Where Are You At? EP:33

Hello, my friends and welcome. You're listening to soul inspired decisions, a podcast for ordinary moms living extraordinary lives. My intention with this podcast is to teach, motivate and inspire by sharing stories, tools and strategies to help you unlock your greatest fears, annoying habits and old stories and make a move towards the things that have been on your heart. If you have been a little lost, or in a funk, and want to reconnect with your purpose, your passion and feel empowered again, then this is the best place for you to be hanging out. My name is Carrie Lecuyer. And I'm an ordinary mom making extraordinary decisions. This is me putting one foot in front of the other, moving towards my next goal, and hoping to inspire you along the way. Let's get started.

Welcome back, everyone to soul inspired decisions. I'm your host, Carrie Lecuyer. And I have a topic for you to focus on what's really going on in your life right now. So I want to call it I guess, focusing on your habits. And I guess asking you how you're showing up for what's going on in your life right now. So my favorite thing to do with clients with whoever I'm working with is checking in checking with myself checking in with who's around me, but checking in. So my question is for you. Why do you have the amount of money in your bank account? Why is your marriage on a scale of one to 10? One being dead in the water and 10 being completely amazing? Why are you at a five? Why in your career? Are you feeling so unmotivated and so uninspired that you wake up feeling sick in the morning and don't even want to go to work? Why are you feeling like your relationship with your family, your kids is so far from where you want it to be you don't even know where to start? Why is your health on a scale of one to 10? One is complete exhaustion, health issues, poor eating habits, no water all the things to maybe you're under 10? You're healthy as if right? Where are you at? Where are you truly at in your life with the thing that's always on your mind. Because that's how we grow. That's how we improve. We acknowledge where we're at, and understand that we don't want to be there anymore. Anyone relate to any of these at all? Because they're the number one things that I work on people with it. I have two women who are growing beautiful little businesses as their side hustles they're doing amazing. But these things come up. I have two women who are working on their house, these issues come up. So why is my business not growing? Maybe that's your question. Why she's so unfriendly to me. Maybe that's your question. Why is there never enough money? Maybe? That's your question. I don't know what's on your mind. You know what's on your mind? You know what always comes up for you? It's always the why, why? Why? Let's take a look. If you answer on a scale of one to 10 What is your outcome today? It doesn't have to stay there. But you have to acknowledge where you are right now. Some people are activating their minds, some people are not. Some of you are making an effort. And some of you are not. Some people are complaining. And some people are taking steps in the right direction. Even if it's hard. Maybe you're looking for someone to do it for you. Maybe you're looking for someone to blame. But when we blame others, we just don't want to look at what's right in front of us. The problem is us ourselves and acknowledging where we're at and where we want to be because we don't want to be here any longer. Why? Because you probably don't feel good where you're at and you want better for yourself and you should. where you're at right now is not where you have to stay. It does not have to be here you are not ruined. You can never be ruined. You are not so far gone unhealthy that you could never get back to you. A beautiful, wonderful weight or a rid of the health issues are the things you can build. rebuild your marriage. You can rebuild your relationships with your family. You can do all the things but it takes work and you can't do it for someone else. You got to start with you. Take the thing and scale it right now. Be honest with them Stop one. It's poor 10 It's wonderful. Where are you at?

Are you out of control? Are you uninspired? Are you just bored? So you're at like 0123. Or maybe the opposite, maybe you're at an 8.5. And he's been stuck. Maybe you're fairly healthy, maybe you have been moving forward, you've been doing the things, but you're stuck, you're stuck, you're stuck, you've plateaued, you're wishing you're wanting you want to get to the 10, you can feel it, you can taste it, you can see it, you want it, and you just can't get there. And it's so frustrating to you probably thought 100 times that you just want to quit, because that would probably be easier. And that's probably what you've done in the past. And you're trying to hang on by a thread. And you just want someone to do it for you. Because that's what we want. When it gets hard. We have to acknowledge the thing that we want to give up, because that's easier than digging in and sticking with it. Goals don't happen overnight. Dreams don't happen overnight. wishes don't happen overnight. Where are you at? On your scale, say it out loud. pictured in your head. Write it down, acknowledge it, but feel it. That is power. Step one is done. Now release it. Just take a deep breath in. And let it all up. Just let it go. Now let's get into your heart space. Because all of that where you just were is your head, the fears, the worries, the doubts, the all the things, that's your hit, we need to get into your heart. That's where the change happens. For some of you, I get asked you what's going on in your life that you're not intend. Or you can't get to a six because it's super scary. Maybe even moving from a one to a two. Maybe you've been depressed for years and just walking outside is so scary, that you don't even know where to start. You like the idea of walking outside, but it's super scary. I have a lady right now I'm working with who has super high anxiety. She's made great moves the last three weeks, one step at a time working with her to move forward one step at a time. It can be done. trusting yourself is where it starts. Some of your mind a lot of your minds are wandering so much without the mom things the work things the house things the To Do lists that never end. You know, the people that add things to their to do lists that they've done because it's easier to cross off those things that they did do then actually get to your to do list. That's all in our hands. A confused mind does nothing we don't move forward. When we're unclear of what we really want. Some of you are going to excuses right away. Well, I can't because oh, I don't want to right now. It's not the right time. It's not the right place. I don't have the right money. I don't have the job. I don't have the clients, I don't have the whatever your story is, whether it's your story or your victim story or your self sabotage story. That's your story. We all do this. It's to stop yourself where you're at. Because that's where you create change. We worry about the finances. Of course we worry about our kids. Of course, we worry about our husband eating Of course. We worry about the house being clean the kids schedules, what's happening at school, are the teachers being fair? Oh my god, I can't exercise city she looks better than I do. All the things we put into our brain. We need to, quote need to find ourselves in the moment of peace. We find the first way out when it gets tough. And for 95% of us that's getting lost in our phones, TV, Netflix, how many of you scroll and scroll and scroll. I was so angry at myself a few weeks ago because I laid in bed and my scrolled for an hour and a half. And I put my phone down and my husband was still scrolling and I was like we just wasted an hour and a half of time of life. And he's like yeah, so what? That's a masculine thing to do. They just get lost feminine. They just feel awful about doing it because I could have been sleeping. I can claim that I'm tired but I just completely did myself no good by doing that. So then I was angry at myself because I don't usually do that. It just got lost in the moment and then See how we do this so easily?

