May 18, 2022

Lift the Lid & Embrace Who You Really Are

Lift the Lid & Embrace Who You Really Are

In today’s episode, I share a personal story about lifting the lid to allow the fullest expression of who you are to emerge. It’s a story, in part, about my coming out of the spiritual closet. The bigger message is about getting clear about who you are and what you really want, and taking the time to define that for yourself instead of having it defined for you by society. You find that clarity, of course, by tuning into your soul's voice.

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I’m your host, Anita Adams, an award-winning leader and the founder of Joyful Inspired Living, an organization dedicated to teaching people how to access their highest most authentic self so they can find clarity and create a life of purpose, passion, and joy. In addition to hosting the Joyful Journey Podcast, I offer retreats, both live and online, and private coaching programs to further guide my clients on their journey to their highest self.

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Transcript
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Welcome to the joyful journey podcast. If

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you're uncertain about what you really want or unsure how to be

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a force for good, you know this world craves, then this is the

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show for you. I'm Anita Adams, your host and guide to finding

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clarity and creating a life you love. Let's tap into our inner

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wisdom, access our highest self and unleash joy. As we raise our

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vibration we heightened the collective consciousness and

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that my friends, is the joyful journey. Let's dive in. Hey,

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joyful journey errs need to Adams here your host of the

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joyful journey podcast. Before we jump into today's episode

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with some storytelling about embracing who you really are.

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I'd like to thank another listener for her lovely review,

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Rochelle C. 35 says, Wow, a really great podcast filled with

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inspiration, wisdom and guidance, and Anita shares

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authentically her experiences and provides grounded guidance

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and tips. I also liked that the episodes are short, good for

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binging. This is going to be my must listen podcast every week

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of 2022 Thank you, we're shall see 35 I'm delighted you love

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the show. And I so appreciate your review. Alright, my fellow

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joyful journeyers today I have another story to share with you.

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And this one begins on a cold winter night. 12 years ago when

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I finally find the courage to tell my husband who I really am.

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Have you ever kept a secret from someone you love. It took me 23

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years to come clean with my secret 23 years together and I

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finally recognize that I can no longer suppress this part of who

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I am. It's not that I'm lying or pretending to be something I'm

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not. It's more like, I'm not allowing myself the fullest

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expression of who I am. It's like putting a lid on who you

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are because you're afraid that what's going to bubble out is

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going to be too much, you're going to be too much. That was

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my fear that the lid on my Verbling pot was going to come

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off and this messy, undeveloped part of who I am is going to

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splatter everywhere. Like a grade nine science experiment

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gone horribly wrong. And my husband is not going to love it.

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Not gonna love who I really am. So the lid stays firmly on for

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23 years. Are you wondering what I'm hiding from my husband? God,

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well, more like hiding my desire to have God in my life. This was

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a pretty big deal for me sharing this part of who I am with my

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science minded non believer husband felt like it would be

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telling him I think Darwin is a joke, or that I'm a flat earther

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or that I love dancing with underpants on my head. All

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right, that flat earther bit is weird. But all these things

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would evoke the same response. He'd be like, what? Here's the

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thing. I held on to this irrational belief that science

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and spirituality don't mix. I also felt I needed to be more

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like my husband more logical and less woowoo to be his equal.

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Have you ever felt like you have to be more of one thing or less

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of something else? If you have, you'll understand that there

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comes a time when it's harder to hold on to the facade than to

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truly embrace who you are. That time came for me 12 years ago on

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that cold winter night when I finally realized it's time to

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lift the lid. Or wait until Tom my husband is in bed scrolling

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through watch making tutorials on YouTube, a favorite pastime.

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I quietly walk into the bedroom. My heart is pounding. My hands

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are clammy and my throat feels tight. I slide into bed next to

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him. Prop myself up on some pillows and with laser focus. I

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stare out the window is everything all right? Yeah, I

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just I just want to come.

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What? I said I want to have God in my life. Tom I'm so afraid to

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share this with you because I don't want you to judge it or me

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or think that I'm being foolish. I know you don't believe in God.

