Dec. 22, 2025

Wrapping Up 2025 With Love!

Wrapping Up 2025 With Love!

As the year winds down, so many of us want to throw out the whole year - wipe it away, pretend parts of it didn’t happen, or rush ahead into the next chapter without actually receiving the gifts this one offered.

But 2025 was a year that shaped you, stretched you and grew you. It held moments you navigated with courage you didn’t even know you had. And before you run into the new year, you deserve a moment to honor yourself for all of it.

In this episode, Kate guides you through a loving, grounded way to close out the year - without self-judgment, without bypassing, and without pretending the hard parts didn’t happen. This is about integration, celebration, and moving into the new year with so much love and intention.

You’ll explore:

  1. Why we’re so quick to “throw out” an entire year instead of learning from it
  2. A process for reflecting on the true gifts of the year
  3. How to see your challenges as evidence of your growth
  4. A practice to let go of what you don't want to carry into 2026
  5. How to step into 2026 with intention and sovereignty

If you want to wrap up this year in the most honest, loving, heroine-powered way, this episode is your invitation to show up for yourself and honour the woman you've become.

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About the Host:

Kate Harlow is the founder of The Unscriptd Woman, the creator of The Expanded Love Coaching Method, and host of The New Truth podcast - ranked in the top 1.5% globally. With over 15 years of experience teaching, coaching and facilitating transformational retreats worldwide, Kate has helped hundreds of thousands of women break free from outdated relational patterns, old patriarchal ways of thinking and unspoken rules to live by. 

Her infallible methods guide women to release the deeply ingrained scripts that keep them stuck- empowering women to step into their highest, most magnetic, and fully expressed selves. Through her coaching, retreats, podcast and upcoming book The Unscriptd Woman, Kate is redefining what it means to be an empowered woman in today's world, showing women how to stop waiting for permission and start creating a life and love that aligns with their deepest truth. 

Known for her rare ability to see exactly where women are out of alignment with themselves, Kate offers a path back to unwavering self- trust, meaningful joy and true fulfillment. Her work is a revolution - one that liberates women from societal expectations and invites them into a life of radical authenticity, thriving relationships and unshakable self-worth.  

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Write out your limitations and get really clear

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on which ones you're not bringing into 2026 and then, of

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course, when you get to 2026 you have to be really intentional,

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right? You have to be really intentional. So what are you

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ready to let go of? What's the story you've been believing

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that's been keeping you small and suffering this year, that

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you're like, No, this is not coming with me, write it out and

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then do a ceremony and burn it. And with intention, I'm going to

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bring intention every single day to not carrying this story. And

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every time I notice that I'm in that story again, like, what am

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I doing? I shouldn't be writing a book. I'm not a writer. Every

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time I notice that story, I say, thank you so much for trying to

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protect me. I've got this and I do the thing anyways.

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Hello, my loves. Welcome back to the new truth. Happy holidays.

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Merry Christmas. It is December 23 almost the end of the year,

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and I'm so excited for you to hear next week's episode I

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recorded the most beautiful conversation with my one of my

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oldest and dearest friends from 19 years old, and he is a

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legend, and he has created the most magical, incredible life.

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And so next week's New Year's episode is reserved for that.

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And so I thought today we would focus on you have one week left

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of 2025

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if you're listening to this during the week, it comes out,

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and if not, you know it's still applicable no matter when you

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listen to it. But right now, there's one week left in 2025

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hopefully you have been intentional all month, doing

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things differently, bringing your heroine to the dinner

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table, bringing your heroine to the events, bringing your

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heroine to the parties and doing it differently than you would

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normally do. And today we're going to focus on how to wrap up

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the year with love, with intention and create. I just

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feel like in our lives, we're so often just doing our lives and

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going and going and going and going and going and doing the

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next thing and on to the next thing. And even when we're

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achieving really great things, or we're becoming new versions

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of ourselves, or we're growing in amazing ways, we often forget

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to stop and even notice. You know, have you ever noticed

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that, like you, sometimes you'll look back and be like, Whoa, I

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don't do that pattern anymore. Or, holy, I was able to actually

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attract that love and receive that love that I was never able

