I Manifested My Way Out of Surgery

Hi, Natasha, I'm so glad you're here!

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: It's such a pleasure to be with you, Melinda. Nice to see you.

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Melinda Lee: Thanks for just taking the time to talk about this real fun, juicy topic. I'm so excited to dive in!

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Melinda Lee: Yeah, so today we're talking about speaking it into reality. Most people may not know what it is, so let's… you and I define what that means to us.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Oh, I love this. And I love this… I love this for the beginning of the year, too, so…

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Melinda Lee: Right, right.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: that you have an intention, you have a goal that you want to accomplish, I really like to think about it as intentions, and speaking it into reality, for me, that means that I'm making it real.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I'm making it so that I'm sharing it with people that I care about, or that care about me.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And that somehow will be part of my journey.

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Melinda Lee: Yes, and there's something about when you say it out loud to people, and then other people see it, they hear it, then I'm held accountable because I told you about it!

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Yes, I think what happens when we speak it

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: out loud, when we say our intention, and tell people not just what the intention is, but why it matters, we actually start to see it come to life, right? We actually see where, where there are now avenues for me to take another step towards achieving that intention.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: It also opens up possibility that when I share my intention with you, that you are gonna see opportunities for me also.

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Melinda Lee: Yes. So I love that piece, and this piece about accountability is so important, because.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: It highlights that I have shared this, I've put this out into the universe, so to speak, right? I've shared this, I've made it known.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And the next time we get on a call together, you're likely to ask me, so how's it going with that intention that you shared with me?

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Melinda Lee: Right.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: So, I have… I have built an accountability partner without necessarily formally asking for somebody to be an accountability partner. You just being interested in… in me successfully achieving that intention makes me want to move towards it. So, it's, might think of it as a momentum builder.

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Melinda Lee: Yes, our words create action.

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Melinda Lee: Whether it's intentional or not, it can actually create something. Words create… we can use it to divide people, we can use it to bring people together, we can use it to get our goals and achieve our goals. And one thing I want to add to that is

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Melinda Lee: The energy in which we say the words matter.

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Melinda Lee: Because our energy is our internal state. It's the way in which we operate. And so, if we think about the word flying, right, I could say that word in… with different energy. It could be…

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Melinda Lee: I will be fine. Like, more supportive. I will be fine, Natasha.

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Melinda Lee: It'll be fine, Natasha.

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Melinda Lee: It'll be, you know, more dismissive and condescending. So, that energy is two different internal states.

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Melinda Lee: And so, we could say to people, because they might say to us when they… they say, well, Melinda, I spoke things into reality before, and it never happens.

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Melinda Lee: Well, I'm gonna ask you, what is the energy that you use to actually say it?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Right? Is my…

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Melinda Lee: Yeah, go ahead.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I love that… I love that you're sharing this, because when I think about why do… why do the words matter, why does speaking it into reality matter? I think about accountability, because when I say it out loud, then I have to follow through, and I… and I sort of feel responsible to the people I speak with. What you're sharing is, it also requires me to feel the intention.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And that I have to, I have to decide how I'm going to express it, so the how becomes important.

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Melinda Lee: Because the energy we bring can either propel us or hold us back from achieving it.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I haven't thought of that perspective, but it makes so much sense.

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Melinda Lee: Right, right, because if I'm saying it, and I only feel like I might be able to achieve it.

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Melinda Lee: That energy is directing us to might be able to achieve it.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Yeah.

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Melinda Lee: might be and might not be. Right.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: It lets in other possibilities.

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Melinda Lee: Yes. Or if I say it with the utmost certainty calm that I know it's going to happen, that's a different energy.

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Melinda Lee: And do you want to share about how our brain reacts to it?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: So, I read a book called Mind Magic, and I read a… it was written by a neuroscientist out of Stanford, and then I followed that up by reading The Mindful Body, because I have a story to share a little bit later about how I was able to think about and speak out loud a reality for my own health that

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Was holding me back.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: These two books talk about how when we put our intentions out there, and we can feel what it's gonna be like when we've achieved that intention or that goal, that we start to move towards it.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Yes. We actually start to see possibilities and opportunities that were always around us, we just weren't paying attention.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And so the connection that our brains make to what we're… what our actions are becomes much, much stronger.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Because we've set out a path, right? We were setting out a journey, we've developed a roadmap.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: When we start to say things out loud, or maybe it's a vision board or something like that, but when you put out there what you want to achieve, you now start to see possibilities of how you can achieve them. What things or tools are going to help you get there, or get there faster.

