When You Want to Give up On Love

Love, even though you think your guards are in

reaction to your ex and that, you know, like, I'm gonna block

love forever because I was hurt by a man, and I'm gonna block

every man on Planet Earth. You think that's, you know, harming

someone. The only person it's harming is you. You've heard

that statement. Holding on to resentment is like drinking

poison and expecting the other person to die. You're not

actually hurting the other people. You're hurting yourself

because you're walking through the world with guards up. You

can walk through the world with your heart open. Your heart

doesn't ever need protection. I will tell you this, your mind

might tell you otherwise. You need to know how to speak your

truth, how to say no when it's a no and yes when it's a yes.

Lovingly, you need to know how to stand firmly and rooted in

you and how to listen to your own inner compass, rather than

everyone else's opinion of what your life is supposed to be or

who you should be or what you should do. But you don't need guards.

Hello, beautiful. I hope you are enjoying the start to the new

year 2026 although I was talking to my friend about New Year's

the other day, and it's so funny. It's like such a weird

time to have to be in the energy of starting anew. The astrology

New Year is a lot is, is when the spring equinox is, and that

makes so much more sense to me, because the energy we focus on

for New Year's is all about like creating new things and new

energy and growing and changing and evolving, which is, it's

nice to have these little touch points in throughout the year to

actually be really intentional with how we're showing up, to

check in, to see if we're, you know, showing up in ways that

are in alignment with how we Want to be showing up. Are we

growing? Are we are we evolving? Are we staying stuck? So I think

I do think it's nice to have these little touch points. But I

feel like the big, big New Year really should be the spring

equinox, because every that's like when there's life force

energy. I suppose this is the spring Well, it's maybe a better

time of year in the southern hemisphere, which technically

I'm in the southern hemisphere right now. But the spring

energy, the beautiful, powerful energy of spring, is such an

amazing time to actually create new things and new beginnings

and and winter, for those of you that are in winter is such a yin

time. It's such a it's such an internal time. So whatever is

going on right now, wherever you are in the world, if you are in

winter and it's dark and it's cold, let yourself percolate.

Let yourself be in pleasure and self love and self care, like

maybe this is the time to go inward and actually take care of

yourself. That is setting you up for when we go to the Chinese

New Year, which is mid Feb, and then to the astrology New Year,

which is mid March, and start to build the energy for you to get

back into that more Yang creation, action oriented

energy. Just wanted to touch on that first. But it's so wild.

How fast time is going right now? Are you feeling it? I'm

feeling it a lot. I know they say astrologically, things are

moving faster. So we are in a time where, even though I know,

they also say, as you get older, time goes by faster. But

astrologically, the world is moving faster, the time is

moving faster, but also time's an illusion. So I would say, you

know, if you're feeling my practice with time, and feeling

like time is going fast, is to slow down, because if time's an

illusion, and I am, you know, rushing, and I have this never

ending to do list, and every day is just a series of checking

boxes and trying to get through to the end of the day only to do

it again tomorrow. Probably time is going to be going by a lot

faster. And also, we're not treasuring the time. We're not

treasuring this moment and this experience. And I feel like that

is the most important gift of all, is to be able to be present

in our lives, and to be present and paying attention to what are

we doing with our time, and am I doing things that matter to me?