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to receive before. Sometimes you have we have moments where we

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see it, but if you don't bring a lot of intention and presence to

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your life, it's so easy for it to just pass by and for every

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day to be just be checking off the next things on the list,

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trying to get through the day, trying to get through the month,

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trying to get through the year. And I in my experience my life,

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the more I slow down, and the more I bring intention into

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everything I do, the more my life tastes good, the more my

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life feels good, the more my life is, you know, more

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meaningful and and rich and beautiful. So that's what

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today's episode is all about. For you to take some time, I

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suggest, over the next week, you find an evening to have to

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yourself. Maybe it's a morning. If evening doesn't isn't

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possible for you that you move mountains, even if you're a mom,

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even if you have a lot of things on the plan that you move

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mountains, to have some form of time scheduled, just for you,

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just for you to be with you, for you to do some reflections, for

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you to do some visioning, for you to do some connecting deeper

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with yourself, so that you can go out and say goodbye to 2025

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with so much love and reverence, no matter what you've been

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through this year. You know, it seems like often in in people's

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New Year's posts, I always see towards the end of the year,

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everyone's posting memes about how, like, you know, well, that

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was a wash. You know, on to the next year. Next year is going to

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be amazing, but this year sucked, or this year was the

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worst, or hope this year isn't next year. And even if you've

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been through the hardest year of your life, not every moment was

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hard. And with all hard times comes so much growth and so much

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catalytic energy for change, for new beginnings. I know that

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there's so many women who even have come to this podcast this

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year because Something brought you to your knees, losing

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someone you love, or having a partner leave you for another

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woman, or having a job unexpectedly end, or something,

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some big catalyst maybe led you here. Maybe it wasn't this year,

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maybe it was a few years ago, and or maybe it didn't lead you

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to the new truth, but it led you to waking up, into doing your

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life differently, into living more from your own heart and

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soul. That's the gift in the hard times, right? The gift in

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the hard times is we become more devoted to ourselves. The gift

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in experiencing loss is we love deeper and we feel more and we

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get connected to how much we care about the people we love

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and how important it is to actually learn to be present

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with them. Yeah, when they are here in human form, when they

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are here in our lives, right? So this is an opportunity for you

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to go out with a bang, not literally, don't leave the

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planet, but for you to close this year with so much love and

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reverence. Kind of reminds me of relationships. Like the old

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paradigm of breakup is just like, Okay, that was a wash. Cut

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that person out. They're my ex, that they're wrong and bad, that

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there's some better person way out there in the front, but

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what's behind me is now gone, and I'm going to lock it away in

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a closet forever. Versus that experience guided you somewhere,

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even if it was an incredibly painful, toxic relationship,

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maybe you found your voice. Maybe you dropped it, access

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power in a new way. Maybe you learned how to finally say no

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and put yourself first. Maybe you woke up and ended on us,

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ended up on a spiritual, healing, self love Journey,

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right? There's some gift that comes even from the toxic

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relationships. Every relationship serves a purpose.

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Every year serves a purpose. I read something yesterday that

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2025 was the in the Chinese zodiac was the year of the

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snake, which is all about endings, letting go, shedding

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old skin, shedding old versions of yourself. So if you did that

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this year, good job. Celebrate that. And we're moving into the

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dynamic fire horse, which begins apparently February 17, so that

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the Chinese zodiac is in conjunction with the Chinese New

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Year, which was shortly after our new year. So the year of the

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horse is all about energetic, bold, transformative period,

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action, independence and pursuing new opportunities. So

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talk about a different frequency. So have you

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experienced a lot of loss this year or endings? Like I ended a

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three year relationship, I ended living in Greece. I ended my

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contract with my apartment, I ended my podcast partnership

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with Catherine, whoa. I just didn't realize that so many

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things ended this year, not all my choice. Some were my my

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choice, and some were other people's choice, or the choice

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of the universe. And so it was all it was a year of endings.

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This year was a year of endings. It was also a nine year in

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numerology. So we're moving into new beginnings next year. So

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this is a great time to look at everything that's ended for you

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this year, everything you're ready to end and bring some

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intention in how you wrap up this year. So the first thing

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that I will say is, or beyond. I always say that. First thing

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I'll say, No, I've already said many things, but the first step

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I want you to take is to celebrate everything that you've

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created this year, everything you've shifted this year in

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yourself, every new part of yourself you've awakened, every

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new step you've taken, every courageous decision you've made.

