The Year’s Not Over Yet-Ep:70

Welcome to she coaches coaches. I'm your host,

Kandi motsek. And I'm going to help you find the clarity,

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step by step only works when you have the clarity, courage and

confidence to take action. Let's get started. Hey, friend, and

welcome to this episode. I'm so glad you're here. Today, we're

going to talk about one of my favorite topics. It's the topic

of goals, or achievements or accomplishment. Now, I'm

recording this right at the end of November. So the name of the

topic is the years not over yet. And here's why. If you're one of

my listeners, my guess is that you're a high achiever, too. And

you just love to get things done. And I bet one of your

favorite emotions is that feeling of accomplished that,

ah, I did it, I did a good job, I made a difference. I got

something done. Now, this exact topic, came up on a private

coaching call that I had this past week with one of my

clients. And she mentioned, as we were talking, we were talking

about word of the year. And her word of the year for this year

2021 was going to be gratitude. She's been practicing that you

word all year. And she just was thinking that somehow the year

didn't go as well as she would have liked. And then we wanted

to move on, she wanted to talk about the word that she had

chosen for next year 2022. Now, here's what's funny, if you're

listening to this, when it goes live, you'll know that we're

still right at the beginning of December. And what that client

did is very similar to the way that I am to somehow we get to

the beginning of December, and it's like we want to skim by to

the next year. But there is an entire month to go through

before the end of the year. So I'm curious, are you kind of

like me one months to go, and you're already rushing off

towards the next year. Sometimes I do this, and I'm doing it,

especially when things aren't going exactly the way I had

envisioned or exactly the way I wanted. Maybe I'm not going to

hit that stretch goal that I'd set. So instead of focusing on

the goal, pulling myself back in and doubling down to finish the

year strong, I skip forward to the next and set a new goal and

start looking forward.

If you're like me, I bet you're seeing a ton of emails coming

into your inbox right now all about setting new goals, or what

are you going to do and let's start planning next year. And it

is so tempting to start that work. Because it's always fun,

right? The idea about what might happen next year, what we might

accomplish next year, we want to spend that time doing something

fun. And when we do that, we're actually taking our eye off of

this year, you set a goal for a year, or maybe for a quarter.

That's one of my new things that I've started doing back in June

is I set quarterly goals instead of annual goals, I find they're

so much more immediate. And then I'm also so much more apt to be

able to manage my mind well, and focus just on this quarter

finish this quarter strong before I move on to the next.

But when that client and I were having that conversation, we

were talking about things on an annual basis, and there was

still five weeks to go. Five full weeks is a long time,

right? In fact, it's 10% of the year. And when we kind of dialed

it back and looked at the math like there's still 1/10 of the

year. It really made us sort of sit up and take notice. 10% is a

long time. So if that sounds like you, how does it serve you

to write that time off and just zoom by it? I think sometimes,

if you're like me, you might give up early because you're

nervous. You're nervous that you're not going to quite reach

that goal. You're worried that you might feel disappointed. But

here's the truth by avoiding that potential short term

disappointment You actually disappoint yourself in advance.

And then you spend so much more time in a low level kind of hum

of disappointment. Here's a common sentiment. This is the

kind of thing that I might say myself, or my clients say, I

hear this. Yeah, that goal, you know, it's not going to happen.

So why even bother? I'll start fresh next year. And the goal

that you're giving up on is the exact same goal that you were

excited about at the start of the year. And I bet, if you

thought you could still reach it, you'd still be excited. So

giving up early is a key little way of avoiding that potential

for disappointment. Now, what wouldn't be possible, if you

just kept at it all the way through the year? How could you

stick with it right to the stroke of midnight on December

31, before you gave up on this year's goal, don't count it as a

win or defeat, or don't give up until the very, very last

minute, keep working for it. Because who knows, you might

actually reach the goal. If you let yourself continue working to

it for 100% of that year, working for that goal for 100%

of the full year, instead of giving up after only 90%. And

believe me, I am in this with you too, don't worry, we are

learning and doing this side by side. I actually have a goal for

the last quarter of this year for my business. And I found

myself taking my foot off the gas in the last week of

November. Crazy, right? That would have me quitting almost a

full month in a three month goal. But what I've learned is

that I remind myself to keep going and to stick with it. And

it's true. Often I don't reach my goal, because sometimes I set

some pretty big goals. But here's what I'm not, I don't get

disappointed in myself. Because I know I did my best. I know I

stayed with it the entire time, instead of giving up early on.

It's a big difference. It's the choice of being disappointed

with myself for a longer period of time, or that sharp little

disappointment of not quite reaching the objective. So

compare the two disappointed with myself and my performance

as a human compared to not quite reaching the objective. It's

kind of a real different feel. And I've learned something

important. And this is what I want you to take in. If I stick

with it, I can decide to feel good about myself and what I did

accomplish in that time. Then I can learn and adjust and create

a new and improved plan to reach that goal

the next time around. So if you're listening to this

episode, when it's released, and there's still almost a month

left in the year, don't give up, decide that you're going to

stick with it. Commit to your goal again, and do what you can

in this remaining time. Keep going forward. And here are my

thoughts for you. As you're thinking of goal setting, when

it's time for next year, not in advance, I highly encourage you

to start setting quarterly goals instead of annual, you're gonna

have way more chance of success. Because sticking with that goal

for the entire three months is easier than giving up early. And

it's easier than trying to adjust for the entire year. Now

if you catch yourself forgetting or making an excuse, realize

it's just a little bit of self sabotage. And we all do it.

Remind yourself, I want this, I want to reach this goal. I'm

willing to feel disappointed that I didn't reach the

objective. But I am no longer willing to feel disappointed in

myself. I know you can do this, I believe in you. So that's it

for today. Don't give up too early on your goals. Stay with

it until the very last step. Hey, you guys know that I

appreciate you being here. And I appreciate that you're listening

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