May 13, 2024

What do you really want? | DFS 294

What do you really want? | DFS 294

Get all the inside secrets and tools you need to help you develop your intuitive and leadership skills so you are on the path to the highest level of success with ease.  We often want what others suggest we need or say we want.  But is it true for you?  Last week Jim Oneschuk discussed business growth.  I’ve struggled with business growth because I was offering what someone else suggested I do / sell / be.

In this episode you will learn:


  • The Bell Curve of Tech Adaptation
  • When did you buy an iPhone, or did you
  • How to “listen” to your gut



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Listen in as Jennifer Takagi, founder of Takagi Consulting, 5X time Amazon.Com Best Selling-Author, Certified Soul Care Coach, Certified Jack Canfield Success Principle Trainer, Certified Professional Behavioral Analyst and Facilitator of the DISC Behavioral Profiles, Certified Change Style Indicator Facilitator, Law of Attraction Practitioner, and Certified Coaching Specialist - leadership entrepreneur, speaker and trainer, shares the lessons she’s learned along the way.  Each episode is designed to give you the tools, ideas, and inspiration to lead with integrity. Humor is a big part of Jennifer’s life, so expect a few puns and possibly some sarcasm.  Tune in for a motivational guest, a story or tips to take you even closer to that success you’ve been coveting.  Please share the episodes that inspired you the most and be sure to leave a comment.  


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Jennifer Takagi

Speaker, Trainer, Author, Catalyst for Healing


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Transcript
Jennifer Takagi:

Welcome to destined for success. I'm your



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host Jennifer Takagi and today I want to switch directions a



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little bit based on the conversation we had last week



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with Jim, I'm not gonna say right hones check, and he



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developed an app called Ultimate business growth. And you can get



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the app in the Google Store, the whatever the iPhone store is



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called App Store. And I've kind of struggled with business



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growth over the years, because I was offering what somebody else



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suggested that I do or sell or how I be how I show up in the



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world. So I want to talk first about, as I fall out of my chair



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here, I want to talk about the bell curve of tech adaptation.



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Now, to be clear, and to throw in a little caveat, in full



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transparency, I didn't research this, like, where did this first



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come from? Where did these terms first come from? But when I



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Googled it, the first thing that came up was this bell curve. And



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this terminology is tied to the technology adaptation. So when



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does someone adopt a certain technology? And the cont the



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terms, that's what I want to use the labels the terms. You start



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out with tech enthusiast, and those are the innovators. And



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they're like, first there, they're like, We need this, I'm



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going to help create it. Then you have the visionaries that



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are the early adopters. And that's like 13.5% of the



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population. These early adopters are the ones when they hear a



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new piece of technology comes out. They are up all night



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standing in line waving. Back when we had to go someplace to



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get things we couldn't just order them online. They were



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just waiting to click the button. Then you have the



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pragmatists are like, ooh, do I want it? Do I not they are the



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early majority, again, about 34% of the population. And they're



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like, Yeah, I want it but I want to wait just a tiny bit and see,



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like who else gets it, what happens? Then you have the



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conservatives, and they're also called Late Majority. 34% of the



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population is equal with the pragmatist is like, well, I want



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to see even more people get it before I do. And then you've got



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the skeptics. And I love this term, the skeptics are the



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laggards. And that's like 16%. So we've got the, the latest of



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the late showing up to the party, and sometimes they show



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up to the party, when there is no option. So where do you fall



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on this bell curve? So the question that comes to mind for



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me is when did you buy an iPhone? Or did you ever? So I



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decided when I got my Well, first I got a phone in the very



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first place. They were flip phones back in the day. And the



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reason I got one is my cousin was in the hospital. And it was



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life threatening. And I needed to be able to get ahold of



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people and have people be able to get hold of me. So I called



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my husband, and I was at work and I said, Hey, I need you to



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go get me a phone, and then meet me at the hospital. And what I



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wanted and did not communicate was I wanted him to go to the



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phone store and grab me a phone, buy me a phone, give me a number



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and bring it to me. And he met me outside the hospital and



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handed me his phone. And I said, Well, what do I want to do with



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this? And he goes, Well, you said you needed a phone? And I



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said yeah, but I wanted to. I wanted you to go get me a phone



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and he goes, Well, here's a phone. So yes, now I have a



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phone, but now I can't get ahold of my husband. I have his phone.