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Celebrate your new ways of being, celebrate new

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perspectives, celebrate the crap out of yourself. This is

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something I learned from Mama Gina. She calls it bragging.

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Women are taught to be humble and to not brag, to not

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celebrate. Men celebrate themselves quite easily and

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beautifully, not obviously, all of them, but for the majority of

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men, it's easier for them to celebrate what they've done.

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Women typically shy away from it. We typically hide from it.

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We typically like, Oh no, it's no big deal that I won that

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award, or it's no big deal that I performed on stage in that

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dance show and fucking crushed it. It's no big deal that I

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finished my master's degree, or that I started a new business,

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or that I took a big leap and invested in myself in a really

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big way. Oh, it's no big no no. Like, don't, don't praise me.

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It's no big deal. And we dim, we dim it down, right? Because

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we've been taught not to celebrate. We've been taught not

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to put the attention and focus on ourselves. So here, go big,

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go big. Go big, go big. And I would start with writing. So set

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a symptom time that you can have a me night or a me morning.

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Light some candles, put on some music, make a cacao, make a

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matcha, make something that's yummy and delicious to you, and

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be intentional with celebrating, bragging. What are you proud of?

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What did you do this year that you never imagined in a million

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years that you would do or that your saboteur always told you

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you could never do? What did you stop doing? What parts of you

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did you stop participating in? What patterns that usually show

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up? Have you shifted? You know, how much more have you loved

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yourself and shown up for yourself, even if it's just

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listening to the new truth every week? What have you done for you

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celebrate the crap of you out of yourself? Women need to

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celebrate ourselves more. There is such a gift in celebration,

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because what it does and also when you celebrate yourself,

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we're way more comfortable also celebrating each other without

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feeling jealous or competitive or comparing ourselves, we can

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that. That's what one of my favorite things about the the

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reclamation community and the immersion community, all the

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heroin sisters I work with, is the beauty of how much they

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celebrate each other. There is so much. Celebration. Women are

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launching podcasts. They're starting businesses. They're

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sharing their their breakthrough breakdown, breakthrough stories.

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They're they're

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traveling together. And there, there's, there's this beautiful

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ripple effect of how these new paradigm relationships feel when

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you're finally around women who are rooted in themselves, who

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are sacredly, you know, self centered, centered within

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themselves, who are choosing to follow their truth in their

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hearts and just feel good to be around. And then you get to

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celebrate together. You know, when, when I do something that's

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a big deal. I celebrate with my friends, and I share I'm so

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proud of myself that I did this thing, or that I saw this

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differently, or I showed up for myself in this way, and I did

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this courageous thing, because otherwise it's like you're just

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climbing a mountain and you have no idea how far you've climbed,

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and most likely, your saboteur is going to tell you like you're

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still not high enough. You're not doing it right. You're not

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doing it good enough. Your saboteur is always like your

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saboteur voice in your mind was trained to take you down, to

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keep you small, right? It was trained to keep you small

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because at one point in your life that served you. And so

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your saboteur is going to take away the compliments. Your

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saboteur is going to berate you, punish you, tell you where

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you're still not meeting the mark. And that's why it's so

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important for that little girl inside who needed so much more

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love and so much more acceptance and so much more celebration,

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and she didn't get it to the degree that she needed it. You

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now become that for her, right? You become that for that part of

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you that deeply needs it, for you to feel seen, supported,

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celebrated. So as you wrap up 2025 go back to January, think

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about your look maybe, look at your calendar, and it can spark

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like, what were you doing in January? Where were you? Where

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were you in your job? Where were you in your relationship? Where

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were you in your single, sovereign journey? Where were

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you in your life? And what have you created done, stepped into

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reclaimed, let go of this year, because then you celebrating

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that. And if you're in the reclamation community, I highly

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encourage you join. We're doing a live round in January, which

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is pretty rare these days. It's an online self study program

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where you get to unlock and reclaim all your heroin aspects

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that have been shut down by your saboteur. And this community is

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infectious. It's so beautiful. Everyone celebrates, everyone.

