:never been done before, that like, helps women shake off
Kate Harlow:their trauma and awaken their Shakti like never before. Or I
Kate Harlow:want to write a book based on this wild experience I had in my
Kate Harlow:mid 30s. Or I want to whatever the dream might be, right? The
Kate Harlow:vision, the like, if you have a story that's telling you you
Kate Harlow:can't, you shouldn't. That's ridiculous. Don't even bother
Kate Harlow:you. Are a fraud. Nobody's gonna want that. Nobody's gonna sign
Kate Harlow:up for that. Like every, every person who ever started a
Kate Harlow:business or had a dream and took took steps towards making that
Kate Harlow:dream in reality. Every person on planet Earth has that has the
Kate Harlow:saboteur thoughts that are like, don't go that way. Don't go in
Kate Harlow:the direction of your heart and soul. Stay here where it's safe
Kate Harlow:and miserable. Stay here where it's safe and lonely. Stay here
Kate Harlow:where it's safe and not safe at all, because you feel fearful
Kate Harlow:every day. Everyone has that. So what are the stories? So if you
Kate Harlow:have a big dream, you're ready to birth in 2026. Sounds like
Kate Harlow:it's a good year for it the fire horse. I mean, come on, if you
Kate Harlow:have a big dream, and if it was a nine year in numerology, that
Kate Harlow:means next is a one year, which is all about beginnings and
Kate Harlow:leadership and stepping into your power. So maybe your old
Kate Harlow:story is you'll never have love again. Like, what is the tape
Kate Harlow:that you keep playing? Or there's something wrong with you
Kate Harlow:because you're single, or you have to stay where you live.
Kate Harlow:There's no other options to go somewhere new because X, Y and
Kate Harlow:Z, whatever the limiting It's basically your limitations.
Kate Harlow:Write out your limitations and get really clear on which ones
Kate Harlow:you're not bringing. Into 2026 and then, of course, when you
Kate Harlow:get to 2026 you have to be really intentional, right? You
Kate Harlow:have to be really intentional. So what are you ready to let go
Kate Harlow:of? What's the story you've been believing that's been keeping
Kate Harlow:you small and suffering this year, that you're like, No, this
Kate Harlow:is not coming with me. Write it out and then do a ceremony and
Kate Harlow:burn it. And with intention, I'm going to bring intention every
Kate Harlow:single day to not carrying this story, and every time I notice
Kate Harlow:that I'm in that story again, like, what am I doing? I
Kate Harlow:shouldn't be writing a book. I'm not a writer. Every time I
Kate Harlow:notice that story, I say, thank you so much for trying to
Kate Harlow:protect me. I've got this and I do the thing anyways. Or if I if
Kate Harlow:this story is louder than just being able to talk to it and
Kate Harlow:turn it around. That's my saboteur, of course. Then I'm
Kate Harlow:going to put on some music, and I'm going to do some nonlinear
Kate Harlow:movement, and I'm going to kick and thrash and scream and and
Kate Harlow:and shake and make sounds and do whatever I need to do, to just
Kate Harlow:move the feeling and the energy. And then I'm going to sit in a
Kate Harlow:meditation, connect with my heart, and then I'm going to
Kate Harlow:write writing and do the thing anyways. So that's the second
Kate Harlow:step. And the third step is, what energy are you going to
Kate Harlow:bring into 2026, and I said it that way, very intentionally.
Kate Harlow:What is the energy you're going to bring? Like, you know, going
Kate Harlow:to a party. And it's like most people go to a party thinking
Kate Harlow:they're going to get something. You go on a date and you think
Kate Harlow:you're going to get something. You go, you go, you know, to
Kate Harlow:Christmas. You go to Christmas, sit under the Christmas tree
Kate Harlow:with your family. You think you're going to get things. Kids
Kate Harlow:think they're going to get things, all but getting and yet,
Kate Harlow:really, the heroin perspective is, how am I showing up and what
Kate Harlow:am I bringing right? That's you being in the driver's seat of
Kate Harlow:your life. So if I'm the driver now, and if I'm no longer the
Kate Harlow:passenger of my life, I'm no longer a victim. I'm no longer a
Kate Harlow:victim of circumstance, a victim of limitation, a victim of fear,
Kate Harlow:a victim of smallness, of who I've who I thought I was, but
Kate Harlow:I'm actually becoming the heroine of my own story, the
Kate Harlow:main character, the leading lady of my story. I'm the writer. I'm
Kate Harlow:the director, co writer, co director, because the universe
Kate Harlow:is also leading you. What is the energy I'm going to bring into
Kate Harlow:2026, so I'm going to say for myself, I'm going to bring saga
Kate Harlow:saga. It's my favorite. You heard me say it last week,
Kate Harlow:probably many weeks, my clients talk about getting it tattooed
Kate Harlow:on their arms so they remember when they live in North America
Kate Harlow:or somewhere, that's fast paced. Saga, saga, slowly, slowly.
Kate Harlow:I'm going to bring into 2026 really slowing down even more.