Am I making an impact? You know, we just did three episodes in a

row around purpose is the work I'm doing in the world

meaningful to me? Do I care about what I'm doing? Do I have

passions? Am I pouring my heart into things that I love? Because

if you're spending your time doing things you love, even if

time is going faster and we get to the end of our lives sooner,

at least, you spent your time doing what you love. So it's a

little bonus. Just thinking about that this morning. I'm

about to go on a little spontaneous trip. I got a phone

call at 9pm last night from my dear Soul Sister Rose asking me

to go on a little trip with her and her partner, because he's

going to the coast for work. And apparently the coast of Kenya is

incredibly beautiful. White sand, turquoise. Waters. I'll

post it on my Instagram, so make sure you check it out. Although

I guess when this episode comes out, I'll already be back in

Nairobi, but I'm just going on a little spontaneous trip. I am

back in Nairobi when I'm recording this episode, but just

going on a very last minute getting on airplane and going to

the coast. I've never been to the coast of Kenya, and I'm

definitely excited to take as many opportunities as I can, to

to to explore this beautiful country, but also, again, to,

like, make my time matter, do something that actually feels

important. So I'm super excited for that. And I thought I would

just record this episode before I go catch my flight, because

this is a conversation that I've heard, that I hear over and over

again, haven't, haven't talked about love in a in a little

while, we've been focusing on the holidays, and we've been

focusing on purpose. But circling back to the favorite

topic of the new the new truth, which is love, dating

relationships, and this is such a common thing, the risk of

putting your love life on hold, or when you've given up on love

and you just want to throw the baby out with the bath water.

What sparked this original episode? Or what sparked this

episode? I was actually going to record it in the fall, and

there's just been so many other topics and interviews and

everything. So it's coming out now is I had a Kenyan friend of

mine over at my cottage, and she brought her sister with her, and

they're amazing, powerful, beautiful women. And her sister

was telling me about her love life and just saying, Yeah, I'm

just dating for fun, you know, just playing around. But I left

my my husband, I think he was unfaithful, and she just said, I

am absolutely not open to ever having a relationship again. Now

this woman was like, 35 or maybe 30, maybe not even. And you

know, it's such an interesting thing that people say all the

time. I also have a male friend who's going through divorce, and

he said almost the same thing. He's like, I'm I'm just gonna be

free forever. I'm gonna be single. I don't have any

interest in being in a relationship again. So there's

multiple things happening here that I want to unpack. First

off, we are projecting what we believe relationship to be after

we've been hurt. What happens is we project that past hurt, or if

we've been maybe we haven't been hurt, like I think of my male

friend, it's not that he was hurt, but but that he was more

just stifled, right in an old paradigm relationship, that that

was set up in a way that, you know, married with kids and and,

you know, things had to be a certain way. And he did, made a

lot of choices from obligation. So now he affiliates

relationships with obligation and doing things you don't want

to do, and being responsible for other people and having no

capacity for yourself and putting everyone else before

you, because that's what he would do in his marriage. And

then flip to the the woman, she was hurt and she was quote,

unquote betrayed, and she had dishonesty in her relationship

and all of these things. So both of these people are projecting

their past pain and their past struggles with relationships and

when and remember, most people are in the old paradigm of

relationship, which is actually codependency, right? Most

relationships are codependent, most but I mean, people don't

even know that this is true.

Most people, even therapists, don't even know for the most

part, that the old relationship model we have been taught, that

we have learned in school, is codependent. It's like you're

responsible for how I feel. You're responsible for meeting

my needs. In the beginning, you make me feel amazing. Later on,

you make me feel horrible. You You have to make me feel

attractive. You have to make me feel beautiful. You have to make

me feel important. That's a Wounded Little kid. You have to

make me feel prioritized, right? If you are in relationship,

looking to get your needs met, that is a wounded little girl

who actually needs your heroine. In my work, your heroine, she

needs the sovereign woman to meet her needs, not a man, not a

partner. And so if you have been in the old paradigm, and you're

now sitting in the story of, I never want love again, you've

put love on hold. You're never going to date again. You're shut

down from it altogether. Whatever the story is, you're

projecting your past experiences onto the present moment. But

what if something else was available to you? What if

there's a new type of relationship that you've never

experienced before that is available to you? I can assure

you of this, the deeper you go into your loving relationship

with yourself, the deeper you go on this journey. If you're on a

journey with me or with any other teachers, mentors, guides

or coaches that are helping you come home to yourself, that are

helping you love yourself, that are helping you create a life

you love, the deeper. You go into that, the more you will be

able to create a new paradigm, type of relationship, which not

many people on planet Earth have. So the new paradigm of

relationship looks like this. It looks like we only get into

relationship because this relationship expands us.

