Finding Holiday Joy with Cancer
What happens when the holidays arrive while you’re still healing from cancer?
In this solo reflection, host Darcie Wells, President and CEO of CanCare, speaks directly to cancer survivors and caregivers who feel out of sync with the “most wonderful time of the year.” She names the quiet realities of this season after cancer, including gratitude pressure, FOMO around old traditions, scanxiety before medical tests, caregiver exhaustion and the sharp ache of missing someone who is no longer here.
Darcie shares the words of survivors who describe feeling like life is happening in two worlds at once, and reminds you that your feelings are valid, even when they are messy. She offers simple tools for this season: redefine what a “good” holiday looks like, set kind but clear boundaries, create new or gentler traditions, and honor both grief and gratitude without pretending. She also suggests ways to remember loved ones with small memorial rituals while still allowing moments of peace and joy to emerge.
Above all, Darcie invites you to see your presence as the greatest gift. Your holiday does not have to be perfect. It just has to be yours, and you do not have to walk through it alone.
Tips For Managing The Holiday:
The holidays can be beautiful, but after cancer, they can also feel overwhelming or emotionally complicated. If this season feels different than it used to, you are not alone. These tips can help you move through the holidays with more peace and self-compassion.
1. Redefine What “Holiday Success” Means: Meaningful matters more than perfect. Smaller gatherings can feel deeply fulfilling. Quality time is more important than the number of events. Rest is a gift, not a weakness. Prioritize what matters and let the rest go.
2. Set Boundaries and Communicate Your Needs: Say yes only to what feels manageable. It is okay to decline invitations or leave early. Let loved ones know how they can support you. Limit conversations that may feel triggering. Prepare simple responses such as “I am focusing on enjoying today.” Redirect intrusive questions. Ask a trusted person to help shift conversations.
3. Create Traditions That Fit Where You Are Now: Choose traditions that bring genuine joy. Include gratitude practices that feel authentic. Build in breaks and recovery time.
4. Honor Your Emotions: It is okay to feel sad, anxious, or overwhelmed. Grief and joy can coexist. Reach out for support when emotions feel heavy.
5. Care for Your Health: Stay consistent with medication. Hydrate, rest, and care for your body. Honor your physical limits.
6. If You Are Missing Someone: Create rituals that honor their memory. Light a candle, share their stories, or include something they loved. Allow space for grief and joy.
A Gentle Reminder: Your holidays do not have to look the way they used to. Cancer changes you, and it is natural for your celebrations to change to o. Make the focus presence, peace, and moments of connection. Your holiday season does not have to be perfect. It just has to be yours.
Mentioned Resources:
CanCare- www.cancare.org
Book – www.cancare.org/hopebook
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About Our Host:
Darcie Champagne Wells is the President and CEO of CanCare, Inc., a nonprofit dedicated to providing support to the cancer community by pairing cancer patients with survivors. Since joining in November 2020 as the third President & CEO, Darcie has driven significant growth, increasing one-to-one support matches by 45% and healthcare referrals by 66%. In 2022, she initiated the Impact Acceleration Initiative to further expand support for cancer patients and caregivers. Her leadership has earned her recognition as a “Most Admired CEO” and “Woman Who Means Business” by the Houston Business Journal, and national “Fundraiser of the Year” by RAISE. Darcie holds a BS in Business Administration from Louisiana State University and an MBA from the University of Houston.
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