Kate Harlow:And I've slowed down more than ever in my life before, but now
Kate Harlow:that I'm living in Kenya, and I even noticed when I was walking
Kate Harlow:here to record this podcast, I just had lunch, and I was
Kate Harlow:walking to Villa gorilla, which is the name of the villa that I
Kate Harlow:record in when nobody's staying here, because it's got the most
Kate Harlow:solid Wi Fi. So I'm in Villa gorilla right now. Those of you
Kate Harlow:who've been to Ola pangi know, if you know, you know it's so
Kate Harlow:cute with lots of funky wallpaper. It's such a beautiful
Kate Harlow:little it's like a little two bedroom apartment cottage. And
Kate Harlow:as I was walking here I was in my mind about the podcast, and
Kate Harlow:then I was like, for a second, I noticed it, and I felt this
Kate Harlow:like, like I couldn't even see out of my eyes, because I was in
Kate Harlow:thought, how often does this happen? So I stopped, and I felt
Kate Harlow:my feet, took a breath, stood a little bit taller, opened my
Kate Harlow:heart, and I looked around me, and Ola panky farm, look it up
Kate Harlow:online, is like, the most exquisite gardens in nature
Kate Harlow:you've ever seen. It's like and magical, colorful birds and
Kate Harlow:like, it is so beautiful here. And isn't it wild that we can be
Kate Harlow:so in our minds, that we can actually miss the beauty? Like,
Kate Harlow:how often are you missing the beauty? How often are you
Kate Harlow:missing the magic? How often are you missing the moment? I mean,
Kate Harlow:God, this is the best time of year for that, right? What are
Kate Harlow:you not seeing with your eyes because you're in your mind in
Kate Harlow:the story of the future or the past. So I was thinking about
Kate Harlow:the podcast. I paused. I felt my feet. I stood taller. I took a
Kate Harlow:breath. I looked around and was like, holy shit. It's so
Kate Harlow:beautiful here, and I felt the frequency of the beauty of
Kate Harlow:nature and how she's always calling us to her right, the
Kate Harlow:sunsets, the full moon, the stars, the birds, the bees, the
Kate Harlow:butterflies, the hummingbirds, the the magical beauty of
Kate Harlow:nature. Yesterday, it was warthogs on the on the on the
Kate Harlow:hill, on the ridge, she's always calling us, reminding us, Hey,
Kate Harlow:be here now. There's so much beauty all around you and inside
Kate Harlow:of you and in each other. In every interaction you have,
Kate Harlow:there's a possibility for it to be a beautiful one, even with
Kate Harlow:people who are closed. Right? I've shared all these stories
Kate Harlow:before. If you're new to the new truth, go back. But like one of
Kate Harlow:my favorite things to do is soften and open people who are
Kate Harlow:closed because they have their guards up, and if my guards are
Kate Harlow:down and my heart is open, they will open. You know, if I stay
Kate Harlow:in curiosity and love, they will open, and they always do. And
Kate Harlow:it's such a beautiful thing. So there's just beauty everywhere.
Kate Harlow:There's beauty all around us. So that's my intention for 2026 is
Kate Harlow:to really like, receive the beauty of life by slowing down,
Kate Harlow:by being even more present, by creating even more space, by
Kate Harlow:seeing and smelling and feeling and tasting and touching. So I
Kate Harlow:guess, like, the next level of my sensual experience of this
Kate Harlow:human existence is my intention for 2026 So spend some energy.
Kate Harlow:And you know, it's so beautiful. You're hearing this, if you're
Kate Harlow:hearing this week before Christmas, spend some energy and
Kate Harlow:intention with like, Who do I want to bring? What is my main
Kate Harlow:focal point? Now, if you want to join us in the reclamation, this
Kate Harlow:program is 497, you have lifetime access to it. It is
Kate Harlow:amazing. There is a archetype. There's a two modules per heroin
Kate Harlow:archetype where you're going to learn how to unlock all of these
Kate Harlow:aspects of you that have been shut down because your saboteur
Kate Harlow:has been in charge so long, like your sensuality, your ability to
Kate Harlow:express yourself, your ability to trust and feel and connect
Kate Harlow:with your divinity and your inner guidance, your ability to
Kate Harlow:live from your heart and to feel more of life and experience more
Kate Harlow:of life, your ability to be unapologetic and stop caring
Kate Harlow:what everyone else thinks. This is what the reclamation is. It's
Kate Harlow:about becoming the heroine of your life, becoming the main
Kate Harlow:character, becoming the leading lady of the story of your life,
Kate Harlow:and becoming the CO writer and co director with the universe.