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Everyone, like supports each other. There's so much

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community. Everyone's dreaming together, collaborative,

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dreaming, visioning together, building a new world, building a

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new future that's available to you. So if you're in our group,

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or you're in any other group like that, go in and share your

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celebrations, or share your celebrations with your best

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friends and encourage them to do the same, so that not only are

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you celebrating yourself, which is step one, that's the most

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important thing, is that you you really build the muscle of being

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proud of yourself, you know, maybe even sitting in front of

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the mirror, meeting yourself in the eyes and saying, I'm so

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proud of you and everything you've reclaimed this year. I'm

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so proud of all the courage it took to leave that job or leave

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that relationship or say yes to that opportunity that felt

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really scary, or invest in yourself in that way, or travel

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to that place. I'm so proud of you for making that move right

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if I was sitting in front of the mirror and say, I'm so proud of

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you, Kate, for rolling with the changes and actually listening

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to your inner guidance and actually having the courage to

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let things that are beautiful and were were so amazing for so

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long fall away and and to honor the new form of those

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relationships and those those circumstances. I'm so proud of

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you for stepping up and and taking over the new truth on

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your own, even though a part of you was resistant to it. I'm so

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proud of you for moving through that resistance and not letting

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the fear take you out. I'm so proud that you're still here.

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You get it right. So sit in front of the mirror, pour that

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into yourself, write it in your journal. Spend some time, but

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make sure you're intentional. You're not just like scribbling

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two seconds for two seconds, like really, set the tone, light

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the candles, Put on the music, put on the diffuser, make some

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make a yummy, warm drink, and and, and support yourself to set

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the stage so that you can really, really feel the love. So

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that's my first invitation to you. Second invitation to you

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is, what old story or stories are you ready to burn for this

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year, what story have you been believing and telling yourself

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over and over again? Maybe it's a story about blame, right?

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Maybe there's someone you're still holding hostage in your

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mind, which, of course, is only hurting you, not them. Maybe

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it's someone that you've been blaming and you've been mad at

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and you've been avoiding, or you've been cut you've cut off

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from them, and you're you're bitter and resentful. Maybe to

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wrap this year up completing that cycle within you, you don't

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have to do anything with the other person. But perhaps I

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don't even love the word forgiveness. I think the the

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most up leveled word is accept, accepting what happened,

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accepting what was because, arguing with reality we lose. Is

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100% of the time. So some acceptance, perhaps you a

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practice you can do with this is write down the saboteur story,

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first of all, the ways in which that person is wrong and that

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you blame them and everything that they've done to you. And

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then underneath that, you can write how that felt and what you

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what, how you internalized it, what you made that mean about

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you, and then have your heroin right a perspective of, okay,

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what was my part like, if I'm taking ownership for this

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dynamic, what role did I play? How am I responsible for 50% of

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that dynamic? Was I self sacrificing? Was I shape

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shifting? Was I not listening to my inner guidance? Was I

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ignoring my gut? Was I saying yes when it was actually a No?

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Was I staying in the relationship too long? What did

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I do? What was my part so not to blame you. You've heard this one

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before. Not to blame you, but to actually just help you clean up

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your side of the street. That's my favorite saying. I say that a

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lot, but it's true, like there's so much power to it. Help you

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reflect on, okay, how did I contribute to that situation? So

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I don't carry this blame into 2026 you own your part and Okay,

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have have some self compassion for the little girl and your

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saboteur who did, who participated? Okay, I and

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forgive yourself. I think this is where the most powerful

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forgiveness comes from. I forgive you my love for

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contorting yourself and saying yes in that situation when it

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was such a no. I forgive you for holding that the other person

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hostage and blaming them for a choice that I made every single

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day by choosing to stay at that job or choosing to stay in that

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relationship. So I forgive you for staying as long as you did.