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So the next day, I went into the phone store and I got a phone.



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And it was fine. It was a flip phone. It did what I needed to



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do. But I couldn't text. I could not I could not text it was



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basically I didn't want to text just call me. I just call me if



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you want to tell me something, don't text me. And I remember,



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fast forward a little bit. My dad was in the hospital and my



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girlfriend texted me. And it took me like 10 minutes to text



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her back. Just call me when you can talk because I wasn't gonna



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text with her. And then my husband was nice enough to go



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get me a film that was a slide. It was a slide phone and you



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slit it up and then you had a keyboard and you can actually



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type on the keyboard and then we moved into it. needing wanting



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or desiring whatever, a touchscreen smartphone. So when



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I went in to get my smartphone, I was adamant I did not want an



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iPhone. And you might be saying, why would you want an iPhone?



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Jennifer? Well, that's just a really great question. And I



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didn't want to iPhone, because by that time the iPhones got to



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have different cords than everybody else. And I thought



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that was stupid. Like they should have the same cord as



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everybody else, the same plug. But that's not how it worked.



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That was not how it worked at all. So I didn't want one. And I



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didn't get one. And I went through multiple phones. And my



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last phone, I won't slam a brand. I'm sure they've made it



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better. But I went to Paris, I was fortunate enough to go to



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Paris with several of my girlfriends. And it was one of



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my girlfriend's birthday, we literally were at the top of the



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Eiffel Tower drinking champagne on her birthday, and it was so



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much fun. And side story, they said they had a champagne bar.



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He was the champagne window. It was a window and you went up and



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you paid this guy and he handed you a plastic glasses of



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champagne. I thought it was gonna be a bar. Like we could



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sit in a bar and order glasses of champagne overlooking Paris.



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But that's not how it works. It was still amazing, though, by



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the way. So we're in Paris. I've been having trouble with my



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phone. My girlfriend only has a work phone that has minimal



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things on it like Uber is not on her work phone. So we're using



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my phone but it won't hold a charge. It's our last day in



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Paris. We are taking a train out to a hotel way far away, so that



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we can be closer to the airport and have a shuttle to the



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airport the next morning because our flights are very early. So



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we're on the train. We're almost to the station literally in the



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middle of nowhere, tiny little village and I go on Uber and I



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asked for a car. And I immediately put my phone on



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airplane mode after I asked for the car because I didn't want



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the battery to die like it is die. It won't last all day. It's



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been on airplane mode all day. So we step out of the train



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station. Everybody scatters because they know where they're



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going. They know where where they're going. And about the



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time I hit the button to turn it off airplane mode it comes back



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on. And I opened the car door that drives up and he says Ginny



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fail and I was like we said wha and we jump in the car and he



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takes us to the hotel. I have my phone plugged in all night. The



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next morning, I get on the shuttle bus to go to the



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airport. I get to the airport. I fly to the US I don't have my



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phone on the whole time. Right it's on airplane mode the whole



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way because an airplane. I land in Detroit I get through



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customs. Another side note Detroit customs rocks. That is



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the fastest bestest customs place I've ever been flying



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internationally to are from. So I fly into Detroit. I get



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through customs easily. They have a Chili's. I love Chili's.



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And I love their chips and salsa. I haven't had chips and



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salsa and weeks order a beer and chips and salsa. I'm all happy I



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call my husband. I said I'm back in the US my flights in two



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hours is a two hour flight home. I'll call you when I get to



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Columbus city. Okay. I hang up. I eat my chips and salsa. I go



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to the gate. And they have a charging stand. I grab it. I



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plug my Android film in. And I'm reading a book I'm a big Kindle



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fan, avid reader. I'm reading I'm happy. And my phone will



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kind of like Blink beeps a little bit every now and then.