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Melinda Lee: Yes!

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Melinda Lee: The brain loves fast.

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Melinda Lee: And when you add the feeling around it, because you're so in the feeling, you are excited about it and achieving it, you can almost sense it, you're actually almost there, because I've felt it already, and that drives the action, right? I think a lot of people will think speaking it into reality or creating a world around us is just, like, we visualize, and maybe it will hope it'll happen.

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Melinda Lee: But there's an intention, plus the feeling, plus the action.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I think there's one other thing that that connection, that formula that you just laid out, actually hits on, and that's when we hit obstacles.

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Melinda Lee: Yay!

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Right? Because we want things to be smooth and fast and easy.

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Melinda Lee: Right.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And maybe especially now, because that's how it looks on social media, that things are smooth and fast and easy, that when we hit obstacles, what is our reaction going to be? Now, if I've said it out loud multiple times.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I'm not gonna let an obstacle get in my way, because the more… the more I repeat it.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: it becomes almost like a… and I'm not gonna say affirmation or a mantra, but it becomes something that I'm known for.

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Melinda Lee: Yeah, oh.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Or, like, it's attached to me somehow.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: So, I'm not gonna let anything get in the way of that.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And I mean that in a good way, right? I'm not saying railroad people, but I'm saying, it's going to mean that when I hit an obstacle, or when I have a setback, because those are going to happen, it's life, that how do I… how do I deal with that? Well, I've dealt with it before, I can deal with it again.

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Melinda Lee: Yes.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: You know, so you bring a different perspective to whatever the obstacle is. And this is where I think we are calling in that growth mindset. We are saying, this is a fail that happened, but I am not a failure.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: This went wrong, but it's not because I broke something, or if I did, I learned from it, right? I'm growing from it. I'm not, allowing this obstacle to set me back so that I stop.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Obstacles become speed bumps, instead of a brick wall, right?

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Melinda Lee: and I am not that person to get derailed, or to give up, and… Exactly. Right, and these are just, speed, slowing down. Speed about. That's right. Yeah.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: That's right.

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Melinda Lee: Yeah, and then so setting that intention that when… because, of course, we're going to run into these obstacles, and that's where I think most people fail or don't really, think too clearly about what to do when those happen, because we want things smooth, we want it just to be here already, and so, like, having that…

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Melinda Lee: intention to speak to ourselves, and then to say it out loud to even to somebody else, when these things happen, this is what I'm going to do, this is okay. We all have these experiences, and so how am I going to approach when an obstacle happens?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I think it requires us to be intentional about our intention setting.

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Melinda Lee: Yes.

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Melinda Lee: Like, if, if I…

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I hit an obstacle and I give up, that intention probably wasn't that important to me, or there is some unresolved stuff that I need to get through, right? Most likely. There's something there. But when I'm really intentional about what is it I want to achieve.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I… it requires that I do a lot of pre-work.

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Melinda Lee: Yes.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: So, saying what you want to achieve, speaking it into reality, is almost… it's not the last step, but it's towards the end.

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Melinda Lee: It's the upfront work that we often neglect. I agree. You know, year-end, beginning of the year is a good time for people to… they often feel very reflective.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Depending on the time of year it is in whatever hemisphere you're living in.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: You might be more out in nature, or you might feel like you need to kind of cuddle under the blankets.

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Melinda Lee: Either way, there is this…

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: period of time when the world feels a little bit more reflective and thoughtful. It's a great opportunity to think about

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: you know, I've identified something that I want to achieve.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: But don't just stop there. Why do you want to achieve it? Where have you had successes in the past?

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Melinda Lee: God.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: What makes this important, and what would prioritize this over other things in your life?

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Melinda Lee: Right.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: What will you do when you encounter obstacles? Because you will, right? We all do. And what obstacles have you, encountered in the past that you can learn from and apply?

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Melinda Lee: Yes.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And then when you think about that thing you want to achieve, and you want to… you're gonna say it to somebody, so I'm gonna have my next conversation with Melinda, I'm gonna share what that intention is, or what that reality is that I want to attain, I want to give some color to it.

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Melinda Lee: Right.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Right? I wanna… I wanna…

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: say, here's what's gonna happen, and here's what it's gonna feel like, here's who I'm gonna see, here's what I'm gonna be wearing, whatever it is. Just to make it more vivid.