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I trust that you stayed as long as you had to, and you did what

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you needed to do. But ultimately, I forgive you for,

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you know, saying yes when it was no, for lying, for not speaking

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up. I forgive you, I love you, I've got you and and then you

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can accept the situation. You know, sometimes it's not that

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easy, but if it's something that just happened very recently, you

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might have to move the energy of the feeling. You might have to

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do some rage exercises. If it's something that's really

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significant, but even just to, like, really own your part and

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then love and forgive yourself for the part that you played.

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Now that's you taking full responsibility, and now the

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heroine can look through the lens of what was the lesson and

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the gift of this experience that I want to like just hold as a

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memory, as if that person's wrong or that situation was

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horrible. You know, when I first left my nine year mentorship

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that literally taught me everything I need to know about

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what I do now and my work in the world, and like world class

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mentorship, I when I first ended that career, that that

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trajectory, that that agreement with the company and with my

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friends that I was working with, I had resentments, and my

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saboteur was holding on to stories, and it wasn't until I

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started to really see after I processed all the feelings I had

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to process the feelings underneath, right, the feelings

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of being taken advantage of and feeling like I, you know, I was

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so mad at myself for sacrificing for so long and not speaking up

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and not working too many hours and burning myself out. And I

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had all

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this energy and blame towards the company and blame towards

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myself, and I had to actually move through the layers of that

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and let myself feel the feeling and feel the weight of all the

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times I said yes, when it was a no, of all the times I pushed my

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body when I had nothing left, and I had to forgive myself and

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also thank myself right. So forgive yourself first, thank

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yourself second, because I forgave myself for every time I

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went against my own truth and for every time my pattern showed

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up in that dynamic. And then I also thanked myself, because

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that is the place where my heroine was born, right? It's

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like, you don't just wake up, you don't just like, stay I

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mean, we all go through the human experience where you shut

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down, and then you have to come back and wake wake yourself up

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and and wake up all the and reclaim all the parts of you.

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That's like the hero's journey. That's a heroine's journey,

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that's life. That's a human experience. Like, I think we

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have such a fantasy of life. You're not just empowered one

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day. You have to go through you have to have the antagonists in

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your story and the challengers and the people who inspire you,

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but also, you know, trigger you, and that like that is part of

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the hero's journey. So I had to go through that journey, and

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including the moments where I was quote unquote overworked,

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but I said yes, and I'm that was a choice, right? And I could

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blame the company for the amount of hours that they asked us to

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work and be a victim of that, or I could take responsibility and

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say, okay, yeah, moving forward, that's not going to work for me,

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because I'm a projector and my energy's so. Delicate, and now

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that I have my own business, I'm going to take care of my energy

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with pristine intention, and I do, but everything I learned

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going through that process like, that's how I stepped into my

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power. That's how I stepped into my greatness. Was, was going

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through that hero's journey of like, being seen and then

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feeling challenged and then feeling like, you know, blaming

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people, and then owning my side, and it's like, it's just like

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part of the journey that's part of the awakening. So I'm now, I

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sit in this place and looking back 10 years later, and I'm

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like, endlessly grateful for that experience, and I only see

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it through the lens of learning and lessons and growth and

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coming into my power, and literally, my training ground

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for me being able to birth my own work in the world. I had to

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go through all of that. You know, it's like the parent that

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wants to coddle their kids so much that their kids never

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experienced pain or anything bad happening. Well, that is not

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setting them up for success in the world, because in the world,

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bad things happen. Challenges happen. People's triggers and

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traumas and saboteurs, play against other people's, play

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against yours and activate you. And that's totally normal and

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totally part of the human experience. And that's how we

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come into our power, is those antagonists that come into our

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stories. So the I wasn't even planning on going here when I

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wrote down old story you're ready to burn, but I think this

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is a good one. If you are going into 2026 with any blame, you

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are carrying unnecessary baggage that doesn't need to be there.

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There is so much more possible and available for you when you

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are not blaming people for how you feel and for what's

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happening in your life, your only power exists in you taking

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full responsibility and ownership for everything you

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feel, not blaming yourself, but seeing your side, and then the

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willingness to forgive yourself for being in your patterns

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around those that person. Because what really hurt was not

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their behavior. What really hurt was who you became in their

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behavior and how you internalize their behavior and all the

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meaning making in stories you told yourself when they behaved

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in that way. That's what hurts. It's who you become. And so

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forgive yourself for becoming that shape shifting, self

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sacrifice, or that perfectionist controller, or that rigid you

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know, whatever it might be, whatever version of your

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saboteur being the fantasy addict who got married and then

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divorced in the same year, whatever. It doesn't matter.