My stories relatable to your story, your story was relatable to my sister, we all do these different things, and we get lost. And that's not where we want to be. So we have to snap out of it. Raise your hand, or say I do right now, or in your mind, if you know what I'm talking about. This is real life we are living in. My question for you is, how did you think your life would be? At this time? Like 10 years ago? Did you think that you'd be where you are today, with all the things on your mind, the worries, the doubts, the fears, the things? My dear friend, it's just this moment of time that you need to be shaken up. You have the rest of your life waiting for you. You can't change the past, you can acknowledge where you're at, you can still have dreams and desires and wishes to move forward. And you can still have a five year plan. Where do you want to be five years from now? Maybe you want to get through this depression, the anger, maybe you have suicidal thoughts, and you've been battling for that for years, maybe you've had bad anxiety, money, troubles, relationship problems, marriage problems, all the things that weigh us down. You hate your job, but you still there, you want more you want to go move you anything can come to your mind. Maybe used to work and you're not and you're self sabotaging yourself, because that life that you love that you had freedom is no longer there, and you just stuck in the past and those old stories, I've been there too. You gotta let go and create the now. So let's all notice in our heads, that that's noise. That's very loud noise that distracts us. So I want you to put your hand on your heart right now, in this moment, if you're walking, driving, listening through all your work, work out whatever it may be, put your hand on your heart, take a deep breath in and let it out. Notice the noise around you, in this moment. Beyond what you hear from me, notice the noise, the furthest noise from the truck on the highway, your kids in the background, the radio, the birds, the coyotes, the airplane flying over you. Listen, I'm gonna give you a second to listen. Listen hard to what a round you can keep your hands on your heart. And listen. Or take a deep breath in and look at something in front of you right now. What is it, say it, acknowledge it. Take another deep breath in letter that you didn't notice it before. And it was right there. You didn't hear it. But it was right there. And now we are connected. We are connected in this present moment, taking you out of your head and into the present moment. In this moment, nothing else matters except for you. And what's in your heart. That's where growth begins. This is a place where we move forward. Oh, one more thing. Put your hand on your heart again and just say thank you to yourself for taking the time to do this and take a deep breath in. Let it out and smile. Do it smile. You can't help but smile now that I said it. But just smile. Again, you are connected. It's that simple. You're connected with yourself connected with your heart in this moment, we take ourselves out of our head for one second in into our hearts and we can start now scale in this moment of where you want to go that's realistic at this time in your life. Say it aloud pictured in your head, where do you truly want to be? Where do you truly want to move to? Now I can tell you that that's achievable. Acknowledging where you were, where you want to go is power. You can do it you can get there because now you are clear. It doesn't have to be today. But you can consciously be aware of where you want to go. And I will ask you right now how good would it feel to get to where you want to go? Like what would the feeling that you for you? You know like stress free freedom. Healthy, you just be healthy and motivated and vibrant and full of energy. You'd feel empowered, whatever it may be, I don't know what's going on in your world where you want to move to, or go to.

But how would it feel to get to that number? If you were at a five? And you want to get to a nine? How would that nine feel? If you were at a one with depression and suicidal thoughts, anxiety, whatever it may be going on in your life right now, and then you got two or three? How would that change your life because of that, something that you can move towards, that is realistic for you. And it may take a couple of months, it may take a year, it doesn't matter. What matters is that you have clarity on where you want to go. And you have a feeling of how you want to feel when you get there. Now it just rang about you heard it right. Again, I'm taking you out of your thoughts, because you probably quickly went into an instant story of all that sounds like a lot of work. And I snapped you out of it. Because that's what we're so used to doing. You don't need to do that anymore. You just need to know in this moment, where do you want to go and the feeling of getting there and he got to attend if you've got to an aid in your marriage, because you haven't been there and so long that you would just like that, and acknowledge what your first step is going to be.

Tomorrow,

you're going to start one thing. Be in the moment, be inspired, be active. Take that step. What is your next step that is achievable for you, you know, in your mind what's right for you. Now you're connected to your future. And that's how you move forward.