When Fitting In Is A Good Thing

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain, to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfilment and contribution, to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it, and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you, during this episode, please send me an email at info at the and Hawkins coaching.com. And let me know what you found. I know the power of this work, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

You may have heard many times recently on your growth journey that you shouldn't have to fit in. But just be yourself. And that's true most of the time. But there are times where it is okay for you to fit in. And let me explain. So, rapport, right, how we connect with people is so much more than just the verbal and body language. And we're told that, you know, verbal is only a small part and body language plays a huge part. But it's actually the unconscious connection that plays a much bigger part. And when we connect with people on an unconscious level, and you will hear me talk, you heard me talk before about the different energy that you can feed off different people and you go into a room and you get a sense of someone, not something not being quite right about them, you feel that before they even open their mouth. And also the opposite when they're when there's something really good about them and you're drawn to the energy. So when we connect with people, what we're actually doing is, is connecting to our higher selves, a higher selves connecting an energetic level. And that way we can actually help give that person what they need. So not treating someone as you want to be treated, but treating some as they need to be treated, to help them meet their needs, at the same time making sure that you are not compromising your own. And when we can do that we can we can, when we can be the highest version of ourselves. When we can step into our true power, we have that ability to almost be like a chameleon, where we can seamlessly fit in or be ourselves in any scenario. In any setting, we can talk confidently, and we can talk and connect in a way that just feels natural. And yet, it will be different to how you would be acting in another different scenario. Because of the different people that you're connecting with. If you're connecting with the intention, it's for your highest and for their highest and for the greatest good. So that everyone wins, it's connecting from a place of your heart from love. Then yeah, you're being the chameleon, you are fitting in as almost like no one is even noticing. At the same time they are right. But they're not noticing that you're being anything out of the normal. Even people that know you well will just feel like you're just being yourself because you are being a version of yourself. And your being the highest version of yourself. And that highest version has that ability. So this is a little bit outside maybe what you've typically heard in any sort of self development, self growth, sort of spaces. And it's an extension of what you have been taught this is the next level, this is taking your ability to connect with your like the highest version of you and and that way connecting with others, even deeper level. So how do we do that? It comes back to the same place, the more that we can grow ourselves, the more that we can release, what no longer serves, let go of those things that are holding us back those breaks that are keeping us stuck. The more we can tune it in in a way that allows even the most challenging situations

to, like, yes, it can cause us different reactions, but there's a certain ease and flow about it. And when we can be in that state, even through the biggest challenges, then we're able to not only lead ourselves out of challenges, but we're able to lead other people to

So, if that's where you're at at the moment, then keep moving forward. Know the works never done, that you're not completely healed. You're not completely fixed. And I've had people say, oh, you know, I really don't feel like there's, you know, there's anything else for me to clear. It's like, the moment you even think that then there's something just around the corner just to remind you that there's more to be done. This, this is the journey. And there's so much fulfilment of continuing to stretch yourself. Not taking yourself to a place a panic, but just that straight place of stretch out of your comfort zone, to continue to expand, to be the best version of yourself, and find even better ways to fit in, while still being true to yourself.

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