How Have Changed My Life | DFS 385

Welcome to Destin for success. I'm your

host, Jennifer Takagi, and today, I want to talk about

coaching. Last week, Michelle Hammonds shared with us about

coaching and her having coached over 7500 hours of one on one

sessions, and I thought it might be important to share my journey

with working with coaches and hiring coaches over the last, I

guess, about 11 years. So I sat down and did an activity and

exercise that a coach recommended that I do, and that

was my journey to get from where I was to where I am now, and it

was way more than I thought. It was, like you just forget

things, or you take things for granted. And as I started

listing the coaches I have hired, some of them have been

high dollar. Some of them have been for just little four week

online programs. I'm sure I have forgotten some, but hang on to

your hat, ladies and gentlemen, I've hired 24 coaches in 11

years for various reasons. Every one of them promised something

big. Some delivered in one way, some delivered in another. I'm

gonna say for the most part, we haven't had that full blown they

delivered exactly what I paid for. Part of that is my fault.

I'm really big at saying yes and maybe not getting enough detail

or enough information. But I've hired 24 coaches and been in

various programs, and through this journey, I have become a

certified coaching specialist. That was my first certification,

a certified professional behavioral analyst, and that is

certified in disc behavioral profiles. I love doing those

change style facilitator, which is how you respond to change, a

soul Care Coach, which is tied to reading. Akashic records a

success, principles trainer, a holy fire, Reiki practitioner,

levels one and two. An Akashic Records reader, which is tied

directly back to soul Care Coach. I'm certified. I'm

certified in Emotion Code, Body Code and belief code, as well as

being a certified High Performance Coach through the

Growth Institute. I believe is, is what it's called. And

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business, because of one of the coaches. I'm a best selling

author. The majority of the books that were best sellers

were books I wrote 100% on my own, and then I believe, three

years of being in a compilation book that was a best seller and

an international best seller, I am a success principles trainer,

and that led me to write the Book 12 minutes to success,

which has also been a talk, and I'm working on creating a

program around that. Specifically, I have a top tier

podcast called destined for success. It has almost 28,000

unique downloads. And in case you didn't know if you download

a podcast on your on your phone because you want to listen to it

later, and then you do it on your computer, it only counts as

one. So when I say 28,000 unique downloads, those are 28,000

individual people, which to me, is humongous, considering I'm

not like a celebrity influencer type person, I am certified in

holy fire Reiki levels one and two, and I do use this pretty

regularly, a soul Care Coach, which is reading Akashic

Records, which are the messages on your soul, if you Will. It's

a peek into the book of life that's discussed in the Bible.

And by the way, for those of you who haven't heard it before, I

was born on a Monday, my first time in church was the following

Sunday. I've always been a believer. I'm I'm believing the

Father, the Son, the Holy Ghost, and we're not gonna, you're not

gonna convince. Me. Otherwise, I am an inspirational

international speaker. I have spoken in Mexico and Spain and

Jamaica and on a cruise ship, so who knows? I was in

international waters on that little sucker. I am a certified

high performance coach as well as Emotion Code, Body Code and

belief code, practitioner, and I am certified in all of those

there. There are people that I've heard of, like rumors. It's

a rumor that practice Emotion Code, Body Code and belief code,

but they are not certified, which is fine, as long as you're

not getting paid for it, like when you start getting paid for

things, then you need to be certified in that methodology.

And there are other methodologies out there that you

don't have to be certified in. Nobody would check up on you.

It's fine. I'm just such a rule follower that I want to I wanted

to be certified in all the things that I was working on.