Expanded love method, that's my entire coaching method, the

saboteur and heroin and unlocking the truth of who you

are is based on expansion. Does this relationship make my life

bigger? Does it make it better? Does it make it richer, more

meaningful, more intimate, more beautiful? Most people's

relationships actually make their lives smaller. You might

think it makes it better, because it's like, oh, it's more

efficient. We're sharing rent, we're sharing a home, we're

sharing a bed, we're sharing and it might seem like, oh, it's

really efficient. It's making my life better. But are you still

taking responsibility for yourself in that relationship.

Are you growing? Are you evolving? Are you seeing your

partner with new eyes every day and allowing them to grow and

evolve as they grow and evolve like what kind of relationship

are you creating? Do you have open, honest communication? Do

you own your pain? You know there's so many episodes

about how to navigate triggers. There's an amazing one from the

holidays. I've been hearing lots of great reviews about that

episode. So if you haven't heard it, go back to it. But are you

owning your triggers, or are you projecting your pain all over

your partner and making them responsible for you? Are you

owning your pleasure, or are you projecting the pain of the lack

of pleasure you feel onto your partner, making them responsible

for you, right? Of course, you're not going to want another

relationship. If you're thinking every single relationship is

going to be the same as the last, if you're not taking

responsibility for your patterns, then yeah, you will

attract a similar relationship in the future, and that will not

feel good, right? But here's the thing, you're not a victim

anymore. So we spend our lives in such victim mentality of

like, as if we have no control over anything, like, Oh, I'm

never going to be in a relationship again, because

Relationships are hard, and then we blame the relationship. Like

why don't you just show up inside of the relationship? And

for now, if you're single, show up inside of your friendships in

a new way. Show up inside of your relationship with your

children or your ex or your whoever you're navigating your

colleagues. Learn how to transform how you do

relationship, so that you're in the driver's seat, so you don't

have to blame relationships forever and ever, and close down

a massive part of who you are, and a beautiful opportunity to

grow and an amazing opportunity to to you know, I think like

love is, is why we're here. That's why we're here, not just

romantic love, but romantic love is incredible when we know how

to do it, right? The problem is, most people are out there in

relationship, trained by the old paradigm, trained by the

codependent model, right, that was taught by the fairy tale,

that someone's gonna sweep us off our feet. They're gonna

rescue us from our tower. They're gonna awaken us from our

coma, Sleeping Beauty. They're gonna, they're gonna save us

from our lives and from our misery and from our anxiety and

our sadness, our depression, and one day, they're gonna make us

feel amazing. And then when we get married and mimic the fairy

tale fantasy and create this extraordinary, perfect wedding,

and then we create a build a family with them and create a

life. And it doesn't work out. We're going to blame

relationships. We're going to blame relationships forever.

We're going to blame we're going to project that that is the only

option, and we are going to shut down a part, a huge part, of who

we are. Now I'm not saying you have to be in relationship. This

isn't about relationship thing, the be all and end all. Of

course, I have lots of episodes that are the opposite of this,

that this is not what it's about. It's about. Are you

taking responsibility for how you're doing anything right, how

you're engaging with everything? Are you just blaming

relationships and marriages and men or women or whoever you're

dating, and just shutting that out of your life and then

missing out on so much beauty that you could be experiencing

if you were open to it. Because here's the thing, you're not in

charge of your life. You you are if you're in your saboteur, and

then your life is actually not the life that's meant for you,

right? We have two options in this life. We can choose to

create co create a magical existence, a beautiful,

unscripted path that is made for our soul, that will evolve us

and grow us, and that every single experience we have is.

Part of that evolution and part of the becoming, and part of the

reclaiming and the uncovering, all of the magic that's inside

of your own soul and that's available on this planet. That's

an option. It's the soul led life, and that's the life that I

live. That's the life that all my clients live. The soul led

life is so good because you don't, you're not, you're not

like, I need a relationship, but you're not like, I'm shut down

from a relationship. There's a soft, beautiful place in the

middle where you're just enjoying your life. And when

love comes around, you're open to it, you're not resistant to

it, and you you're in relationship with your patterns

as they arise, because they will, right? But if you don't

know your patterns, and you're not aware of your patterns, then

the then the patterns take over, and then we blame relationships.