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Melinda Lee: Oh, yeah, and when… because that's what's going to fuel us. These are… this is the energy in which, when we say these things, it'll fuel our actions.

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Melinda Lee: toward these intentional goals. 100%. And like you said, I love what you said about taking the time right now to really,

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Melinda Lee: go into the truth of who you are, and really setting an intention of these goals and desires, because they're out there for you. It's always been out there for you, especially when you're fully aligned with it. It's yours, and so it's a matter of you sending these intentions with your… with the vivid, color behind how you'll achieve it, the actions that you'll take, what you'll feel when you achieve it.

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Melinda Lee: And then start to say it out loud, and that's when you start to speak things into reality.

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Melinda Lee: And you mentioned something about obstacles, and what happens, and who you become when there's an obstacle. Can you share a story? I know that you have a personal story, how you've tackled that.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Yeah, I have, for a number of years now, had a bulging disc in my lower vertebrae.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And it got to the point where cortisone shots weren't helping, PT wasn't helping, and the next step was surgery.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And I went through the whole process, the pre-op appointments and all the testing. You know, when you do a lot of tests, you discover a lot of stuff, even though you would be fine without knowing. But I went through all of these tests, and I just kept getting this feeling, like, I don't think surgery is right for me.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: There's something telling me An inner voice, saying that this is not my path.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: A week before the surgery, I went in to see the surgeon for my final appointment, and the surgeon said, oh, and your recovery's gonna be X number of months, which is significantly higher than what he had told me in one of our first appointments.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And when the nurse came back in, and oh, by the way, it can recur.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: this can recur, and I was like, wait, I'm gonna go through surgery, months of recovery, and it could recur.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Something's up.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And the nurse said, oh, the doctor will call you, don't worry about it, we'll get this sorted out well before your surgery.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Well, almost a week goes by, I'm now, like, 2 days before the surgery, and I'm at an off-site, down in LA, and I'm not hearing from the doctor. I've called now multiple times.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I canceled the surgery.

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Melinda Lee: Yes.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: That night, I was at dinner with a former judo champion, a former NFL player, and a former person who trains chiropractors, okay? So he's got a really cool app now, and…

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I'm sitting with the three of them, and I told them my decision that I cancel the surgery. All three of them said.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Best decision you ever made? Surgery is a last resort, and you are very far away from that.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And the chiropractor said to me, you know, like, there are lots of people in the world with bulging discs, and not everybody experiences pain.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And I thought to myself, well, why is that?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Because that's true. A lot of people have the same exact location with a bulging disc. And many people are walking around this planet without pain.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And yet, my doctor is telling me, track when the pain comes. Like, track and so that you can come back and tell me. And I'm not a journal keeper, but for almost a week, I kept track, and I noticed, like, 39 minutes after sitting, I would get the pain. 37 minutes after standing, I would get the pain.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Well, after I stopped tracking, I noticed that 39 minutes after sitting, the pain would come, and 37 minutes after standing, the pain would come.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Huh, what's going on? Am I… did I make that real by counting and tracking and then saying that, oh, this is when it happens?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Because I wasn't tracking anymore, but why is my… why is the, radiating pain down my legs?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: coming at such precise times. It was bizarre. And I thought, well, if I can make that happen.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: then I can make something else happen. And so what I started to do was say, I'm actually going to give this pain a reason.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I'm gonna say that it came because I was, you know, wanting to be a boxer and run marathons, and I can still run and not have to run marathons. And I can still do sort of boxing workouts sometimes, and not be a boxer.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I can be the physically fit, active person that I want to be, because I work out every day, it's my therapy. I do take recovery days, for those who wonder. But that experience of.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: why the pain might be here, I gave it a purpose, and then I said, so I've learned… I've learned the lesson, I understand now, you don't have to be here anymore.