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Forgive yourself, right? Let your saboteur event, let all the

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judgments and stories out, blaming them, blaming you. And

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then get to the little girl underneath, let her feel what

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she is feeling and how she's internalizing it. Then let

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yourself see your patterns and your side. And then let your

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heroine see it through a new lens. What are the gifts? What

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have I learned from this experience. How have I grown

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from this experience? Because there are gifts, no matter what,

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no matter how painful it was, there are gifts. There are

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lessons. There is something your soul was meant to learn, and

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that's why you attracted that experience. And you're going to

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keep attracting until you learn the lesson. You keep attracting

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more experiences of the same. So get the lesson. This is an

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opportunity to get the lesson. So the other way I was looking

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at old story when I first wrote it down, was like, what stories

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have you been believing about yourself? Like, let's say you

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have a deep dream of birthing a business. There's like,

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something inside of you, like, I want to, I want to own a Pilates

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studio one day. Or I want to start a dance movement that has

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never been done before, that like, helps women shake off

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their trauma and awaken their Shakti like never before. Or I

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want to write a book based on this wild experience I had in my

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mid 30s. Or I want to whatever the dream might be, right? The

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vision, the like, if you have a story that's telling you you

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can't, you shouldn't. That's ridiculous. Don't even bother

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you. Are a fraud. Nobody's gonna want that. Nobody's gonna sign

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up for that. Like every, every person who ever started a

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business or had a dream and took took steps towards making that

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dream in reality. Every person on planet Earth has that has the

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saboteur thoughts that are like, don't go that way. Don't go in

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the direction of your heart and soul. Stay here where it's safe

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and miserable. Stay here where it's safe and lonely. Stay here

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where it's safe and not safe at all, because you feel fearful

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every day. Everyone has that. So what are the stories? So if you

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have a big dream, you're ready to birth in 2026. Sounds like

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it's a good year for it the fire horse. I mean, come on, if you

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have a big dream, and if it was a nine year in numerology, that

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means next is a one year, which is all about beginnings and

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leadership and stepping into your power. So maybe your old

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story is you'll never have love again. Like, what is the tape

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that you keep playing? Or there's something wrong with you

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because you're single, or you have to stay where you live.

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There's no other options to go somewhere new because X, Y and

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Z, whatever the limiting It's basically your limitations.

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Write out your limitations and get really clear on which ones

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you're not bringing. Into 2026 and then, of course, when you

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get to 2026 you have to be really intentional, right? You

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have to be really intentional. So what are you ready to let go

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of? What's the story you've been believing that's been keeping

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you small and suffering this year, that you're like, No, this

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is not coming with me. Write it out and then do a ceremony and

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burn it. And with intention, I'm going to bring intention every

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single day to not carrying this story, and every time I notice

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that I'm in that story again, like, what am I doing? I

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shouldn't be writing a book. I'm not a writer. Every time I

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notice that story, I say, thank you so much for trying to

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protect me. I've got this and I do the thing anyways. Or if I if

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this story is louder than just being able to talk to it and

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turn it around. That's my saboteur, of course. Then I'm

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going to put on some music, and I'm going to do some nonlinear

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movement, and I'm going to kick and thrash and scream and and

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and shake and make sounds and do whatever I need to do, to just

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move the feeling and the energy. And then I'm going to sit in a

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meditation, connect with my heart, and then I'm going to

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write writing and do the thing anyways. So that's the second

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step. And the third step is, what energy are you going to

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bring into 2026, and I said it that way, very intentionally.