So the option is the soul led life, or the scripted life. And

the scripted life is where you feel like you got to control it,

like as if you have to put out a statement to the universe, I'm

not open to relationships. You tell everyone, I don't need a

man. I'm done with relationships. I'm putting that

on hold. I'm never doing that again. What are you doing?

You're literally just painting the past over the present moment

and your future, and you haven't even met your future self yet.

And what if your words matter? What if life is listening and

life is like, okay? You want to control your path, okay. You

want to choose the man that doesn't feel good to be in

relationship with and just stay and be miserable for the rest of

your life, okay? You want to blame relationships and shut

down from your heart and your intimacy and your sensuality

forever and just live a life that's all workaholism and and,

you know, disconnection and man hating, okay, the universe is

like, go ahead. I don't think it's offended. I don't think the

universe is attached to what which choice you make, but just

know that it's a choice, right? If you think you know how this

story is going to go. Just know that's your guarding talking if

you've decided and it's the same on the other side of the the

flip side of the coin is the same thing, right? If you're a

single woman desperately longing for a relationship and needing

one right now, and wanting a husband and needing it and

trying to find it. It's the same thing you are trying to control

your future based on someone else's story of what your life

is supposed to look like. How do I know that? Because the life

that's meant for you a I've said this before that David J white

quote, you cannot see the path. You can you can have soul

desires. You can have feelings in your body, of like things you

want to experience in your body, but when you are trying to

control your path and what your life looks like now, like

shutting love out or being obsessed with having it, you're

missing right now and right now is a part of your story, right?

We throw the baby out with the bath water right? Now is a part

of your story, and it's a beautiful part. And the heart

led life, which is living from your heroine, the soul led life,

the heart led life, that is the life that is made for every

single one of us. But unfortunately, not a lot of

people are living from this place when you're truly rooted

in who you are, your home in your body, your home in your

heart, your home in your soul. The Heart led life is about

being with what you're experiencing right now and being

open to everything you have no idea where life will lead you,

and if your controlled mind and all of these preconceived

notions and stories and scripts of of who you're supposed to

date, what relationships are supposed to look like, what I

think like, what I'm attracted to right now, I've never been

attracted to in my life when in a man like the qualities and

what matters to Me now have nothing to do with the the

checklist or this the the story of what I thought I wanted in

relationship before, because I'm just engaging with me right now

and with my life right now. My heart is so open and I'm

noticing what I'm attracted to the most is energy. If I feel an

energetic connection with someone, even in friendships,

that's when and the energy just flows. And it's this beautiful

reciprocal energy. That's what I'm attracted to. It's not about

where they come from, what they look like, what they what

they're what they do for a living, how much money they

make. None of that stuff matters anymore, because I'm sovereign.

I make my own money, I have my own my own life, my own world. I

take responsibility fully for myself. I'm not looking for some

perfect on paper partner to fill something I'm engaging with,

what I'm attracted to in life. And that goes for experiences

too. I'm about. To go on a journey to the coast? Yeah, I

did, and I am so excited. It was not even on my radar. But a week

ago, I wasn't looking for a trip to the coast. I met someone at

Ola pangi who was going, who was going to the coast, and she

lives in Nairobi. She and her mom were on their way, and

actually think they were going to the same place that we're

going. And she said, Oh my gosh, Kate, you're gonna love the

coast. It's so beautiful there. It's really hot right now, but

it's so beautiful. The water is like a warm bath. It's

incredible. And I was like, Oh my gosh, cool. And I felt this

little spark. And I was like, I wonder when I'll go, I'm gonna

I'm not going to be in Nairobi long enough to plan a trip to

the coast, because I'm back and forth between here and Ola

pangi, and then I'm going to Greece, and then I'm going to

Canada. So I just thought maybe I'll go like next year. I guess

I'm not going to have time this year. That was one week ago, and

here I am going to the coast. So that's the magic of life, right?