And why does this matter, like in the grand scheme of things,

why does it matter every thing I have learned, or something I

have learned from every coach I've ever worked with, I've

taken forward, I've taken forward, and I've shared with

somebody else, or I've implemented myself. I've trained

over 10,000 people. I quit counting at 10,000 I thought

that was just a lot, but I would have never known that if I

hadn't worked for a coach who had a document that we were to

fill out if we were going to teach something or we wanted to

be a speaker somewhere, and it put all the information about

our talk, our training and our needs for it. Do I need a

computer? Do I need a projector? Do I need a microphone? All

those things to put in, like, I'm going to come speak here,

and I need these things. I hadn't thought about that. So in

this one document, you put all of that information so that if,

if you're going to go speak somewhere or train somewhere,

you've got all the pieces together. It also could help

with social media and marketing, because if you had a big thing

coming up, you could turn that over to your social media person

so they knew what you were doing, and they could put

together all of the social media posts or long content short

form, or build that funnel for you. However it worked out. And

working through that, I started writing down all the classes I

had taught for the great state of Oklahoma, and I ended at

10,000 and when I think about it now, with covid, and all the

classes that I taught for covid or during covid, when the state

offices were shut down for live trainings. It's got to be way

over 15,000 now, like it's got to have been a lot. I also

include that number of people that are in the audience when

I'm doing keynote speech, or if I do a breakout session at some

type of conference. I count those people too, so I haven't

really figured out if there's a special way to say that, but

it's like I've trained over 10,000 people, and I know that

absolutely to be true. Why does that matter? It matters because

I'm helping develop leaders. My focus, originally, in my

business, was training leaders, because I feel like having been

a manager when I was very young, and I worked for a company that

was very progressive, and sent all the managers to a lot of

training, which was awesome, and then I went to the federal

government and management training was what reports had to

be done and how to put somebody on a performance improvement

plan when they weren't performing well, it wasn't

personal development or growth as a person. And I don't know

how to say this anymore. Clearly, if you are not growing

personally and professionally, if you're still in the in the

workforce in some capacity, then you're dying. You're either

growing or you're dying, you're living or you're dying. I love

learning. I love learning new things. And, oh, it just hit me.

I'm certified in like five levels of law of attraction,

mostly surrounded around wealth, the law of attraction around

wealth and money. So like, there's a lot, but I love

learning, and I love learning new things, and I love growing.

I also love sharing it with other people. And. And as a

coach myself, I think one of the hardest thing is you have to

guide the client to come up with their own solutions. Now hold

on, hear me out here, I used to get really chapped, especially

like in elementary school, when I would say, I don't know how to

spell merchandise, and the teacher would say, well, go look

in the dictionary. Well, is it M, E, R, C, K, like, how do you

s? Like, how do you get started? Or, I remember specifically one

time the word could either start with a C or an S, and she said,

look it up in the dictionary. And I'm like, Okay, where do I

start? So as a coach, I really like to be able to help people

find that starting place. And as you know, I call myself the 12

minute success coach, because I help people break those huge

goals down into smaller bite size pieces so they actually

make progress. They can really chip away at it and realize

their big dreams and big goals. So it all comes together. In the

end, I haven't always walked away with what I would consider

the financial return on investment, ROI, if you will,

from some coaches, but I always came away with something

valuable and important. So if you've hired coaches in the past

and you're like, oh, this didn't work out for me. It wasn't a

good fit, or they didn't deliver what they said they would. All

those things can be true, but you also got something out of

it. If you take a step back and go, um, yeah, I got something

out of it, yep, I did. I want to do this. I want to be this kind

of person I want to show up this way. What actor is it? Is it?

Holy smokes, he's super famous. Is it Anthony Hopkins, maybe.

And he has a lot of coaches. He has a nutrition coach, because

when he's on Broadway, he's on there for hours, and he's got to

have the proper nutrition to keep him going. And he has a

physical coach like strength training and cardio, so again,

for the stamina to do the things he wants to do. And I believe

there is a coach, if he's doing theater, and a different coach

if it's going to be a movie, if it's going to be on film, and he

has a voice coach, like he's got so many coaches. So when you

think about it, you're like, oh, I have this coach, and that

coach could be serving you very well, but you just need to know,

as a coach, all of us have our specialties. We all have our

areas of expertise and how we can help you the most, and you

might need somebody else to fill in the gaps. Because, I mean,

contrary to popular belief, I don't know everything. I don't

know it all. But if I don't, I might know somebody who does.