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And when I look at it, it says something like, system can't



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optimize or whatever it was that it said. And I was like, Man,



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that's really weird. Okay. So I get off the plane in Oklahoma



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City. My girlfriend I'm supposed to drive her home. Because she



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doesn't have her personal phone. She only has her work phone and



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she's not blah, blah blah, whatever. But I'm going to take



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her home we've already decided this in Paris. I'll drive her



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home and our plan our flights, different airlines flying into



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different cities we land 10 minutes apart or something. So



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I'm at baggage claim and she comes up and she goes I'm in



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texting you Why are you replying? And I said my phone is



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dead, like D AD dead. And I take her home and I pass See a phone



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store on the way to her house. I dropped her off.



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I circle back I walk in. It's about 10 till seven. Well, I



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want to research this. Now granted, I don't know really



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much of anything about phones other than what other people



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tell me. But I wanted to make a few calls. I wanted to find out



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what phone to get. So I walk up, and I hold my phone up. And as a



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young man and a young woman, I'm just gonna guess they're both



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under 30. And I said, Hey, can you fix my phone? So that it



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works for a couple days? So I can decide what kind of phone to



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get. And they looked at each other. And then they looked at



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me. And at the same time, they both said, No, that phone is



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dead. And I went, What do you mean, the phone's dead? You can



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get it back. And they're like, No, we can't. That's a system



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failure error. And I went, Oh, and they said, If you want a



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phone, you need to pick one like right now. Well, I wasn't ready



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to pick one right now. But okay, I'll pick one right now. And I



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was like, Okay, great. I don't want an iPhone, but you've got



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30 seconds to tell me why I want an iPhone. And the young man



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looks at me and he points his finger at his my phone. And he



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doesn't in a circle, his finger kind of like you know, the



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buffering buffering symbol. He does his finger like that. And



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he said, an iPhone will never do that. Well, that was like the



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clearest, most concise explanation I had ever had on



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why I would want an iPhone and I said, I'm not paying 1000 bucks.



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And they said, Great, we have one for 800. And I said fine.



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And they said what color and they had University of Oklahoma



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red. Not really, I just call it that. But it was a red phone and



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I went great. And I want to clear case and they went great.



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And at 704 I walk out of the store with a new iPhone with all



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my stuff, imported all my my numbers, my contacts, my



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everything, and it works and it had 50% Charge already. So I'm



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gonna say I was a laggard getting in the iPhone world. I



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didn't want one because I didn't like to plug in. Well, now that



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I've got seven Kindles don't judge me. I have them in



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different places and use them for different things have



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different books on them to travel with to in case one goes



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dead. Those plugs those little basic USB, mini USB, whatever



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it's called, they can easily get squished and then your stuff



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won't charge. So now I do have an iPhone and I do have an iPad.



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Why do I have an iPad, I didn't want an iPad, I got an iPad



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because I decorate cookies. And sometimes you have the image



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projected onto the cookie so you can make it look beautiful. And



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for whatever reason. Most of the cameras you get for that have to



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have an Apple product. They wouldn't work with my Kindle,



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they wouldn't work with my laptop, they wouldn't work with



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anything else. I had to get an iPad. But guess what? The



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Chargers always work. The Chargers always work. It is now



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2024 And I've had this iPhone since 2019. And the only problem



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I've ever had is sometimes I have too many apps and I need to



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delete the crap I don't use but that's it. I would not listen. I



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could not hear the people that were telling me when I first got



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a smartphone. Why I would want an iPhone. I couldn't hear it. I



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wasn't ready. I probably heard somebody bashing iPhone. And I



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was like yeah, me too. I'm on that bandwagon. I didn't know