So, so my and, and when, when I got the invitation to go, even

though I had to make the decision last minute, my heart

was such a yes. It was just like the feeling of having this

experience was such a yes and a yes for right now, right? So

this is like with love. Let it when you live from your heart,

there's an openness to all energetic connections, but we

don't need to make a meaning of where it's going, and if it's

not going, Oh, I'm not open to a relationship, or this person

needs to be my partner. You see how we're constantly projecting

onto the thing, as opposed to just being present with the

experience this my loves, will change your whole life when you

can learn to just be present with what you feel, and to let

yourself be expanded and have expansive moments, and to let

yourself create a life that expands you so that that becomes

your normal, Right? We only get sideswiped by fantasy, fairy

tale love and some like, some hope of like, Oh, here he is.

He's arrived, and now I'm going to be rescued when we're not

when our life isn't expanded. Like, if your life is dull and

mundane and boring and scripted and predictable and empty and

disconnected and numb. Of course, you're going to get

sideswiped by the idea of some Prince rescuing you on a white

horse. Of course, right? But when your life is amazing and

you feel so good in your body and your devotion is to taking

care of yourself and feeling good in every possible way,

physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, all the

ways, like, if that's your life, and you have designed a life of

pleasure, you're not going to need to close to love, and

you're also not going to be so attached to it, right? There's a

beautiful place in the middle where you're just living from

the heart, and you just are following your yeses in the

moment and trusting that life has a greater plan. And every

time you forget that life has a greater plan for you than your

mind ever could just say thank you giving this to you like.

Let's say you you meet someone you really like, and your

saboteur wants to shut down and run, I'm not open to love, or

your saboteur wants to chase them and grab on and, you know,

get with them over.

Those are the moments where you come back to the present moment.

Feel your feet on the ground, take a breath, do some somatic

re reconnecting to your own body, to your Soma, and then

saying to the universe, thank you so much for taking this I

know you've got it. I know your plan. I feel really amazing in

this moment at this potential job, or this potential love, or

whatever the thing might be, or I feel terrified of it, whatever

your story is. You give it to the universe and you say, or the

divine, or God, or whoever you want to call it, it doesn't

matter. It's just, they're just names. You choose the name that

feels the best. You give it to the universe, and you say, Thank

you for taking this because the reality is, every time you're in

fear of your future, you are suffering. And all that means is

you're disconnected from your divinity. Every time you're in

fear of the future or you're questioning the past, you are

disconnected from your divinity, because the reality is the

divine part of you knows that it's all perfect, all of it,

every mess, every challenge, every heartbreak, it's all

perfect. This is exactly how your life is supposed to go,

even if your life is in the script, in the script,

controlling life, controlling life, and then one day, Kate

says something on the podcast, or I read a book and I and that

one line hits me so hard. Or I go on this retreat, or I have a

moment in the bath, or whatever the whatever your turning point

moment might be, one day, there's a moment where you stop

believing. Script, and you stop trying to control your life, and

you stop painting a horror story onto every future potential

relationship you've ever had, and you actually allow what

comes to you to be there so you can grow and evolve and learn.

One moment will change everything for you. And

sometimes it's many moments. Usually it's many, many moments.

It's like the seeds have been planted, and then one day that

garden starts to bloom, and you're like, oh my god, I get

it. Whoa. I get it. I was a victim, being passive to

relationships, blaming relationships, and thinking

every future relationship is going to be the same. Because I

have no choice. You have all the choice in the world. My loves.

You can learn about your saboteur patterns. You can learn

about what part you contributed to that relationship that didn't

feel good, even if, on paper, it looks like your partner was way

worse than you. Even if they betrayed you, they hurt you, it

was toxic. What was your part? You played a part, right? If you

were in a toxic relationship, were you self sacrificing? Were

you shape shifting? Were you ignoring all of those horrible

gut feelings that were screaming at you? What is your part and

that is right now, instead of just staying in some limited,

ridiculous story that love is not for you and you're never

going to have it again. Like, how much time do you spend

feeding these stupid stories that just keep robbing you from

your life versus being with like, Okay, I'm I'm on my own

right now. I'm going to get really intimate with myself.