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Melinda Lee: And so when the pain would come.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And it was down my right leg, and I would be on a Zoom call. I would, under my desk, so, like, people on camera couldn't see, I would sort of make this waving motion. Not, like, shoo away, but a waving motion to say.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I see, I notice the pain, I know why you're here, and it's okay you can go on your way. You don't have to be here anymore.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And…

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: You know, this is after physical therapy, doctor's appointments, cortisone shots. None of it's working. The physical therapists, the doctors, they basically gave up on me.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: PT said, there's nothing more we can do.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Like, okay.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I start to do this, and then I tell people, I was telling people, because they're asking, how's your back? Because I knew I was about to go for surgery. And I said, I have decided that I can't do the surgery for a number of reasons, and I'm gonna make this pain go away. And guess what?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Pain went away.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Wow. That sounds amazing.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: It's incredible, and when it comes back, because sometimes I'll get, like, a twinge, and I've noticed it's not the same pain. It doesn't radiate down the leg the same way, it doesn't… it doesn't work the same way. Now, when that happens, I remind myself, actually, that's not back pain, that's… I'm not stretching enough.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Because it's a thing, I don't stretch enough. I don't. Because I do sit in… I do use my sit-stand desk. It's not about the bulging disc, that pain's actually coming from somewhere else. And my acupuncturist also reminds me, that's your hip, that's… that's you not stretching. You need to stretch more.

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Melinda Lee: And so I've given the pain a different purpose now.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: it reminds me that I need to stretch. It's not because I have a bulging disc and it's gonna, you know, be forever and ever. And yes, I've seen it on the x-rays. Yes, I understand there's a physical, there's something physical happening in my lower vertebrae. I do know that. I've seen it. I'm not shoe-shoo, you know, poo-pooing away the science.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And, there are lots of people who walk around with that same… they would have the same x-ray as me.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: But I did not have to experience pain. Some people don't, why aren't I one of those people?

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Melinda Lee: And what do you think is the magic key?

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Melinda Lee: Secret to what you did.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: I think… so my intention was I wanted to be able to work out and do a full workout, like I usually did, lifting, without feeling like I needed to protect or be guarded.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: in my body.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: That was my intention. I want to be, I want to have a body that's younger than my chronological age. I want to be physically fit. I want to be able to travel for the rest of my life, may it be a long, long time, and I want to be able to lift my own suitcase, put my own stuff away. I don't want to have to rely on other people to do those things for me.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And if I can help it, I'm gonna make that happen.

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Melinda Lee: What do you think is the difference between that and goal setting?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: That's a really good question. Goal setting, there's a little bit of a check done when you set a goal, and with an intention, or with the reality that I was trying to create, it was more of an experience.

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Melinda Lee: Yeah, oh, I like that! I like that. And I'm gonna share, too, a little… elaborate more about what you're talking about, this idea here, because all of my professional life.

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Melinda Lee: up until my 30s, it was all about goal setting, get this goal done, achieve this next goal, get promoted, and it was all about doing, doing, doing, and check the box. And then when I didn't achieve my goals, it was extremely frustrating, and it was all about me controlling the situation.

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Melinda Lee: what I started after starting my business, I'm in my seventh and a half year now, I started to set an intention, because I could do the same thing with my business, achieve the X amount of dollars, get X amount of clients.

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Melinda Lee: work 40 hours a week, and I said, I'm not gonna do that. Or 80 hours, you know, 60 hours a week. I want to just work… have a work-life balance. I want to be able to run my business, meet wonderful clients.

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Melinda Lee: and still have a beautiful life with my daughter, with my husband, and so I did a couple things before… last week I went to Hawaii, or two weeks ago, I even have a video on YouTube, on LinkedIn with me surfing, and that was me…

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Melinda Lee: setting an intention to go to Hawaii and not stress out, because I had X, all these things I wanted to do, I did a couple of them before I left, and when I went to Hawaii, I said, I'm going to

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Melinda Lee: I told my husband, I'm going to have fun.

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Melinda Lee: And I'm gonna read this book called Architecture of Abundance.

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Melinda Lee: And it was all about the feeling of being abundant, right? There's no lack. Just a feeling. She just writes so poetically, so it's easy to dive into the book and feel what you said earlier. My intention of, I'm in abundant.

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Melinda Lee: that, you know, there's enough… and it's not just about visualizing, because I did do something before the trip.

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Melinda Lee: Because sometimes people will think setting, you know, it's just about visualizing and not really doing anything, so I did the goals.

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Melinda Lee: I set an intention, and then I went on a beautiful vacation, I came back, and I had a client call me, say, hey, I'm supposed to pay you $6,000 for this one gig. Is it okay if I pay you $11,000?

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Melinda Lee: Oh, and by the way, you don't have to work till January, because we're in December.

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Melinda Lee: So I'm gonna put this money into your account. I was like, awesome! And then another client had also given me this money that I had worked for. And so, I was like, wow.