But that's like the importance of coaching and how it has

changed the trajectory of my life, especially over the last I

don't know, since January of 2020. Actually, is when I

started a path of really deeper spiritual development, spiritual

growth, spiritual healing. I believe that my spirituality is

my personal relationship with the Lord and the heavenly hosts,

and my religion is where I share and interact with other people

that are like minded with similar beliefs. So having a

coach really changed my life in so many ways, in so many great

ways. I had a baking business for a while called PI love you

dessert. And that came because a coach, which is on my list of 24

said, Oh my gosh, I see this vision for you. And it sounded

really great, but I didn't do my research. Let's be clear, I did

not. And as it turns out, she had never helped anyone get a

baking business going. She didn't know the laws of the

great state of Oklahoma. And every call would be, you need to

go research this. You need to go research that. And I thought,

holy crap only. That's why I thought I hired you. And so as

we got down the path, I hired another coach to help me with my

baking business. And it was another catastrophe, like they

are wonderful. Women. I love them in so many ways, but yeah,

it wasn't a fit. It absolutely was. Neither one of them were a

fit. Great ladies. Lot of respect for them both, but they

had no idea what they were talking about, and it got me all

excited about something that I didn't want to do. Let's face

it, I don't want to stand and bake for eight hours a day, pie

after pie. I'm now seeing things all over the internet where

these young ladies are like, Hey, I bake one day a week, and

I'm making a pretty substantial living. I really considered

signing up for some of those classes to see what all I was

doing wrong, but I've officially shut down my baking business and

the bank account, so I don't do that anymore. I just do it for

fun and for friends and family. So I taken that off the deal.

But why did I start a baking business in the first place? Did

you ask me that? Have I heard that question? In addition to

being a great baker, and then having taken Kate decorating

class, which included cookie decorating and then other cookie

decorating classes. So, oh, I didn't even add those to my

list. Super Amazing people. Most all of them have been women.

Actually, I was going to say most of them women, but nope,

they were all women. And I did that because I had a coach who

would say, Just go do this. Then that will happen here. Let me

give you my entire PowerPoint deck. You make modifications

where you need, create a webinar and create a four to six week

program and and do the webinar, and people will buy and then,

and then you're done, and then, like, money's coming in, just do

this. Then that will happen. And while I was in her paid group at

that point, it was the last interaction in that capacity,

and she asked how things were going. It was a small group, and

everybody had to stand in front of the group. And I said, Well,

I'm just completely taken aback by the word just I've heard,

just do this, then that will happen. And my experience is

that that doesn't happen. And oh my word, like shooting daggers

at me. I never promised you anything. Of course, she didn't,

but she said, Just do this. Then that will happen. So I get

triggered by the word just and I try really hard when I'm working

with people not to say, just do this, because it's triggering.

And what works for one person may not work for you. They might

have a different approach. They may not be quite as assertive,

and there might be a different path for you, but take the great

things that you learn from them and the lessons you learn from

them, and implement them the best way that you can, because

we can't get through this life without help, without coaches,

without people to help us get there. It might have started out

being a teacher, or I played softball. I was in gymnastics, I

was in ice skating. I did multiple things, and we all had

coaches, teach coaches, teachers, trainers in there. So

it's a part of life. But I think as an adult, we think we're

supposed to get it all and know it all. And I heard somebody say

recently, oh, my boss called her life coach. And there was a

little bit of snarkiness of that, and I thought it was

hilarious, because I'm all of those things. I'm a life coach,

a high performance coach, a soul Care Coach. I'm a energy healer,

which is another type of coach. I got a lot of coaching hats,

and I wear them proudly, and I do, and if you're ever

interested in what I do or how I might be able to help you get

unstuck, move to the next level, get back on that journey of

growth instead of decline. Book a call. My my link to book a

call is your success call.com. Book a call and let's talk about

it. I'm Jennifer Takagi, and this is destined for success. I

look forward to connecting with you soon. Bye.