Join us in the reclamation. Join me on the heroin journey of

uncovering and unlocking all of who you are, like go work with

someone and actually use this time to devote yourself to

understanding your patterns really intimately and deeply,

and use this time to awaken who you really are and unlock All of

those repressed parts of you. So the next time love does come

knocking on your door, you're not afraid of it, you're not

looking for it to save you. You're not obsessed with it.

You're not shut down from it. You're not sacrificing for it,

right? That's all saboteur patterns, like something else is

possible, and I've witnessed heroin after heroin after

heroin. Women work with me have the most horrible relationships

prior to the journey of unlocking all of who they are

and untethering from their saboteur conditioned self,

attract relationships and and, or even I think of a woman I'm,

I've, I'm working with right now, who is married and has been

married for years, has two children, and they have their

relationship is better now than ever, like it's a whole new

relationship. This is what's available to you. You when you

stop blaming relationships, you stop blaming men, you stop

blaming being single, you stop blaming being married, you stop

blaming all of these circumstances outside of you,

and you learn about your blueprint and how you've been

doing relationships in the past, and how you can alchemize those

protective mechanisms and start to live from the truth of who

you are. You get to experience the new paradigm of

relationship, which, prior to this moment, didn't exist for

you, right? It's such a limited perspective to sit back and just

blame relationships and blame other people like you are

absolutely powerless, but you're also missing a huge part of who

you are. You are missing the magic that you can experience,

and the love and the beauty from deepening an intimacy with

someone, even if it only lasts for three weeks, even if it only

lasts for three months or three years. I don't know why I'm

stuck on threes today, but no matter how long this

relationship lasts, if you attract one, it's a gift,

because it's an opportunity for you to grow, and there's

something there for you. So let's rewrite the story like

it's time to become the heroine of your own life. The world is

changing. Systems are crumbling that we're in the age of

Aquarian, which is all about big, dreaming, big, thinking,

living, big. You know this is time is flying by. Your life is

so precious. Every moment is precious. Why don't you stop

projecting the past onto the future? Stop thinking you know

how the story is going to go. Stop wasting your time in all of

these stories that aren't true, that are limited, that are

hurting you, that are keeping you suffering, and come back to

your Divine Self, come back to your heroine, where you get to

create a new story. You get to not be a victim of the past. You

get to create a new story and and not walk through life with

guards. Because my love, even though you think your guards are

in. Reaction to your ex and that, you know, like, I'm gonna

block love forever because I was hurt by a man, and I'm gonna

block every man on Planet Earth. You think that's, you know,

harming someone, if the only person it's harming is you. You

know you've heard that statement. Holding on to

resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other

person to die like you're not actually hurting the other

people. You're hurting yourself because you're walking through

the world with guards up. You can walk through the world with

your heart open. Your heart doesn't ever need protection. I

will tell you this your your mind might tell you otherwise,

you never need to protect yourself. You need to know how

to speak your truth, how to say no when it's a no and yes when

it's a yes. Lovingly, you need to know how to stand firmly and

rooted in you and how to listen to your own inner compass,

rather than everyone else's opinion of what your life is

supposed to be or who you should be or what you should do. But

you don't need guards. The protection is only hurting you.

