Let Go of Traditions That No Longer Fit: A Holiday Guide for LGBTQ Allies (DAY 8)

DAY 8

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Ever found yourself watching your LGBTQ+ child shrink at a family tradition that no longer feels right? You're not imagining it, and you're not alone.

In Day 8 of the More Human, More Kind holiday capsule, Heather Hester explores why some holiday rituals, like gendered gift exchanges, no longer fit, and how that discomfort can be a powerful invitation to reimagine connection. Tradition should never come at the expense of belonging.

You’ll walk away with:

1. A framework for evaluating family traditions through the lens of inclusion
2. Permission to retire or redesign rituals that no longer reflect your family’s reality
3. Creative ideas for new traditions that center empathy, visibility, joy, and chosen family
4. A grounding reflection practice to help you reconnect with what truly matters

Today’s Strategy: Redesign traditions that don’t support your LGBTQ+ child’s safety, joy, or sense of belonging. Ask: Does this create connection or exclusion?

Creative Ritual:

Complete the sentence:

This year, we will introduce a ritual that helps us feel ________.

(Connected? Seen? Safe? Choose your value—and reflect it in one small new practice.)

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More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast and space where a mom and mental health advocate offers guidance on parenting with empathy, inclusion, and open-minded allyship, fostering growth, healing, and empowerment within the LGBTQ community—including lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer individuals—while addressing grief, boundaries, education, diversity, human rights, gender identity, sexual orientation, social justice, and the power of human kindness through a lens of ally support and community engagement.