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What is the energy you're going to bring? Like, you know, going

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to a party. And it's like most people go to a party thinking

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they're going to get something. You go on a date and you think

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you're going to get something. You go, you go, you know, to

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Christmas. You go to Christmas, sit under the Christmas tree

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with your family. You think you're going to get things. Kids

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think they're going to get things, all but getting and yet,

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really, the heroin perspective is, how am I showing up and what

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am I bringing right? That's you being in the driver's seat of

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your life. So if I'm the driver now, and if I'm no longer the

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passenger of my life, I'm no longer a victim. I'm no longer a

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victim of circumstance, a victim of limitation, a victim of fear,

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a victim of smallness, of who I've who I thought I was, but

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I'm actually becoming the heroine of my own story, the

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main character, the leading lady of my story. I'm the writer. I'm

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the director, co writer, co director, because the universe

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is also leading you. What is the energy I'm going to bring into

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2026, so I'm going to say for myself, I'm going to bring saga

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saga. It's my favorite. You heard me say it last week,

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probably many weeks, my clients talk about getting it tattooed

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on their arms so they remember when they live in North America

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or somewhere, that's fast paced. Saga, saga, slowly, slowly.

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I'm going to bring into 2026 really slowing down even more.

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And I've slowed down more than ever in my life before, but now

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that I'm living in Kenya, and I even noticed when I was walking

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here to record this podcast, I just had lunch, and I was

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walking to Villa gorilla, which is the name of the villa that I

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record in when nobody's staying here, because it's got the most

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solid Wi Fi. So I'm in Villa gorilla right now. Those of you

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who've been to Ola pangi know, if you know, you know it's so

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cute with lots of funky wallpaper. It's such a beautiful

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little it's like a little two bedroom apartment cottage. And

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as I was walking here I was in my mind about the podcast, and

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then I was like, for a second, I noticed it, and I felt this

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like, like I couldn't even see out of my eyes, because I was in

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thought, how often does this happen? So I stopped, and I felt

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my feet, took a breath, stood a little bit taller, opened my

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heart, and I looked around me, and Ola panky farm, look it up

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online, is like, the most exquisite gardens in nature

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you've ever seen. It's like and magical, colorful birds and

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like, it is so beautiful here. And isn't it wild that we can be

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so in our minds, that we can actually miss the beauty? Like,

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how often are you missing the beauty? How often are you

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missing the magic? How often are you missing the moment? I mean,

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God, this is the best time of year for that, right? What are

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you not seeing with your eyes because you're in your mind in

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the story of the future or the past. So I was thinking about

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the podcast. I paused. I felt my feet. I stood taller. I took a

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breath. I looked around and was like, holy shit. It's so

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beautiful here, and I felt the frequency of the beauty of

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nature and how she's always calling us to her right, the

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sunsets, the full moon, the stars, the birds, the bees, the

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butterflies, the hummingbirds, the the magical beauty of

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nature. Yesterday, it was warthogs on the on the on the

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hill, on the ridge, she's always calling us, reminding us, Hey,

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be here now. There's so much beauty all around you and inside

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of you and in each other. In every interaction you have,

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there's a possibility for it to be a beautiful one, even with

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people who are closed. Right? I've shared all these stories

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before. If you're new to the new truth, go back. But like one of

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my favorite things to do is soften and open people who are

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closed because they have their guards up, and if my guards are

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down and my heart is open, they will open. You know, if I stay

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in curiosity and love, they will open, and they always do. And

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it's such a beautiful thing. So there's just beauty everywhere.

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There's beauty all around us. So that's my intention for 2026 is

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to really like, receive the beauty of life by slowing down,

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by being even more present, by creating even more space, by

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seeing and smelling and feeling and tasting and touching. So I

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guess, like, the next level of my sensual experience of this

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human existence is my intention for 2026 So spend some energy.

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And you know, it's so beautiful. You're hearing this, if you're

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hearing this week before Christmas, spend some energy and

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intention with like, Who do I want to bring? What is my main

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focal point? Now, if you want to join us in the reclamation, this

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program is 497, you have lifetime access to it. It is

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amazing. There is a archetype. There's a two modules per heroin

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archetype where you're going to learn how to unlock all of these

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aspects of you that have been shut down because your saboteur

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has been in charge so long, like your sensuality, your ability to

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express yourself, your ability to trust and feel and connect

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with your divinity and your inner guidance, your ability to

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live from your heart and to feel more of life and experience more

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of life, your ability to be unapologetic and stop caring

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what everyone else thinks. This is what the reclamation is. It's

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about becoming the heroine of your life, becoming the main

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character, becoming the leading lady of the story of your life,

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and becoming the CO writer and co director with the universe.