It's not helping you. It's not serving you in any way. So when

you want to give up on love, just know that that means you're

giving up on a huge part of who you are. Instead, make your life

like, create a life of love. Create a life of love. Like,

let's like, reclaim that word. That word is not just about some

person that you share a bed with. Love is who you are. Love

is the life that's available to you. You can create a life that

you love, where you actually love every person in your life

deeply you don't. You're not in stories of blame or resentment

or whatever, but you're only surrounded by people who you

feel expanded by. You're only, you know, spending time and if

you're not expanded by someone that you again take

responsibility and look in the mirror and own your own part and

take the medicine and the lesson from this person who's

activating you, so that you're not just stuck in some victim

story, that that you blame your sister in law, you blame your

your your mom, or you blame your ex husband, like if you're if

you're blaming anyone for your pain, and you're keeping this

story alive inside of you that they're at fault for Your pain,

you are wasting your life. Your life is so precious. Let this be

the year that you become the heroine, that you become the

leading lady of a story that you love, of a film that you want to

put out to the world, that you be proud of, of all of the

adventures you've been on and all of the risks you took, and

all of the courage and all of the heart felt meaningful.

Moments you had with a lover, with a with a one person, one

night on a date that you know, even if it didn't go anywhere,

you had one magical night, right? With friends, with with

with purpose, your life purpose and doing work that's

meaningful, like create a life that you love, then you don't

have to protect yourself from anything because you're happy.

You're satiated. And of course, let me reiterate, you're not

happy in every moment. Then in the moments that the saboteur

kicks up, the stories get loud. Know that every time your

saboteur is like, I don't need love, I don't need men, I'm shut

down. I'm never going to be in relationship again. Know that.

Oh, thank you so much, Regina. I see you writing the future

again. I hear you. I understand Regina is my saboteur. I name

your saboteur if you haven't already, I understand why you

want to protect me from the future, from future pain because

of past pain. It makes sense. Thank you so much. And then you

love up that little wounded girl who's underneath, who

internalized the hurt, who made it mean something about her,

who's feeling not good enough, not who's feeling deeply hurt by

the past. That little girl just needs your heroine to love her.

She needs the sovereign woman to say, you're okay, my love, you

are going to be just fine. I've got you. You're safe. I'm not

putting your your safety in the hands of anyone in the future.

But we're going to experience so much love and so much adventure

and so many meaningful connections and so much

intimacy, and we're going to do it differently this time. Right?

Your heroine says that to the little girl inside, instead of

the alternative when you're in the story, projecting that

you're not open to love, projecting that every man on

planet earth is going to hurt you, projecting all of these

stories onto your future self and your future that hasn't

happened yet, that little girl needs you, and your saboteur

just needs to be heard and And and like I just did, I just gave

a demo of holding space for her, being empathic, understanding or

not empathic, empathetic, like understanding her. I understand

why you want to protect me right now. I haven't heard in the

past. That makes sense. Thank you so much for protecting me. I

actually don't need your services today. I. Right, and

then giving that little girl that's underneath every time

your saboteur patterns are there and you're in the story of

limitation and lack and fear, there's a Wounded Little Girl

underneath. So just spend some time with these parts of

yourself. Love them up. And that is the sovereign woman that is

your heroine taking charge, and now from that place and those

parts feeling tended to cared for by the person that they need

to be cared for, which is you. Now, you can come back to the

present moment. You can come back to the truth. You can come

back to allowing life to lead right, allowing life to bring

you what you're meant to experience, and you saying yes

to all those things that grow you in the meantime, that grow

your heroine, say yes to those things that feel scary but that

you're excited about, so you can keep growing who you are and

your connection to your heart and soul, and then when you're

living from that place, you get to experience a new paradigm of

love. So much more is available. So hopefully this episode was

helpful. Share this with every single woman you know who's shut

down from love, every woman going through heartbreak that

never wants to go there again. So much more as possible, and

you are missing the magic. If you're shut down from anything

like trust life, life will show you, and you start to, over

time, rebuild that trust, because you see that when you

follow your own heart and your own compass, how much life is on

your side and how much life in the universe are supporting you

on your journey, and that you're not alone and you're not so.

Love you lots. If you're curious about the heroin journey, reach

out to me. Send me a DM, or you can go to my website and sign up

for a phone chat with me, and we can see if it's aligned, to go

on the journey together, but it's a pretty life changing one,

when you take responsibility for your journey and become the CO

creator of it, so you're no longer a victim of the past and

projecting it onto the future, so much more is possible. Love

you. We'll see you next week.