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why am I telling you to get an iPhone? No, you need to get what



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works for you. And that brings me like to the whole point of



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this conversation, which is what do you really want? What do you



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really want what do you really need when I went to get my first



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smartphone? The young man in the store took one look at me and



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Karina I don't look my age at all. I look way younger than my



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actual age. But I looked older than him because he was like 22



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and I did look older than that because I looked 30 at 22 So



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there you go. He said something about well for people like you



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it's us get the iPhone it's easier to use. People like me,



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like am I like I didn't get it. If he had had a little better



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sales tactic, I probably would have not gone through four,



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maybe five different Android phones that all failed me



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miserably before I went to the iPhone. I didn't have all the



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data, I didn't have all the information. I went with what



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somebody suggested. I said, I don't want to iPhone, he goes



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great here, get this. And I did. And that was a disaster. That



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phone didn't even last a year, it was so bad. You have to



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listen to your gut. What you really want, you need to get



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some information. Why is this better than this? What does it



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have to offer? me on my business? What am I going to



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offer? What do I want you to buy? How do I want you to work



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with me? Do I want you to work with me in a group setting? Do I



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want you to work with me one on one? Guess what? We can work



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that out. But you have to listen to your gut on what feels good



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and right to you. Are you a speaker? What do you want to



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talk about? What is something that if somebody handed you a



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mic every single day for the rest of your life? You could



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talk about easily, effortlessly, and get this with a lot of



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passion? What could it be? What could you talk about? Like go on



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and on and on talking about 40,000 things about it. Listen



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to your gut. How do you do that? Sometimes the answer just come



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so quickly and easily. You're like, oh, yeah, I'm in and



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that's great. If you're not in a car, if you're in a car and



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you're at a stoplight, okay, fine. But if you're driving,



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don't do this set up kind of straight, not stiff, just a



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little bit straight. Relax your shoulders bounce on a timer to



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bounce my mind. Can you hear that? My voice amounts for



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shoulders. My name is Jennifer. So I'm going to ask the question



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Is my name Jennifer and my body sways forward just a tiny bit is



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my name Bill and I go back just a little bit bills my husband's



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name, but it's not my name. And you can start practicing to



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learn the yeses. And the knows your body will tell you. Your



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body will tell you what's a yes. What's a No. Should I invest in



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this? Yeah, yeah, that feels really good. I was at a event a



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year or so ago. And an NLP practitioner led us through a



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visualization exercise. And we were all standing up. And she



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was like, imagine you're five years from now. And I mean, oh,



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was so positive and optimistic. And then she was like, now



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consider you didn't make any change at all? What would that



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be like? And ooh, your body just felt very differently when you



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were like, ooh, like, if everything stays the same. I'm



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not happy with that. I don't want that I want something



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different. And I was talking to a gal that was also at the



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conference and a little breakout thing. And she said, our I asked



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her, Hey, did you feel your body move during that? It's yours?



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Yeah, I did. I thought just because our eyes were closed,



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and we were standing that I was moving. And I said no. When she



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talked about the future, and what the future could look like,



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Did you lean forward? Or did you lean back? And she said, I let I



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leaned forward to the point that I stumbled a little bit. And I



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was like, Yeah, and when she said, What if things never



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change? She said, I leaned back until I stumbled just a little



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bit. And I said, that was your intuition telling you, you want



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to lean into the future. You want to lean into the future



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business future live, future success. And staying the same



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feels terrible and you're backing away. It's like backing



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away from a hot stove or you go to a bonfire and you have to



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backup because that heats too much, right? It's not for me,



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it's backed up a little bit. When you ask yourself what you



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really want, give yourselves a few minutes to be quiet. To be



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still, I don't mean 1020 3040 minutes you can if you want but



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you don't have to take a few minutes to close your eyes. Take



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a few deep breaths, relax, tell your body to relax. And then ask



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yourself, Do I really want this and you will lean into it when



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it's a yes and you'll pull back when it's if you want more



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