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So it is three months. So basically you'll have the online

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self study to do over and over and over again. I'm going to

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link it below this episode, the unscripted woman.com and then if

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you scroll down the main page, you'll see the reclamation

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there. You can also access it there if you if you don't see

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the show notes, but I'll link it below. But basically it's 497,

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I'm going live, doing a live round, which I normally don't do

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anymore, but January, I'm doing a live round, because there's a

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bunch of women that are coming to Greece with me. The immersion

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is sold out for this year, but you can get on a wait list for

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next year, but it's in the end of April, beginning of May 2026

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and those women have to go through the reclamation live. So

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I've decided to include everyone else inside of the reclamation

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community, because women love to do it over and over and over

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again. The inside of the modules, there's video modules,

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there's meditations, there's music playlists to connect to

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those aspects of yourself. There are workbooks. There's all sorts

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of tools and practices that you can go through it again and

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again. So again, you have access to that for life. But if you

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join now, you get to come and do it live with me in January,

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which means you get two zoom calls with me a month where

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we're going to do live coaching, hot seats, where we're going to

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you're going to meet other heroin sisters in the community

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and start expanding your heroin conscious, powerful, amazing

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women who are celebrating the crap out of themselves and each

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other community in your life. So you'll grow your community, and

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I'll do teaching on each archetype, every zoom call as

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well, because I help deepen what you've been doing. And there's

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practices and there's diamonds, and it's a really powerful way

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to start the year. So it'll be January until the end of March,

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and I highly recommend you join. It's so fun. I would love to see

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you in there. So click the link to sign up for the reclamation.

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You'll get to join us for free. The program used to be 997 when

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I did the live versions of it, and now it doesn't have live but

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I am doing a live one this January, so you will get a live

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one with me, which is so amazing, but only for 497 you

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have lifetime access to it. And yeah, would love to have you in

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the community. And would love to support you, to bring the energy

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you want to bring into 2026 to stop being a victim of the

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script and the story, or stop being a stop being trapped in

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the story of who you're taught to be, so you can really reclaim

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the woman that you were born to be. You are so much more than

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you could ever know, and I have a lot of evidence to prove this

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is true with women. I can't even tell you how many endless

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stories I have of women who who I meet them as one version of

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themselves, and they're absolutely a totally different

Kate Harlow:

human on the other side of this journey, because there's so much

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more inside of you than you could ever know. So wrapping

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your heart in so much love as you wrap yourself in so much

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love in the transition out of this year, celebrate the crap

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out of yourself. Celebrate everything you've done, show how

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you've shown up for yourself, how you've new perspective, new

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ways of being, new habits, new rituals, what you've let go of,

Kate Harlow:

celebrate yourself, everything you're proud of. This is so

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important to heal that little girl inside who didn't get the

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love that she needed in the way she needed it. The. To take

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ownership for those old stories, do the full rewrite, like we

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talked about, so you're not carrying any blame energy into

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2026 and also burn the stories of that you don't want to carry

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with you anymore, that are stopping you from following your

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dreams, that are stopping you from believing what you know in

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your heart and soul to be possible, that are keeping you

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believing something else. So burn those stories. And then,

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obviously, safely do so safely. Make sure there's water nearby.

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And then, what energy am I bringing? Who am I reclaiming?

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What? What aspect of my heroin Am I stepping into in 2026 and

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you can write out that as a story. You can join us in the

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reclamation and be supported in that journey. There's so many

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ways to do it, but, but you can do it in a meditation in the

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mirror. What are you? You can even do the one from last week's

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episode, if you heard it, old myths, new truths. What new

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truths are you stepping into and then put on some music and move

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through your living room like you were that woman already. So

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you get to rewrite your story. You are the CO writer, the co

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director and the leading lady. So it's time to take charge,

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time to take responsibility for your life. You've got this I

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love you and Happy Holidays. Merry Christmas to those of you

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who celebrate Christmas and yeah, be so loving to yourself

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and to everyone else you come in contact with this week and

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always you.