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And that's all right. I do. I do. And I feel like there's

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something missing for me. I want to explore this. And at the same

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time, I'm really afraid to go down this path because he's

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helped me change me or change us drive a wedge between us. And I

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don't want that. I don't want that. But I want this. Does that

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mean we're going to church on Sunday? Oh my gosh, my husband,

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he just has this way of easing the tension, making me laugh,

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usually making me laugh at myself. I was so afraid to share

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this part of me. I thought if I opened up and lifted the lid, I

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would ruin something that was already really good. This

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opening up doesn't ruin us. Of course. It strengthens us. You

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know what ruins relationships? Yeah, keeping lid on who you

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are. Not only that it robs you of your joy and roads, your love

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of self. That's a pretty huge price to pay, and one you will

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pay for hiding even the smallest piece of who you are. When I

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finally found the courage to lift the lid, I discovered I

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really liked the person who emerged. I would even go as far

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to say that that was the beginning of me deepening my

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love for self. It was the beginning of me being honest

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with myself and others about who I am and what I want. The truth

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is, I've spent way too much of my life caring way too much

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about what other people think and trying to be what others

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want me to be or what I think others want me to be. How

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exhausting, stifling. What about you? Have you been honest with

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yourself and others about who you really are? Have you lifted

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the lid to allow the fullest expression of you to emerge? Or

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is there a part of you that you hide or suppress to please

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others or to fit in the ladder? My hope is that you find the

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courage to lift the lid and to fully embrace every bit of who

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you are. When you do you deepen your respect and love for

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yourself. You strengthen your relationships, and you unleash

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great joy. Sounds awesome, doesn't it? Now, are you

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wondering how exactly do you lift the lid? There's only one

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thing you have to do. And that is get super clear with yourself

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about who exactly is in that pot? Who are you? And what do

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you want? It may surprise you that the vast majority of people

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don't really know the answers to these questions. Why? Because we

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are bombarded with messages from society telling us who we should

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be capitalism at its worst, with corporations feeding us images

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and stories designed to manipulate us into buying their

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products and using their their services. And these corporations

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along with the media and even friends and family are defining

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what happiness and success is supposed to look like. We are

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told who we should be and what we should want. And many of us

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do not give ourselves the space we need to figure that out for

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ourself. We are told to be happy we need to be in a relationship

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and get married. Some of us are even told who to marry. We are

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told what is beautiful, how much we should weigh, how to behave.

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And we are told status, position and financial wealth are the

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pinnacle of success. A list of things we are told that we

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should aspire to be is endless. These are messages that we

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receive from our earliest days. It's a lot of noise. And that

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noise can drown out your soul voice, that higher self that is

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within you, that understands who you really are and what you

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want.

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So if you want to lift the lid and allow the fullest expression

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of who you are to emerge, you must tune out all the noise, go

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with him. And listen to your soul voice to find that clarity

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and to define who you are for yourself as you listen, a

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competence and who you really are and what you want will grow.

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And you'll feel the desire to share that part of you with

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others like I shared with my husband when I told him I wanted

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to have God in my life. And when you share more of who you really

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are with others, even just one other trusted soul, you begin to

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fanned the flames of your soul's desire and the clarity about who

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you are and what you want burns hot. Soon, that lid is bouncing

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on your beautiful burbling pot, and it will more easily slide

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off as you emerge fully understanding, embracing and

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loving who you are. This is the power of looking inward and

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listening to your soul boys. If you need a reminder on how to

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quiet all the noise so you can better tune into that soul

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voice. Go back and listen to episode number 19 quieting the

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monkey brain. investing time to get clear about who you really

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are and what you want does take effort and you might joyful

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journey or are so worth that effort. I hope my personal story

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in this episode inspires you to invest more time looking inward

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and listening. So you can lift the lid and allow the fullest

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expression of you to emerge. If you want to go deeper with this

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work, I offer a three month mentoring program specifically

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designed to guide you on your inward looking journey. So you

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can find greater clarity about who you are and what you want,

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and create a life aligned with your true higher self. Visit

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joyful inspired living.com to learn more. Thanks for joining

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me today joyful journeyer we'll catch you next time. Thanks.

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