Why Waiting for Things to “Settle Down” Is Hurting Your LGBTQ Teen (And What to Do Instead)
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Have you been telling yourself, “Let’s just give it time,” while the distance between you and your LGBTQ teen quietly grows?
Many loving parents believe waiting is the mature, thoughtful move. Don’t push. Don’t overreact. Don’t say the wrong thing.
But in this episode, Heather Hester unpacks why silence often lands as disapproval, how emotional restraint creates disconnection, and why waiting for clarity can actually widen the gap you’re trying to close.
If you’re trying to be a steady LGBTQ ally but feel stuck in fear, this episode offers grounded guidance that moves you from hesitation to connection.
In this episode, you’ll:
- Understand why silence feels protective but often lands as rejection
- Learn thow waiting becomes a loop and how it quietly increases emotional distance
- Get one simple, doable sentence you can use this week to reopen connection without escalating tension
You’ll leave with a calmer nervous system and a clearer path forward.
Press play to learn how to interrupt the silence, reconnect with your LGBTQ child, and show up as the steady, loving ally they need — even before everything feels “figured out.”
Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!
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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and grow their capacity for courageous, compassionate connection.
For parents, allies, and those pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action.
Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in, I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey.
More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast for parents and allies and space where a mom and mental health advocate offers guidance on parenting with empathy, inclusion, and open-minded allyship, fostering growth, healing, and empowerment within the LGBTQ community including lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer individuals while addressing grief, boundaries, education, diversity, human rights, gender identity, sexual orientation, social justice, and the power of love and human kindness through a lens of ally support and community engagement.