Kate Harlow:So it is three months. So basically you'll have the online
Kate Harlow:self study to do over and over and over again. I'm going to
Kate Harlow:link it below this episode, the unscripted woman.com and then if
Kate Harlow:you scroll down the main page, you'll see the reclamation
Kate Harlow:there. You can also access it there if you if you don't see
Kate Harlow:the show notes, but I'll link it below. But basically it's 497,
Kate Harlow:I'm going live, doing a live round, which I normally don't do
Kate Harlow:anymore, but January, I'm doing a live round, because there's a
Kate Harlow:bunch of women that are coming to Greece with me. The immersion
Kate Harlow:is sold out for this year, but you can get on a wait list for
Kate Harlow:next year, but it's in the end of April, beginning of May 2026
Kate Harlow:and those women have to go through the reclamation live. So
Kate Harlow:I've decided to include everyone else inside of the reclamation
Kate Harlow:community, because women love to do it over and over and over
Kate Harlow:again. The inside of the modules, there's video modules,
Kate Harlow:there's meditations, there's music playlists to connect to
Kate Harlow:those aspects of yourself. There are workbooks. There's all sorts
Kate Harlow:of tools and practices that you can go through it again and
Kate Harlow:again. So again, you have access to that for life. But if you
Kate Harlow:join now, you get to come and do it live with me in January,
Kate Harlow:which means you get two zoom calls with me a month where
Kate Harlow:we're going to do live coaching, hot seats, where we're going to
Kate Harlow:you're going to meet other heroin sisters in the community
Kate Harlow:and start expanding your heroin conscious, powerful, amazing
Kate Harlow:women who are celebrating the crap out of themselves and each
Kate Harlow:other community in your life. So you'll grow your community, and
Kate Harlow:I'll do teaching on each archetype, every zoom call as
Kate Harlow:well, because I help deepen what you've been doing. And there's
Kate Harlow:practices and there's diamonds, and it's a really powerful way
Kate Harlow:to start the year. So it'll be January until the end of March,
Kate Harlow:and I highly recommend you join. It's so fun. I would love to see
Kate Harlow:you in there. So click the link to sign up for the reclamation.
Kate Harlow:You'll get to join us for free. The program used to be 997 when
Kate Harlow:I did the live versions of it, and now it doesn't have live but
Kate Harlow:I am doing a live one this January, so you will get a live
Kate Harlow:one with me, which is so amazing, but only for 497 you
Kate Harlow:have lifetime access to it. And yeah, would love to have you in
Kate Harlow:the community. And would love to support you, to bring the energy
Kate Harlow:you want to bring into 2026 to stop being a victim of the
Kate Harlow:script and the story, or stop being a stop being trapped in
Kate Harlow:the story of who you're taught to be, so you can really reclaim
Kate Harlow:the woman that you were born to be. You are so much more than
Kate Harlow:you could ever know, and I have a lot of evidence to prove this
Kate Harlow:is true with women. I can't even tell you how many endless
Kate Harlow:stories I have of women who who I meet them as one version of
Kate Harlow:themselves, and they're absolutely a totally different
Kate Harlow:human on the other side of this journey, because there's so much
Kate Harlow:more inside of you than you could ever know. So wrapping
Kate Harlow:your heart in so much love as you wrap yourself in so much
Kate Harlow:love in the transition out of this year, celebrate the crap
Kate Harlow:out of yourself. Celebrate everything you've done, show how
Kate Harlow:you've shown up for yourself, how you've new perspective, new
Kate Harlow:ways of being, new habits, new rituals, what you've let go of,
Kate Harlow:celebrate yourself, everything you're proud of. This is so
Kate Harlow:important to heal that little girl inside who didn't get the
Kate Harlow:love that she needed in the way she needed it. The. To take
Kate Harlow:ownership for those old stories, do the full rewrite, like we
Kate Harlow:talked about, so you're not carrying any blame energy into
Kate Harlow:2026 and also burn the stories of that you don't want to carry
Kate Harlow:with you anymore, that are stopping you from following your
Kate Harlow:dreams, that are stopping you from believing what you know in
Kate Harlow:your heart and soul to be possible, that are keeping you
Kate Harlow:believing something else. So burn those stories. And then,
Kate Harlow:obviously, safely do so safely. Make sure there's water nearby.
Kate Harlow:And then, what energy am I bringing? Who am I reclaiming?
Kate Harlow:What? What aspect of my heroin Am I stepping into in 2026 and
Kate Harlow:you can write out that as a story. You can join us in the
Kate Harlow:reclamation and be supported in that journey. There's so many
Kate Harlow:ways to do it, but, but you can do it in a meditation in the
Kate Harlow:mirror. What are you? You can even do the one from last week's
Kate Harlow:episode, if you heard it, old myths, new truths. What new
Kate Harlow:truths are you stepping into and then put on some music and move
Kate Harlow:through your living room like you were that woman already. So
Kate Harlow:you get to rewrite your story. You are the CO writer, the co
Kate Harlow:director and the leading lady. So it's time to take charge,
Kate Harlow:time to take responsibility for your life. You've got this I
Kate Harlow:love you and Happy Holidays. Merry Christmas to those of you
Kate Harlow:who celebrate Christmas and yeah, be so loving to yourself
Kate Harlow:and to everyone else you come in contact with this week and
Kate Harlow:always you.