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Melinda Lee: said no to the operation. You met these people that were the perfect people to talk to you about. And then you picked up a book around manifestation, around… what was the other book?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Yeah, mind magic and a mindful body.

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Melinda Lee: Mine, Matt?

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Melinda Lee: My whole body, body.

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Melinda Lee: And…

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Melinda Lee: it's all… I also want to say that part of when you have an intention, and it's deeply aligned to who you are.

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Melinda Lee: and you… you start to move into the action of it, and the feeling of it, and say things out loud, I want to add that allow for the universe. I'm going to just say universe. People might call it God, Source, however you want to call it, I call it God and universe. Allow for the universe to support us.

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Melinda Lee: That's the… that's the real work, right? It's like, because we're constantly pushing, trying to do things, trying to control, and then… and then we're running ourselves to burnout.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Yeah.

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Melinda Lee: we don't allow ourselves also the magic of… I don't want to say magic, but also…

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Melinda Lee: The, the receiving, like, if you put action forward.

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Melinda Lee: Just stop for a moment, and allow space An opportunity to come in.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: So here's where we get back to speaking it into reality.

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Melinda Lee: Okay.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: that… When we share it out loud.

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Melinda Lee: Yeah.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: What incredible ideas will come from the people that we share our intention with?

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Melinda Lee: Right!

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: So, sometimes people will volunteer things that will help you figure out a path.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: If I hadn't said to those gentlemen at dinner, here's… I just canceled this surgery, and here's why.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: they wouldn't have shared with me, you were absolutely on track. That is absolutely… you shouldn't do that. And, you know, there's lots of things you can do before then.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: There's a lot of… there's a lot you can do, and there are all these people… I would not have known that, I would not have thought about that. I wasn't hearing that from my physicians.

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Melinda Lee: Right, right. Right.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And, right? So, I think that there's opportunity when we share it with other people, when we say it out loud to other people. They also want to see us be successful, right? People want to help.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And if they have ideas, you know, why not take them? So, yes to, God or spirit or source.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And also to other people.

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Melinda Lee: people.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: We don't have to muscle through everything on our own.

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Melinda Lee: Oh.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: And for those of us who were born and raised, like, raised to be very independent, that's a big deal. But we don't have to muscle through everything on our own, and sometimes we don't have to muscle through. That's even the wrong language.

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Melinda Lee: Right, right, right, right. Yes, a lot of people help you, and it's gonna be that much better.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: 100%.

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Melinda Lee: Right. Oh my gosh, that's so fun! Thank you so much, Natasha. And what is that one tip that you would give someone who is new to all of this and is just starting to dive in and wanting to get better at this?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: So we talked about a lot of things that people should do about, you know, telling people your goal, and, the one thing I would say that's an important tip that we didn't touch on is be specific.

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Melinda Lee: Yeah.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Right? So when you're thinking about that intention, be really specific about what you want, because just as you have the power to create, create that reality.

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Melinda Lee: you know, be careful what you ask for, too, right? So, a little bit of parameters are not a bad thing to have. Right, right, right. So remember, we're so powerful, we're so strong, and yes, so be specific, because you might get it.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: That's right, and what a great way to start the year, but thinking about and speaking out loud what we want to achieve in 2026. So, what a powerful opportunity we have.

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Melinda Lee: I know. Thank you so much, Natasha, and I am so grateful to you, and thank you so much for this amazing, fun time that we had to talk about speaking things into reality, which is possible for any and all of us who are wanting to learn more and get better at this. I think that you provided such wonderful practical tips on how to do this, so thank you so much.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: It's a pleasure, thank you.

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Melinda Lee: It was very fun. And thank you, audience, for being here, and stay tuned. I have a special gift for you, and also Natasha, if you want to let people know how to get ahold of you, if they wanted some executive team alignment, how can they reach out?

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Sure, for exec team alignment, vision, mission, values, success… oh my god, you're gonna edit that better.

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Melinda Lee: Okay.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Absolutely, for… yeah, let me start again.

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Absolutely, for executive team alignment, executive coaching, strategic succession planning, vision, mission, values, we've got your back. Just reach out to us at MelitaAdvisors.com. There's also an opportunity to sign up to join one of our exclusive executive forums on that site as well, so…

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Feel free to reach out.

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Melinda Lee: Wonderful. Thank you, Natasha, and Happy New Year!

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Natasha Kehimkar | she-her: Happy New Year, thank you!

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Melinda Lee: Okay, thank you.